Living together or getting marry

@milagre (1272)
Portugal
November 15, 2006 9:30am CST
does it makes any difference? which one is better? and dont tell me "none"....
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8 responses
• Philippines
15 Nov 06
That depends on the culture but for me, I believe that MARRIAGE is something sacred. It means "unionizing" two people. Marriage is not just recoginized by authorities but ir is also a religious belief. It is a covenant. If being practical, many would probably choose living together first before marriage but isn't living together a sin? I would rather die fixing my marriage than die with a grave sin.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
15 Nov 06
Sometimes is not so easy like that! Ill tell you a bit of a true story: a married couple, that knew each other for 25 years, got divorced with a child in the middle. She was left by her husband. She met someone else and is living together with this one, with whom have a child, and cant get marry by the church because her previous relegious marriage. Has she was letf by the previous husband and got divorce because of him, is she in sin???? cant she re-build her life, by living together or marry just by the paper???? is that a sin????
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
16 Nov 06
I did, and its the Bible, but i dont think if it is somebody elses fault, the other half have to live alone and without new love in his live, just because religion says it. No one should be forced to live in "pain" the rest of his live because of another ones sin.
@monx007 (162)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 06
@milagre every religion has a book that will guide their followers how to life this live to answer your question is simple, just read your manual religion book
@Crilli (2890)
• Italy
15 Nov 06
heart - heart
At the moment I haven't this kind of problem because I'm single and very lonely, but in spite of this i think I'd prefer living together. Marriage is a great thing, a good day, a wonderful party, but at the end there isn't a difference, what is important is love between man and woman.
@monx007 (162)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 06
imho, there's still a difference, in merried, both party must have a high commitment with each other. It's different with living together, when comes to commitment thing, it's not as high as merried
@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I dont know if that common law marraige still applies. I know it doesn't in PA. There are benefits to both but I think get married because if you're not and you get into a huge fight and decide to break up then someone has to leave and that leaves the other party with all the bills. If you are married it's not so easy to just leave. You gotta work it out. Is that what your question meant?
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
15 Nov 06
I just wanted to figure it out, was was the big difference in take one step or the other
• Netherlands
16 Nov 06
Well, I think whatever makes you feel good is the best. I for myself lived together with my boyfriend first. The first year was a bit difficult because suddenly your together EVERY day! Then we were engaged for 7 years (wanted to get married, but then got the oppurtunity to buy a house) and then we got married. This month 10 years ago. For us this worked the best. So I say: do what makes you feel great.
• United States
15 Nov 06
What do you mean by 'better?' I think if you are committed to each other, than all marriage is is a piece of paper. BUT, some people feel that by getting married you are showing the world that committment. None of this will make the committment any more serious. I live with my fiancee, but am thinking maybe I don't want to get married. Either way it will be difficult if we ever decide to break up as we have children together.
• United States
15 Nov 06
What do you mean by 'better?' I think if you are committed to each other, than all marriage is is a piece of paper. BUT, some people feel that by getting married you are showing the world that committment. None of this will make the committment any more serious. I live with my fiancee, but am thinking maybe I don't want to get married. Either way it will be difficult if we ever decide to break up as we have children together.
@suzieque (2334)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
I am considering not even getting married at all and live with my boyfriend in the future. I mean the divorce rate is so high and common, that marriage doesn't seem as sacred as it did decades ago. I mean look at Goldy Hawn and Kurt Russel, they've been together for over 20 years, and has 3 children together (2 were from Goldy Hawns previous marriage) and they're not married.
@monx007 (162)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 06
for short term: living together for long term: married you can decide whether you want a short term relationship or long term relationship :D