Do you lend money to your friend?
By duanne
@duanne (3)
China
January 24, 2010 4:03am CST
Recently, my friend asked me to lend some money to her. Actually, i do not want to, as she always forget to pay back. What is worse, she increases the amount of money, from 100 to 1000. But, if i refuse her, she will be angry. After all, we have been friends since senior high school. What should i do to reject her request without hurting our friendship?
5 responses
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
Say something like this: Friend, I hope I can help you but me neither has enough money to give. I'm still jobless and my parents do not give me money.
Hope that helps.
@thugstyle21 (419)
• India
28 Jan 10
I do not think this is going to help.It shows an excuse to your friend.I do say that every time you have to lend money but I must say if one thinks he has that amount to help his/her fellow friend then he must help him/her.After all it is friendship.
@luckymy2008 (260)
• China
24 Jan 10
Of cause you must reject her request immediately, even if it will hurt your relationship, becuase it is not worthy to maintain the friendship by money. I just lend money to my best friends who are sure to pay me back in time.
@myzire72 (1154)
• Singapore
24 Jan 10
When it comes to money, sometimes we got to be firm. Money and friendship are not dependent on each other. I should say they are mutually exclusive. This friend of yours seems to be taking advantage of you, knowing that you treasure your friendship enough and will not reject her requests for loans. To prevent more loans, you should repeatedly (maybe once every few days) ask her to return you the money she borrowed from you. Try to sound desperate, and add that if you are not so hard-up for cash, you would not have chased her. If she is a true friend, she will stop asking you for loans and will return you the money that she owed.
@mariemanuel (86)
• India
24 Jan 10
Friends depend on friends to help them out. However, they sometimes come to depend on one to help them out of all kinds of sticky situations - emotional, financial,etc.
It is very hard to tell them something mainly because you are scared to lose the friendship. However, once you summon your inner strength and tell them what is on your mind and they do not understand that means they are using your friendship. Sometimes a friend gets angry (only because they are hurt) but later they return mollified and actually a bit guilty.
