How To Defend yourself from FALSE ACCUSATIONS?

just be honest. tell them the truth. i think it is the best idea.

well, recently my boss called me up at home and began yelling at me that I had said something to a client. She was really ranting and screaming at me.. I kept trying to tell her that I did not say such a thing and was not understanding why or how she would have heard me say this.. (I say heard because all of our phone calls are recorded and she could very easily listen to the conversation that transpired between me and the client) Apparently over her yelling I finally understood that she had not even listened to what was said- She was just going by his word and his take on the situation we had discussed. And she had the nerve to call me at home on my day off and SCREAM at me with out checking on the facts.. So I told her so and promptly hung up on her. I waited a while until I calmed down- because now my blood was boiling... And I called the office back and asked to speak with the Owner and told him what had just happened and how much I did NOT appreciate being accused of something I didn't do -especially since no one even bothered to check the call log and listen for themselves before accusing me.. He said he would check.. and I haven't heard a thing in over a week. so I am hoping it has blown over.. But I am certainly not going to let someone do that to me with out speaking up for myself! And now SHE knows it!

Hi gambamarcela, that is a big accusation! Legally punishable! Ask that family member would he / she be willing for consequences should you manage to prove you are right? And then take some of the family members with you to the hotel and ask the clerks and other staff whether you stayed over! Let them tell the truth, and let the accuser face the consequences. I would do that!

I'll simply tell them the truth. I am not the type of person to confront people--I hate confrontations and I avoid them as much as possible. But if they don't believe me, then I'm fine with it. That's their problem. :-)

Guilty until proven innocent or rather innocent until proven guilty... accusations could be misleading unless otherwise there are valid evidence or testimonies that would come about. In this scenario, to my family i would tell just what happened and if further doubt arises, then i would have this man/woman in front of them or even go to the hotel. In case, there is still doubt, then i would keep my mouth shut and give them the silence treatment since i know what i truly did, not being guilty. Sooner or later the truth will come up....

You know, the scenario that you presented is not that easy to defend. The very first impression that will come into my mind if I saw a couple entering or coming out of a hotel is that they had a special relationship. But wait, is the girl or the boy working in the said hotel? Assuming not anyone of them is, could really create a bad picture on you. If I were the boy and married, I won't accompany the girl to that place even if she's a friend. I will explain to her what your family and friends will say if they saw you together in that place. If she's a common friend, maybe I would call my wife and inform her that your friend is asking you that favor. Going back to the scenario you have given, for the whole family to believe that there was really nothing going on between you, bring the girl to your house and let her explain. That way, though it hurts both parties, for your wife to feel cheated and for your friend and yourself to be accused of something you did not do, would be the best solution to the problem. Good luck!

gambamarcela, For me, I will be observant who I am talking to and approach the matter delicately. To some we can say everything whilst to some I'd just keep my mouth shut. Sometimes, there will be some skeptics where no matter how much you say, it will just fall on deaf ears and worst turn out even worse than the original version. Don't waste your time and effort to prove anything especially when they are already a prejudice and downright stubborn. If this is the character of the one whom you must really tell, then do it once and be prepared. But in all stand firm and remain unfazed by unfavorble reactions or looks. IMO, as long as I stand answerable to my own conscience, I have nothing to fear, even if it is a reprisal. Take care and have a nice day.

I try and convince people but I am not going to do it too hard. If you ruthlessly defend something too much, then people have a tendency to wonder what you may be up to. People will think what they want to think. When they get a preconceived notion in their head, it is hard to remove it. Therefore, I just state my side of the story and claim my innocence, hoping that I will be believed.

Hi gambamarcela I got your feel.That's really something make us down. And I won't feel guilty but a little disappointed.And at first I will try to tell them the truth.But if they still keep accusing.I chose to remain silent. Because they are my families,if they believe me,they will believe me as long as I tell them once.If they don't,no matter how many times you tried to explain,it still won't work. Time tells everything.