I'm Not Talking To Her

Nope! I don't have time to be that petty. I may not talk to someone for a period of time so that I may calm down if I'm annoyed, but not becuse I've proclaimed that I will not talk to them. If I am really feeling upset and the person I'm upset wants to press the issue I'll say "let's talk about this later, when we've both calmed down!"

I must admit that I've done that at times in my life and even now, I struggle with it. As I've gotten older, I've realized that life is too short to cut off those relationships that you really want and you always have to weigh what has upset you so much against how you would feel if something happened to that person and you were never able to speak with them again how you would feel about that. In that light most things are really not that serious. For me, if I become so upset with someone that I don't want to talk to them and the feeling is still there when I've examined my feelings it is because they have done something so egregious to our friendship that I've realized that they really aren't friends after all.

I have done in the past but it has to be severe before I go to that extend But I used to hear my Daughter and her Friends saying that to lol, never with my Boy though, Boys are easier lol

I don't talk to most of my relatives, not because of any upset, but because we have very little in common. And in the case of my older sister, she never liked me anyway...

Oh dear, this reminds me of what my daughter has started saying. (Sorry all of my anecdotes seem to be daughter-related at the moment, lol!) When I tell her off she's started telling me "If you tell me off then I'm not talking to you ever again!!!" Of course she doesn't ever stick to it, as not talking is something that's very difficult for her . I remember as a teenager not talking to my parents when I was annoyed with them. I was very stubborn and could keep it going for quite a while, but these days I try to keep communication open when I've fallen out with someone. It's hard sometimes, but makes things easier in the long run. (Not that I fall out with people much..)

I don't talk to my partner whenever I am upset of what he did. This is not because I want to ignore him or make him feel bad. I just don't want to further aggravate the awkwardness of our situation. I am waiting for myself to cool and calm down. After that, I can start talking to him once again without the tone of animosity anymore.:-)

Not very often. I think I've done that twice but the people concerned had upset me quite a number of times. When I worked as a midday supervisor at school the girls were always saying they were't talking to one girl or another, sometimes for no reason at all. This upset most girls on the receiving end. Although my youngest was told by a girl that she wasn't talking to her and got the reply, 'that's ok, I won't have to answer you'. Needless to say, it wasn't tried again.

I try but it never works out that way. If it's an acquaintance who offends me I'll probably stop talking to them completely but if it's someone close, well, there's really no point to the silent treatment I feel. It's a bit childish. If I'm angry, I might stay silent till I've calmed down but that's it.

Yes, when I am upset I do not talk to the culprit. I avoid person who causes me to be upset. But I am willing to forgive them but of course I can't forget what they had done to me. I just don't want to talk to them for the meantime. When I'm already okay and seeing them does not irritate me I think I can talk to them again. Even my friends are like that. We avoid each other when we have misunderstanding.

That's a very juvenile reaction, although I have done it myself--when my marriage broke up I didn't talk to my ex except when I absolutely had to and preferred email. That was childish but better than losing my temper or crying. Normally, if I have an issue with someone I will confront them with it and try to work it out. If we disagree I'll still be polite.

Oh yeah! A co-worker got in my face and thought she was really letting me have it. She made this thing personal, insulting me and mine. I went to our surpervisor and told her plain and simple, she apologizes or I no long sit in the same office with her. I won't enter until she leaves, nor will I speak with her. This women became a lump of flesh sitting in my chair and no longer existed for me. (She truly was a nasty women and said some very nasty things. I don't have to tolerate this behavior.) She didn't like being treated like she didn't exit. I didn't speak or look at her for over 6 months. I heard from other people that she felt bad for what she did. Didn't matter. She was a very untrustworthy person. After the 6 months I did start slowly saying things that only had to do with work. I believe I delivered my message loud and clear.

nahhh lifes to short although i am much more likely to tell the person outright exactly what i thing and bugger their feelings! I used to be very cautious about what i did and how i said things because people sometimes took things the wrong way but luckily my illness seems to have filtered all the shite people from my life and left me with those who are genuine and lifes soooo much easier and less stressful. Like your daughter i did have many of those moments where supposed friends would decide they weren't my friend this week and i'd have no idea what i'd done. Ususally involved a boy, jelousy or something equally as petty. As you grow older i think you learn to leave them to it and simply not to care about pettyness lol just to let it go over your head.

I have also heard grown ups saying the same and this makes me laugh.My two oldest daughters were always saying that she is not talking to one of her friends as well as one of her friends is not talking to her as well.I used to think that the daughters were funny as the next time they were talking to that friend again.I do think it is the same for some adults as well as for the children.

Of course. When i was young I was never controling my emotion.. I am an adult now, but I still not good at controling my feeling..

Hi p1kef1sh, This is not common question but the behavior is very common specially in women or i mean to say female. it depends upon the mood of a person that before talking to anyone form which stage he/she has passed like he/she got fight or his/her relatives etc told something bad etc etc. I also use to behave like a kid but after few days we both would realize that ok its a childish stuffs to keep silent although we cant.

When I was a teenager I used to be caught saying that all the time. My friends and I would always get in fights and not talk to each other. I was especially likely to be heard saying that. I would get mad and refused to talk to the ones that bothered me. I rarely dont talk to anyone anymore. I usually try to talk to them and work things out but sometimes if I get mad enough I do just stop talking to someone for awhile. It prevents a huge war from happening that way we can both calm down and come to terms with things and stop fighting before saying anything that either one of us might regret.

Well now, there's not talking and there's not talking... I clam up when I'm feeling threatened, not comfortable, etc. But I don't give a person the silent treatment. I just find it hard to talk. It's the difference between a defense mechanism and using silence aggressively, methinks.

There are a couple of people I'd prefer not to speak to but, being a compulsive talker, I've never managed to carry it off. There is someone who I never contact since she spoke against my son, luckily, she moved away and we are now on strictly Christmas card only terms (& only because we like her husband)

I do that sometimes because for me itwould be better if i just keep quite and not talk to avoid further damage. But it will only be for a while after sometime i will talk to that person again. I will discuss whatever it was that cause our fall out and try to work things out.

Hey p1key! Yes, I hate to admit this, but I do sometimes have a falling out with some of my friends and not talk to them for awhile! I have had two of my girlfriends that I didn't talk to for about two years each! I have just recently started to talk to both of them again! I do find it hard to be angry at someone for too long and not forgive them! But, I am really stubborn too and if someone does do something that angers me it just might take me a long enough time to forgive them! And I won't be the one to apologize either, especially when I've been wronged!