your negativity...

To me, negativity is a sign that some one doesn't think very deeply. It's common and easy to have instant, negative reactions to some situations. It's only thinking things through that the bright side of almost any situation becomes apparent. For the people in my life you have negative attitudes, I spend a lot of time pointing out positives, or the humorous aspect of situations. I frequently hear, "Yes, you've said that before", to which I respond, "Yes, and next time you will hear it again". Let's them know that my responses are consistent with their repetitions. Doesn't break my heart if, after a while I hear less and less from them.

Hey, you could play this loudly for your neighbors! Not only can negativity be catching, but it can lead to depression and other nasty things. And you can train your brain not to think that way if you work at it enough.

If someone is on a diatribe about this problem or that, I think the best course of action is 1)say nothing and 2)just listen. The beauty is that, since complaining people don't usually LIKE Ms bright and sunny telling that the grass IS soft, not prickly and all dog owners are responsible, you won't get into trouble. Along with that, complainers will have to listen to what you are hearing, which tends to shorten the rant, because they get embarassed, when they realize how they sound. The side benefit is, you, the listener, may, from time to time, resort to a little personal bout of self-pity without the embarassment of having been Little Miss Sunshine. Keeping up appearances is SOOO tiring.

Hi jb, I try and avoid people like that as they get me down, like you say it's catching. There's a poor woman on here though who is constantly like that and I do try and say the odd cheerful thing or offer a practical solution to her never ending woes but negativity is her first name. I suppose if people have to write themselves off like that they aren't going to change but if they spend their life complaining then they ought to expect to be stuck on their own.

When I meet this kinda people I start trying to joke with the one. I learn that is easyer to modify someone's (wrong) belifs thru irony and jokes. I also try to make the one to say something like the classic "the glass is empty". Then I can come over him and patronize with "you are lucky is just half empty, now do yourself a favour and use the other half before someone else will take it .." Sorry, the pc I use now (I am at work) have not sound card, so I can not hear the song ...

many people around me have a negative thinking.I been just trying to focus and positive thinking.I also read a lots of book on personal development and motivation That I do not get suck in negative throughts.

I guess I would just have to continue to be positive around them, but not obnoxiously so. That is what hubby did when I was in such a negative frame of mind. Now that I have been off of my stress producing job, I am feeling more positive, and I notice that hubby looks more "up" as well. I do have some friends that no matter what assistance I offer for a problem they have, they find something wrong with it, a reason that it will not work. I explain how I am having success in the same instance, and then I just have to let them continue on their downer.

I am a super-optimist and a positive person. Negative people are unhappy people. Positive people are happy people. Example is the best teacher - so be positive and happy: it's contagious.

Ignore. And to stay away. These are my 2 best options. I read in a lot of self-help books that if we surround ourselves with positive and successful people, chances are one or more of those traits will brush on us and hence, we'll be able to strive as well. I think there's certain truths in that. Therefore, if I find anyone with a negative vibe and it would affect me, I stay away from it like a bad habit.

Negative moods and outlooks ARE catching. As for trying to get a negative thinker to look on a brighter side, it's exhausting effort after a while. Eventually, I just leave from their presence.

i agree with what you said.actually including me i only see the minor the setback and make me not sleep well.maybe we only are normal people and only care about the normal thing and neglect that we should give up this mind and still start a good life.so maybe i should experience more this thing and make me face it with good feeling.because bad thing often happened around me.i think that it become habit in my life.i could not care about much and learn to live strongly.

I like to think of myself as a generally positive person. Of course there are things that will get me down and I will react negatively at times, but overall I do try to look on the bright side of things, although not so neon brightly that you have to wear your sunglasses just to be in the same room as me. There are times, though, that deep hurt and loss has affected me in a negative way. At those times, it is very difficult to see that the glass is "half-full", unless of course it is half-full of vodka or some other numbing agent. I do try to keep my hurt and anger from affecting other people in my life, especially my loved ones, but it is a very difficult thing to do. Fortunately, these times do not last forever, and eventually I find my way back to the brighter side of life. When people that I am around get into these negative cycles, I try to point out all the positive things in their lives. If that does not work, then I try to get them to see how much worse the situation could be, therefore it is not really as bad as it might seem at the time. If that doesn't work, then I slip some "happy pills" into their drinks. Alright, I do not really do that last one, but since this discussion was started in "p.e." I thought it would be an appropriate answer.

Positive is the one thing I like I never think that I wont be able to do this or that or this is good or bad. Every thing have its own value you just need to look into it from right angle. For a glass of water which filled half you can say it is half filled. Try to see the positive part of other you see later in your competitor also you will be able to see the positivity which actually help you to handle then in better way.

Hello JB, Like the song and I was expecting "dont worry, be happy" song lol. But I like yours better. Well I wont say that Im always in a positive mood, Id be such a liar if I said that. Ive noticed that if Im surrounded by negative people, I'll REALLY put it on with them. It'll be so dark, so gloomy, so terrible that they end up becoming positive. I wouldnt get such a good result if I were to try and find the spark in the dark. Now, they might think Im SO negative and depressed though lol.....but actually Im not ......well not in public anyways. Hubby has a nice garage with heat and a/c and girlie piccies, and a pc and sound system and whatever men have in their garages, so when I feel some of that hormonal surge....I tell him to go stare at a pic of Pam for a while or I'll hide in a closet. Of course you have those people who wake up in the morning yelling GOOOOOOD MOOOOORRRRRNINGGGGG and I think thats way too much Prozac if you ask me. I have a cousin like that and we call her Cheery lol. You'd get along well with her I think. I would but only very late at night......NOT in the morning!!! But in all, negative people dont get me down. Its like an escape valve for me :) and a way to have some fun LOL.

hi bluebunny oh yes alice, my friend alice,she is always going on about how horrible it is here, how this food is so bad,that food is so bad, and when I meet her she lights up and starts in on this litany of all the awful things Gold Crest serves us. then when I intercede and say that that beef stew was really delicious Alice she will sort of smile, oh yeah that was good. So every time she says that dish was awful, I come up with but they make delicious eggplant parmesan dont you think? She will smile oh yeah yeah that is pretty good . Then she starts in on how awful the caretakers are, and then I come in, yes but isn;t it nice that when we are in our rooms they come and ask us if we are okay? I mean they really do care that we are feeling okay. She had to agree, so each downer I met with an upper and she started to laugh at me. then she said, 'but doesnt it bother you, you not wanting to be here and all? I had to say it did for a long time, then I just had to be happy again, so I decided to just take it one day at a time. I got her with this, Alice the other night I didn't have any hard candy or anything and my blood sugar was so low I was scared.the caretaker checked on me and came back with a glass of orange juice and a cup cake. so they really do care, I could have gone into a coma but they checked on me. You have to combat negativity with something positiive. like fire needs water to be put out, negativity quells under attack with the positives.