Do you always obey your parents?

I obey my parents - The picture shows a young girl with her parents. It seems to be the blessings of her parents that brought her to such position in her life.
India
January 25, 2010 7:53am CST
You will ask me that what kind of question I am asking. But I am damp serious. Should we always obey our parents. I will say in most of the cases we should. Because the parents are those gift without which we have no identity. The parents are the only one who will never put us in wrong way. So we should always obey our parents. Now imagine if you are young enough to take your decisions own. Then will you still obey them. I will say why not. But when it comes to some decision making where you have do something for your career and for your parents then you should do your own. However the suggestions from parents should be welcomed in that case as well.
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@yasuy19 (12)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I do agree with you..I think that is the right thing to do because I myself obey what my parents have always told me. If not for them, I wouldn't be who I am right now. I am now a registered nurse and I really am proud of my parents. I love them so much ^_^.
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@avimra (456)
• India
26 Jan 10
I am obeying my parents,but not always. I know that they are telling for my good only, but its not possible for me to obey everytime.! I came to the age of taking decisions. My perception and their perception will differ. If I feel they are right, I will obey them. Else, I will tell them that what I am gonna do.
@singuri (571)
• India
26 Jan 10
Yes I always obey my parents.Some times I don't want to obey their orders.But I don't want to hurt them.So I do what they say to me.I don't think I am doing something wrong.I live far away from my parents.I just want them to be happy and don't want give pain to them by disobeying them.They will feel bad I don't obey them.After all they will tell it for my good.
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@elieella (106)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Sometimes I obey my parents but lots of times I don't. And I always felt guilty after that, heheh... But I love my parents so much specially my mother. ^o^
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I cannot say that I obeyed my parents 100% because there are things that I tried to follow my instinct. But I agree that parents knows what's best. When I need to make some tough decisions, I make sure that I consulted them and asked their advice. Then I balance the facts, but they always give the privilege to decide since I am old enough.
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@tinazhou (12)
• China
26 Jan 10
yeah,sometimes we have to admit that parents' advices mostly are helpful and right,and some of adices we didn't take will be proved to be the right one till the end,of course,there are some advices are not the perfect way for us to choose which are the best one from parents' standpoint. luckily,my parents just like my friends,they will provide their opinions about my life,but they don't forcr me to accept their decision,they always said,it's your life ,you make the dicision on your own,we just will point out the good side and the bad side by using their experience,just like the consultant. we can talk,discuss about everything ,'cause l trust them ,maybe mostly my takeing their advices seems like obeying my parents,but who knows? the matter thing is we live our own life,we are on our own to live a happy life. how do you think about it ?
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
i am 36 years old already and i have the right to decide already for myself. when i was younger i obey them always specially my mother. but there was a point in my past were my mother and my father insisted me to marry someone who i dont like. she was very close to our family but i dont like her. i dont like to marry her. i have a gf back then and that made them very angry. a few of our relatives got angry with me too. i am married already for 7 years and we have a son who is four years old and his picture appears as my avatar. some of my relatives still does not like my wife and i know my dad too. but i dont care... for me i know i made the right decision.
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@jilshi (271)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 10
I seriously obey my parent when i were young. i will follow whatever their instruction because i was a good girl. but not now when i grew adult. i got my own opinion and own choice and i got my own freedom to do according to my decision. but i do hope in future my children are obidient.
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• American Samoa
25 Jan 10
well of course! im obeying them, im just returning the favor or my debt in their gratitude. and for me?, obeying them only is not worthy to pay the sacrifice they've made or the things that they have done for me since i was young :) well, there are times that we feel like they're too strict, nah.. that's normal, that's their care and love for us :D have a nice day!
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@megamatt (14291)
• United States
25 Jan 10
Well, I am at the age where I do not have to obey my parents. When I was younger, I obeyed my parents. Most of the time, in a round about way I obeyed them. They did know what was best for me, a lot of the time. However, I tended to exploit loop hole in what they said. I was not technically disobeying what they said, just rather working around it. I did learn the hard way that parents do not like being outsmarted by their children, especially when they are young. I will always hear their advice at any age however. They do have experience and there is something useful to be gained from it.
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• India
25 Jan 10
Hello sanjeev, it is necessary to obey our parents but it is impossible to obey them all the times because there is a generation gape between them and us (when we are adult), I love my parents more than anyone else in this whole world and respect them after god, you can say I worship them, and most of the time I try to obey them but they are also human beings, although they never want to put me in wrong way they always think good for me but after all sometimes I have to disobey them, because I have my own ideas, thoughts and plannings, but I never want to give them pain of any kind and I totally agree with you we should obey our parents (Most of the time).
@bianca89 (129)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
yes, Im obeying my parents all the times :) Sometimes they tend to make decisions for me..Like in my studies..They do not want the course that I took..But they can't do anything..I'm already enrolled. =))
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• Philippines
25 Jan 10
I have to be honest with this. I actually consider myself as stubborn, hardheaded since I was young. I am the only child of my parents and that I grew up as an spoiled brat. My parents do love me so much to the point of giving almost everything I want to have. Now that i am already mature enough to think, I always follow my decision. I cannot even remember when was the last time I obeyed my father. But I am glad to say that my father is very supportive and understanding. He always give me the chance to decide for myself.
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@AbyssalV (35)
25 Jan 10
I don't listen to them all the time, but i don't disobey them when they ask something important... i think respect is a key thing for your parents, but sometimes they take it to far and you should make your own choices
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• Quezon, Philippines
26 Jan 10
We should always obey our parents, especially when what they say is for our own good. But then again, if what they want will endanger us or other people then it is a different situation. Its always in the intention.
• India
26 Jan 10
ya ethan, you are right we should always obey our parents because give a birth to live happy in this world. so i would be happy with whatever decision is taking by my parents for me.
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Sometimes I follow them but their are times i disobey them and that is for small petty things which is not a lot of troubles on my part then after then i get reconcile both to them. Their are naughty sides on me as i really like to test their patience so they end up either mad at me or we both laugh at my own mischief. I think the only things which i disobey them up t now is that they could not force me or rather be influence by them when it comes to the matter of the hearts as I am very hard headed and i like to do things in my way. As long as i feel happy at myself their is no denial then or pretension required i really like to have a good partner whom I could trust and have respect , and have good conversation on many things which have little contradiction. So far if parents, sibling or other people pressure me to do something I am against with and all i could say is for them to feel sorry since i would not likely agree with their plan and I rather be alone and decide for my own happiness since at the end it is myself who are important than the happiness of other people.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
For me yes I'm the very good daughter i ever had.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I am a good daughter. :-) I always obey them, as a form of respect. It's a turnoff for me to see someone yell at his/her own parents. There are instances though, when my parents are the ones who are wrong. Since I have a strong sense of what's right from wrong, I just do which is right, even when other people tell me to do otherwise. Another thing that I won't obey is my mom's dreams for me. She keeps on insisting that I take medicine for college because it pays really well, but it is something that I really don't wanna pursue.
• China
26 Jan 10
Maybe the only thing I didn`t obey my parents was married with a man who my parents did not like at first, because he seemed not good looking and from a wealthy family. But consideration and sincerity coming from him attracted me deeply,and I do not repent even now. So far my husband has received the recognition from my parents through his own endeavor. My marriage has got my parents` blessing.
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
It's really depressing when your parents don't like your partner, just because he's not rich or good-looking. They, of all people, should be the ones who should be happy for you, that you've already found your true love. I am happy that they finally accepted him. :D
• United States
26 Jan 10
I have always obeyed my parents growing up. I am 19 now and most of the time I still do obey them, but there are times when I just can't. I have my own opinions on things and can make my own decisions for myself. I am my own person and that is fine with my mom.