I am Single for the First Time in 10 Years
@shutupandbuyit (221)
United States
January 26, 2010 5:45am CST
I am Single now for the first time in almost 10 years.
I have made a clean break, and have moved on and not let myself rekindle the past relationship in any way for almost a year now. I think I have about gotten over the hurdle of my loss in this relationship.
My question I suppose is more to the women out there than the men. But I will listen to any advice with an open mind.
I haven't dated in quite a number of years. And I am somewhat unsure what might be the best way to start meeting women, keeping in mind I want to get to know someone before it goes anywhere to serious or quickly. I am really just looking for general opinions, and they all are appreciated.
Thanx so much...Blake
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@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
hi! i may not be the best person to ask about dating... hehe but i'd give it a fair shot being a woman. 
i have no idea what happened in your previous relationship, but whatever it was i'm glad you're moving on and opening yourself up with the idea of dating again. do you have a specific woman in mind that you want to ask for a date or you are starting from scratch?
i would suggest before you start dating, try to hang-out with friends first (this will be some sort of a practice for you in socializing)... reconnect with old ones and be open meeting new ones. you can let your friends know you are back in the dating arena again. that known, they'll have you in mind when they meet single ladies who are also interested in dating.
be more friendly and smile more. you would be able to meet new people more often if you smile more often.
do more of the hobbies that interest you. that will be safe topics to talk about. if you are into sports or book or art or food or whatever... you are bound to meet people sharing the same interests and one thing may lead to another. join clubs, groups, attend parties, be a volunteer... simply said... go out and meet people. be observant and pay attention to people and details. that would come handy when you date.
if you are fond of travel, please do so. see new places, new sights, and hopefully make new acquaintances.
some guys are doing social networks online to meet more ladies and vice versa... that's an option... if you are into that kind of thing.
but while you are contemplating with your dating options... take this time to enjoy yourself, doing the things you love, loving yourself a bit more so you'd be ready to once again love others and be able to share yourself to them.
the best of luck blake!
i have no idea what happened in your previous relationship, but whatever it was i'm glad you're moving on and opening yourself up with the idea of dating again. do you have a specific woman in mind that you want to ask for a date or you are starting from scratch?
i would suggest before you start dating, try to hang-out with friends first (this will be some sort of a practice for you in socializing)... reconnect with old ones and be open meeting new ones. you can let your friends know you are back in the dating arena again. that known, they'll have you in mind when they meet single ladies who are also interested in dating.
be more friendly and smile more. you would be able to meet new people more often if you smile more often.
do more of the hobbies that interest you. that will be safe topics to talk about. if you are into sports or book or art or food or whatever... you are bound to meet people sharing the same interests and one thing may lead to another. join clubs, groups, attend parties, be a volunteer... simply said... go out and meet people. be observant and pay attention to people and details. that would come handy when you date.
if you are fond of travel, please do so. see new places, new sights, and hopefully make new acquaintances.
some guys are doing social networks online to meet more ladies and vice versa... that's an option... if you are into that kind of thing.
but while you are contemplating with your dating options... take this time to enjoy yourself, doing the things you love, loving yourself a bit more so you'd be ready to once again love others and be able to share yourself to them.
the best of luck blake! 1 person likes this
@shutupandbuyit (221)
• United States
26 Jan 10
Thank you dear, that definately has some good food for thought.
And actually it was kinda sweet. ;-)
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@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
thanks! you know... if you weren't halfway across the globe... i'd ask you to date my older sister... hehe just kidding. my sister will probably kill me for saying that. 
but like you, i'm hoping my sister will be able to move on and start doing the dating thing once again. she's about to become single after 15 years. that's a lot of catching up to do where dating is concerned.
as for me, i'm giving a little more time to myself before i go dating once again. after being in a rollercoaster ride for almost 4 years, i'm not yet ready to take another plunge soon. i'm still enjoying the company of my nephews and nieces.
but like you, i'm hoping my sister will be able to move on and start doing the dating thing once again. she's about to become single after 15 years. that's a lot of catching up to do where dating is concerned.
as for me, i'm giving a little more time to myself before i go dating once again. after being in a rollercoaster ride for almost 4 years, i'm not yet ready to take another plunge soon. i'm still enjoying the company of my nephews and nieces. 1 person likes this
@jilshi (271)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 10
it is sad to hear about your heart broken story. i took time to heal when i broke off with my boyfriend. maybe you should meet with more variety of friend to broaden you mind. accepting a new girl is interesting and maybe you can start to court and move on.
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@shutupandbuyit (221)
• United States
27 Jan 10
Yes, I know the essence of what you are saying rings true. I appreciate your honesty. And I will get through anything that i am feeling, it is just gonna take as long as it takes. ;-)
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