what kind of problems do you encounter with your kids?

kids - for discusson
South Korea
January 26, 2010 8:55am CST
my eldest son is already 7 yrs.old when i give birth with my daughter...it was an unexpected pregnancy...i thought it will be ok.my son loves his sister, and i trusted him to takecare of her if im still at work.but their are times he will get jealous with her specially if its bed time...he always insist of sleeping beside me rather than his sister...i tried to separate him from us but he will wake up on the middle of the night and sleep beside me...i dont know what to do because of jealousy he becomes violent..have you encounter this problem with your kids?pls.share
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@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
28 Jan 10
well kids tend to be jealous when they see some things that is favorable to their sisters or brothers.try to be fair in treating them so as to avoid those things and be open to them.always ask them why they are jealous and try to convince him/her that you are fair enough in treating them.a good conversation,hugs and kisses makes them feel more secure and avoid jelousy between them.i havent got any problems with my kids because they know that i am fair in treating them.try to be like a friend to them rather than a parent.
• South Korea
28 Jan 10
oh, yes thays true..ut im trying my best to treat them fair...maybe its not enough..thanks for sharing
• India
27 Jan 10
My son is very font of me, He always used to be with me. Where ever he wish to go, he calls me not his mother. That much attachment with me not with his mother. Sometimes he openly says to his mother, go to some where, i want to be with my daddy, it is really shocking me.
• South Korea
28 Jan 10
maybe your son needs more attention too
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
26 Jan 10
One hot day in June last year my toddler son was asleep in his buggy in the garden when his baby sister was born. I lost much blood and got taken to hospital in an ambulance. It must be been upsetting for him when he woke up. I came home four days later with his baby sister. He hated her at first and was really jealous. Now she is six months old he is a little more used to her. My toddler son is disabled. I found out that at 36 weeks pregnancy and that was upsetting news. It came as a terrible shock. My toddler son is now 2 years old. He goes to appointments with professionals all the time. Yesterday he had to have a bladder and kidney scan at a hospital. I told the man the only thing we haven't had a problem with is his eyes. My baby girl like drinking soy formula drink. She eats vanilla soy pudding but won't eat anything else. So I am encountering a problem with her eating at the moment. Good luck with your problems of jealousy between your children.
@youless (112497)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Jan 10
Try to be nice to your son. I think it is common for children to be jealous when there is a new member at your home. Do not ignore him and let him understand your love will be the same even if he has a sister now. I think my child is not strong. He is easy to cry. Besides, he is afraid of the loss. I have told him it is nothing wrong to fail. Nobody can win all the time. I hope he will take it easy. It is good to have the ambition. But it is not good when you have a big ambition all the time and can't not face the failure. I love China
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
I don't have a son nor daughter but I love my nephews and nieces...Whenever I visit them they always want to stick with me all the time so sometimes I don't know how to balance the attention I have to give each one of them..some of them get jealous really start fighting with each other; but I understand that because maybe they miss me a lot I think..^^ so what I do is just tell them that I'll be alloting time for them one by one and sometimes I just think of a game that will include all of them...Well its sad to hear that your son is becoming violent because of jealousy but I think he will get use to it soon as he grows older as long as you keep explaining to him everything he needs to know...Hope you'll be able to fix your problem... good day^^
• South Korea
28 Jan 10
thanks mena i appreciate it..
@merondu (18)
• Israel
27 Jan 10
My son is Three. On the whole he is a great kid. But lately he just doesn't want to get out of bed in the mornings. He just refuses. Then there are the weekend when we want to sleep, and he's awake.
• South Korea
28 Jan 10
i think its a part of growing up..