What would you do if you caught your husband with another girl?

i would do exactly the same thing you did that day, catch him red handed... make sure to let him know you know and not make a scene. and he better not come home or he'll get more than a scene. aside from neglect, one thing i could not tolerate in a relationship is the cheating. because those two are choices a person makes. take note, no one forces a person to cheat in a relationship. people wanted to, that's why they do it. i also think confrontation in public won't do you good. two against one is a losing battle even if you are the wronged one. because frankly, you wouldn't know whose side your husband would take on. cheating once is one matter that is already hard to swallow (for me). doing it again is something that would take a long time forgiving. so what's your status now? what happened after that incident?

I seriously think you handled it very well, You held your composer and did not make a seen. If it was me, I think I would have spouted off something and then turned and walked out. Most people go after the girl, but it takes two. He is as guilty as she is, if not more.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this kind of thing, Syd. That was an awful experience and something that even I couldn't stomach, should I see my own partner with someone else. And to think about the fact that he lied to you just moments before that, saying that his battery was flat. So that means this lady that is with him know that he's married..and is still doing that to you, from a lady to another lady, whom is you. This kind of situation has happened to men too, and no matter what, infidelity truly hurts and it can never be easy. The problem is, people whom are cheating their spouses and the person whom solicits with them are nonchalant about it, and that's what makes it disappointing. Be patient, Syd. I don't know whether this lady knows or not about your husband's situation with you. If he's not worth it, it's really not worth to hold on to. No matter how many times you try to work out, if he's still like that, then there's no point. Unless he chooses to totally be faithful and truthful to you, and can prove it. Take care, Syd.

..Hi.. I do salute you for what you did.. For me, I would do the same.. There's no use of making some fuss in the train.. I will just be embarassing myself and waste my energy if I will shout at him.. It is enough for me to show my husband that I caught him with his girl if I'm in your situation.. I would just go home and wait for him at home then confront him.. Then I will tell him that it's over.. I've given him second chance and he didn't do well.. the tendency is, he will do it over and over again.. and I don't want to suffer the same pain.. I'd rather focus my attention to my children if I have and move on with my life..

if he do cheated..i wont do embarassed him in the public. Instead i'll talk to him and ask him if he do still love me...if his reason was he got tempted with the girl or it's just due to temptation that he couldn't resist..then i would advice him to take care of the wedding vows we promised on the altar..and that he would stop meeting the girl and avoid having relationship with another girl.

hi there! You are wise enough to caught him red handed and i admire you for having the strength to control your emotions when you caught them.If i were in that situation, i will never say a word, but i will also make sure that they will see me by directly walking in front of them and i want to slap my husbands face.That's it...and about the girl, i'll just ignore her. Well, that's just what im thinking right now as i have read your story, but of course i still dont know what im gonna do when it comes.But for sure, i really cannot say a word, because i maybe bursting in tears at that moment. Your husband was a good actor, when you caught him cheating, he's sorry and tried to console and comfort you by being extra sweet and making promises.But after he gain your trust, there he goes again, cheating on you.Don't you feel tired on his cheating? When we got married to the person we love we had a hope that both of you will live happily ever after, but sad to say it only happens in fairytales.In reality, life is full of uncertainties and unexpected things and situations. No matter how hard we try, we cannot control some situations.In your case,if i were you, i would set him free, so both of you can have space and time to think clearly.If he realized that you are still the person he loved and he wants to live life with you,then he will come back for sure.But if he really find that the other girl can make him satisfied,then you must accept the fact that you were never really meant for each other.I know it's hard for you to accept that, but come to think of it, would you still want to live with him, while deep in your heart you knew he's cheating on you, you will never have peace of mind in a situation like that.I rather set him free and focus my attention to my children. You better decide carefully and wisely for your own good and if you have children.

Hi, SydneyHazelton. You did the right thing. I would not make a fuss, I would just simply tell him. "I caught you, and your divorce papers will be on its way." I would then turn to the woman and say, "how do you like having my leftovers." And then I would leave them both, to think about what I have just said to them.

My vision is that compromises are ruinous if they work against your aims and dreams in the long term. I personally think that when cheating occurs, this happens because of both members of that couple's guilt. However, the most important aspect is that your child personality and social behaviour is influenced by the environmental and habitual aspects of your home. Domestic quarells/fights/etc shape the proper conceptual climate for your child's ideas, visions, images, perceptions to suffer important mutations. In this context I think is less important if you shouted and kicked a bug fuss to embarrass him in public (an almost natural social behaviour especially if you take into consideration that marriage itself is nothing but a social agreement) but the effects of your marriage's dissruptions on your kid.

wow. that's really tough. sometimes I do think about what I would do should I catch my husband cheating. In the movies you see the woman screaming and confronting the mistress, etc. That would have been dramatic and the mistress would be embarassed. but then again is all that drama necessary? I guess it would depend on how the person really is, but for me, I will probably do what you did. I salute your strength and I do hope you are okay.

I would do nothing and just divorce him. there is already no need to fight or have argument for it because of this behaviour. i know it's not easy to do, but sometimes it's the cruel side we should face in our life. so as a woman we should know how to protect ourselves. we still trust marriage and love,but we do need to be brave enough to face the things like that. i feel sorry for you. I have not found this affair of my husband, but he did another thing that is not tolerable. so i do understand your feelings. do some nice to yourself and be happier in your life just for yourself.

Wow, that is so messed up. Well, in the first moment, I would have never taken him back, because it would be hard for me to even trust him any more. Even if he promised to change and even with him showing it. Because I would just be too hurt, and I couldn't trust him any more. If I were to go back with him (and it was highly likely that I would not go back with him), and he was still haging out with the girl when I caught him in the train. I would not cause a scene, I would not leave the train, but yes I would make sure that he saw me and a very angry face. I'd try to make it home before him, change the locks and throw all his stuff outside and not let him back in. I would have thought to myself, I knew I shouldn't have gone with him and believed him when he said that he would change and it would make me wonder during all that time he was supposedly changing, was he really changing, or while he was putting on a show about him changing was he still hanging out with that girl. I'd let him know that I was really hurt and that I would want nothing more to do with him and that I would be filing for divorce immediately. I hope though that you make a decision that is best for you and what I always tell people is to go with your heart and listen to what it is telling you. If your heart is telling you to give him another chance, then you should, but if it is telling you that it is time to let him go, then let him go. There's no point in staying in a relationship that you are not happy or where you can't trust the person that you are with.

If I were on that situation, I will just leave them together and when he come home I will talk to him and let him decide whether to stay or to go with that girl. And let the story ends.

First off, I'm sorry to hear about his infidelity and you're strong for doing what you did because I would have done the exact same thing. Sometimes the strongest impression isn't through words and actions, but simply through a look and a walk-a-way. You did right because if you cause a scene in the train, you're just publicizing your husband's unfaithfulness to the curious audiences on that train. When you embarrass him, you end up embarrassing yourself because you let a man like that get to you. I know it hurts and you might feel like slapping the both of them in their faces, but holding in your anger and walking away and waiting for another train emphasizes your maturity. I just hope you have learn that once a cheater, will always be a cheater, especially if you're the one he's been cheating on.

Hi Sydney, I trusts my husband so much I can't imagine to see him with other woman. If I were in your situation, I would stay in the same train, confront him after we got off the train, and in a calm tone, would ask for a divorce. To me, the trust that I've had for him all these years would be somehow gone. Wouldn't give any second chance. Hope you are ok now.

to be honest, i cannot imagine what i will do. but i am sure that i will not make a fuss in public. i am just thankful that my husband is very open to me and i just trust him very much.

I think you did right by letting him know he was caught red handed. Now the trick part of your story is you didn't mention him running after you. Now, if he stayed on the train with that other lady than that is where he needs to be. Really nothing to talk about. The choice was made then. He he did come running behind you pleating, and begging. He is still wrong. Because he put her before you and your feelings and you are wify...Either or i would leave him.

I will do the same as what you did.But the decision is for you to make whether your going to forgive him or not.It happened to me on my first marriage.I forgive him knowing that their relationship was not serious as he said.I thought nothing happened between them intimately.But i found it out and saw it in my owm eyes.Its hard when theres a third party involve.I decided not to forgive him and move on with my life having our daughter as my strenght to carry the pain and of course i always keep my faith no matter what happened.Luckily, i met the best man i ever known.Now i am happily married with him and he loves my daughter as his own.Things happen for a reason.Be strong and think many times before you decide.Good luck!

Hi Sydney, haven't talked to you for some time. Going to offer a guy's point of view (as in if I caught my girlfirend cheating on me on the mrt.) Seriously, I don't know what I would do. Logically, I feel that confronting her in the heat of the moment is a bad idea and will likely lead to a lot of yelling, to put things mildy, and I would likely have made the same choice as you. Emotionally, I'm not sure if I can handle walking away just like that. In the heat of the moment, I think it's just as likely that I would have confronted her. All in all, I think you handled the situation quite well.

I think what you did is the right thing to do. You shouldn't be shouting or kicking them off inside the train .You should talk to your husband when he gets home. if you had confronted them at the train, you are also going to put yourself in shame. You are a woman with dignity. Don't let them ruin your poise. Stand up with your chin firm and up. You already gave him a chance. third chances are stupidity.

my hubby and i split up last year... he ended up sleeping with this girl and never told me... that is until she came up pregnant... n e ways... so for the last nine months we have been going thru hell with this girl... she doesnt want the hubby to have n e kind of rights... and she keeps telling him that she would be more apt to let him in the babys life if he just signed off... well he and i have a 5 year old little girl that we have to take care of and we live paycheck to paycheck... so he is thinking seriously abbout doing it... then i realized that the dates of her pregnancy dont really add up to it being my hubbys... so i told him... then he started asking around... come to find out she was still screwing around with some guy from another town... n e ways... if i were you and there arent n e kids involved i would drop him like a bad habit... but if there are kids involved then i would do what uyou think is best for the children...