Your Friend's Ex Askes You Out...How Would You Feel?

I would do just what you did! I would give it plenty of thought before I moved. I would have mixed feelings. If she is a good friend now and you met her through him then that should enter into your decision as well. Did you have real feelings for him before this? How important were those feelings?

It's a moot point for me since I am married. if my friend's ex asked me out NOW, I'd want to know what the hell he was thinking, hitting on a married woman. However, if I was single, and my friend and her ex ended it on good terms, and were still friends, I might not mind. However, if they parted ways as enemies, I woudln't think of it, not just out of loyalty to my friend, but because he may not be the kind of person I'd want to go out with.

Now that can be a touchy situation and comes to who left who and is she still friends with him? I think it would be best to talk to her about it and see what this person thinks. I mean she could tell you to have a go at him...never know. Why miss out on something that might be good for you..? Just talk to her though to make sure you not stepping on any toes..and if so.. I guess you will have to choose..the friendships you have..or the maybe love of your life.

If my friend's ex asked me out I would turn him down. I mean he dated my friend and iif she was a good friend i would know why they broke up, which may not be all that great. I think it would breach the loyalty and trust of friendship to date a friend's ex no matter how recent.

Hi singlemommy, i would just laugh it off and take it like a pinch of salt, it would never be a good idea anyway to go out with your friend's ex. I would never go out with my friend's ex as I couldn't stand him in the first place, he was very nasty to my friend. Tamara

Woah that is a bit weird.The ex must be trying to get your friend jealous by going out with you.It's what guys do because it's way for them to get revenge.Boys will be boys,still that would feel very awkward to be asked out by your friends ex.I personally wouldn't do it because that is a friend rule never go out with your friends ex because it will hurt them on the inside.Even if they say that they don't mind it, they actually do because you know it's someone that they got close to over the time that they were dating.That's nice of you to turn him down that means that you care more for your friend and that you don't want to hurt her.I congratulate you on being a good friend,yeah!!!!!

It would make me feel uncomfortable because I do not want to hurt my friend. It would very much depend on a couple of things; how much in love are you with this person and why have they broken up? Was he treating her bad or the other way around or perhaps there just wasn't a good match? Are they still friends? If I were to hook up with this guy I would only do so if I thought something serious was possible.

i would feel the same way....i have had a couple of friends do that to me...it doesn't feel right knowing your friend is with the same person you were with.... so i too would have turned him down because of his ex being your friend.

Hi, singlemommy. I would feel very uncomfortable dating someone that my friend once used to date. If your friend and this guy was intimate, then it will look kind of ill to be with him. Especially if they were intimate, if you know what I mean. I would not date him at all. I would feel very uncomfortable. His eyes are now on you and not your friend anymore. If he likes you now, nines out of ten he could have been attracted to you when he was dating your friend. Think about that...

i have never had this experience. BUt I guess at some point i would be really flattered. And well, it really depends on you and how you think your friend would react to it. I think the best thing to do is to tell your friend about it, and tell her that you seem uncomfortable with it but if you really are interested in this person, why should your friend's decision matter? They were ex for a reason. except maybe when they just recently broke up. As in just days after breakup. Rebound relationships can be a real challenge. Just think about it If your friend has moved on, I don't see any reason why she should stop you. And aside from that, she must learn to be open-minded about it. Again, it depends on the situation.

I think you did the right thing.

I will turn him down too.

Dating a friend's EX is okey so long that you will be open about it to your friend. If she has a bitter relationship with him or if both agreed for separation on a mutual ground; are they still friends or whatever makes a good point for learning. Anyway, if I am in your shoes, if I do not like the guy, why bother even thinking about it. But if you care, then go for it but just be honest with your friend and ask her if that would go okey with her. HOnesty is still the best policy!

So long as they no longer together, for me there is nothing wrong. Going out with that person is just fine. What they had before is over.

if i am friends with the woman who has an ex and he asks me out no, i wouldnt go out with him. it would be awkward for me and i wouldn't feel right. i know that if the tables were turned they would do it to me..

Well the fist thing I would have to ask is how long have they been separated? I don't think she should have a problem with you dating him if they have not been together for a long time or whatever. I think it would be another story if they had only been separated for a couple of months, but if it has been several months or a year or more, then I don't see where it would be a problem. The best thing you can do if you are interested in dating this person is to go to her and tell her that he asked you out, and ask her how she would feel about you going out with this guy. I certainly would not do it behind her back though, even if they have been separated for a while. Just talk to her first and tell her that he asked you out and find out how she feels about it. As long as she is OK with it, then I say to go for it if you are interested...

The situation happened to me in reverse; my ex boyfriend phoned me up and asked me how I would feel about him asking my room mate out who also happened to me my best friend…I say I didn’t mind because I had a new boyfriend by this stage but I admit it felt a little weird especially when we socialised together! They ended up splitting up and awful as this sounds, part of me was a little relieved because the situation definitely felt strange. I don’t think I would go out with a friend’s ex...Too weird!

That has actually happen to me, except it was my ex that asked my friend out! When she told me that he had asked I just thought it was funny. Thank god we have never had the same taste in men and have never been after the same guy. She told him she couldnt believe he was asking her and that she would never because I was her friend and that was just wrong. WHat a friend huh. I would do the same for any of my friends as well just because I know I wouldn't like it if they did it to me it would just be uncomfortable and in this case I wouldn't have been able to hang out with them just for the little fact that the relationship ended extremely bad and charges were put against him for what he had done to me. So even if my friend did date him it would have been very stupid on her part cuz she knew what he had done to me.

It might make me uncomfortable but more so if I had known them as a couple. I think that if it was my close friend's ex..no way I would go out with him. I might ask her how she feels about it if you are feeling strange about going out with him. She might even let you in on a thing or two that might help you out. Then again she may try to sabatoge it. Just go with your gut feeling.

I'd feel the way you do. You obviously think it would bother her, and I think it would too. Truly good friends are hard to come by and I wouldn't jeopardize that for anything. Let's not even factor in the unsuccessful attempt you made to get with him before. Why do you suppose he has asked you out anyway? He knows you are good friends with his ex. Seems to me that he wants to hurt her and is using you to do it. I wouldn't just be uncomfortable...I'd be furious. Regardless of what he tells you, he's playing a game. Tell him you don't play games and you don't hurt the people you care about. She is your friend. He doesn't respect that, and for that reason, you can have any respect for him. Do I get an Amen!