Dating sites
By ravinskye
@ravinskye (8237)
United States
January 25, 2010 3:00pm CST
Is eharmony as good of a dating site as they claim to be? My friend is 29 and still single. She is freaking out about finding someone. She wants to settle down but she can't seem to find a decent guy. She has some trust issues and over thinks things too but that is as a result of her fiance/highschool sweetheart cheating on her and constantly making her feel like she wasn't attractive. She is on some of the free dating sites, but they aren't working out well for her. The guys she meets aren't great matches for her. I was hoping maybe if she tried eharmony it would help her find what she wants.
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4 responses
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
25 Jan 10
Hekko rav,
I tried e-harmony last year along with several other sites. I personally didn't like the e-harmony site at all. Other sites let you browse through profiles written by the poster of course, most have pics (maybe not updated) e-harmony didn't have that it was very inpersonnal to me and it took forever to get going I never actually made it on a date with anyone from that site. Most males didn't have pics in there profiles and I didn't feel with anyone that I corresponded with, that I wanted to take it to the next level. Some people though just thought it was the best ever. Not for me.
The main thing in your discussion that caught my eye was that your friend has trust issues. That to me says that she isn't ready to date, getting into a relationship requires trust. I to have been cheated on, however I don't have trust issues. Men/women are not all the same. I would advise your friend to first get over the past relationship before moving on to the next one.
Since I'm sure that I don't have all the facts, I may be making assumptions but that is what I got out of your discussion. Just my two cents worth.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
25 Jan 10
Thanks. No, you are right. I've been trying to get through to her that not all guys are the same. As soon as something seems a little off or they don't respond right away she freaks out and dismisses them as being the right one.
@beaniefanatic13 (5076)
• Grand Junction, Colorado
25 Jan 10
I wish your friend much luck, it was very frustrating for me. Most people aren't even honest enough with themselves to put up current pictures on those dating sites, so it can make someone with trust issues very leary and question everything.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
26 Jan 10
Hi Ravin, I agree with beanie that your friend does have trust issue. But worse than that is the fact that she has self-fulling prophecy and above all, very negative viewpoints towards relationships. So, the first thing she must do is stop dating for the time being. She must decide exactly who she wants and what kind of relationship she needs. She then has to make an affirmation that she deserves the best and will never settle for less. This will make her stronger while looking for mates. At the moment, she lacks self esteem and it is not gonna go away by meeting men now.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Jan 10
My new instructor just told us last night that she recently married a man from a dating site. There are a lot of people that say they are great for potential partners. I think it's like anything else..hit and miss. I don't really think the dating site itself really matters. I have heard they do some kind of "match up" quizz for their members to narrow down their search.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
25 Jan 10
29? it is great age to be single and enjoy life. If she rather take time for traveling, I am sure she would find someone. Many people I know met soul mates during the time they took for vacations.
Dating sites are successful only in small percentage.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Jan 10
Their approach seems to be pretty logical. Of course, what's really logical about love. If she's interested, have her check online, they have a lot of promos, so she could probably try it out at a discount.
