strange relationship off my life?
By dikonoha
@dikonoha (122)
Indonesia
January 24, 2010 9:09pm CST
dear mylotter, it's just story off my life recently I meet a girl than we decide to get our relation as a lover how ever after two month I finally knew that that she have a husband and I decide to brook up with her because I don't want to disturb her family life, but she don't want to brook up with me and she said no matter it's take she want to love and be love with me. dear folk please give your advice what I have to do, and how?. and if you at my position what would you do?.
3 responses
@wisdomt (99)
• United States
25 Jan 10
The old rule of thumb here is to follow your heart. If you love her and she loves you sometimes you just have to fore go all the obstacles, but if her being married really does bother you then maybe you should back off. Also did you know that she was married when you got together and how long did it take for her to tell you? Did she tell you or did you find out another way? If she didn't tell you from the beginning to me that would be a relationship that was doomed from the beginning.
@dhysanne (449)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Leaving someone you love is the hardest thing to do. But If you think this the best thing to do, then go. Tell her that you don't want to ruin their life as a family. And I think you can still find someone you deserve to be loved. It's not really good to love someone who is already married. If you will continue your relationship with her, I don't think you will be happy and fulfilled.
Just do what is right and make her understand that.
@dhysanne (449)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Did her husband know about this? Lucky for you if her husband don't care for her anymore. Just be nice and take care of her. But don't forget that she's still married. If you love each other, find time to talk with her husband to settle down things. I know it's not that easy, just pray for guidance so both of you will be enlighten.
@dikonoha (122)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 10
I already try that but how hard I I try she always that she love me and don't want to lose me, so I became don't know what I have to say anymore, and just make me sad day after day, oh god what the matter with me. and I just can't leave her because she already my house and my parent too, and it's just make more dificult for me, and now I just pray to god to make this end.
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
if she really loves you she'll end her marriage with her husband.
period.
that's the best thing for the both of you.
it won't change the fact that you both hurt a person already but if she wants to be with you without further problems ask her this.
if she is willing to leave the husband and then love prevails.
be honest with her. why she doesn't love the husband? why she loves you?
is she willing to leave the other and be with you?
love hurts it does all the time. its a matter of what you will give to take the hurt away or live with the hurt all your life.
