How can you make a man fall in love with you?
By mdehonor
@mdehonor (31)
Philippines
January 23, 2010 8:53pm CST
Just having a big question in my mind. How can I make a man love me in full? Ive been inlove 3x in my life. But they were all failed. My first love, and we were so young then. I thought he's the one already for me but he wasnt able to stand by me till the end. After sometime, a man came again,I married him, I was so nice, understanding and never quarrel him. But then, my marriage still failed. After some years of being separated,another man came and I allowed myself to gamble again..to took risk with this very complicated situation. But then, same as before, I didnt win. No matter how much I showed them my love and care, they still chose to leave me. Tell me, isnt giving too much love is wrong? How can I make a man fall in love me that will be enough not to leave me. Or am I destined to be alone? Loving is so tiring now.
3 responses
@sushie93 (1355)
• France
24 Jan 10
You can do nothing except to be yourself.
Sorry that all your loves have failed but it's like that, it means that these mens wasn't for you.
A day, you will meet the good right man and you'll happy with him.
It's just not your time yet.
Patience is the key! ^^
@fsll518 (304)
• China
24 Jan 10
Hi. I think the key point is to choose the loyal and suitable person, you know what you want, and have to make she he knows what he wants. You should have same pursuit in life, that's a crucial precondition for long-lasting marriage.
Like the proverb says: Don't cast your pearls before swine.
If you want to devote to love, then it is good, but should find the right person first. Maybe it is difficult to find 100% compatible person, but surely you need to find a man who is willing to maintain the marriage with tolerance and positive attitude.
Good luck and wish you the best!
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
24 Jan 10
My dear, I am sorry about what happened with you. But please don't say that you giving them love and care is responsible for driving these men away. I feel so far you have falled for people who have bitter personal history. Me and my boyfriend after researching came to the conclusion that people who do more nightstands, have divorced parents or were brought up in single parent home tend to care more about themselves and less about others. Even studies done by professors conclude that dysfunctional parents' kids have trouble maintaining solid relationships. So diagonize the people you have been with. Ask in your head what their parents were, what kind of lifestyle they had and so on. Soon you will have the answers right in front of you. However, I must say that just coming from broken home does not make a person unstable. Even a kid who has two parents can become like that. But often in this case, it is seen that one of the parents is unfaithful or abusive and the other parent keeps talking about this to the kid, making him fear relationship.
Next time, love with your head. That is, love logically. I know it is hard to do, but this is the only way you will be able to have a relationship based on mutual love.
