Am I a good daughter?

My mom is kinda controlling when it comes to career. She wants me to be a doctor, but I don't want to. It actually makes me sick that she always suggests that to me. It's pretty obvious that she only wants that career for me because of the prestige and money. She always tells me, "Why not try medicine?" and when I tell her "no" she quickly replies, "That pays well, and you'll get to have your own clinic."

I really can relate to what you're feeling now. You see, I'm an only daughter, being the eldest one at that. I have two younger brothers. My parents used to be (and I guess, even up to now) protective of me. About the obeying thing, yep, it can really get hard at times. There are instances where you want something that goes against your parents wishes. Most people say that our parents just want the best for us. Most times its true, but not all the time. There are really obsessive parents who couldn't let go of their children, even if their children get old enough to live on their own. I suggest you talk to your parents about it. If its not possible, then just wait till you get old enough to support yourself, and follow your dreams.

I've rebelled against my parents. I love them, but no one is going to tell me who I "have" to be. My dad is a control freak and sometimes I do things that I know that is going to piss him off just because. Follow your dreams, heart and what makes you happy. You will piss people off no matter what. Your happiness is the happiness that counts.

hi kat!A good child cannot be measured by being just "obedient always". But of course its necessary to respect and obey your parents and elders.Im a mom of a 17 year old daughter and 10 year old son and so far we have a good mother-child relationship not because they always obey me.It's because i always insisted that whatever it is they have to share,happy or sad,good or bad or anything they cannot comprehend, must be voice out, i've let them express their thoughts or opinion regarding anything that's confusing as long as they speak in a well mannered behavior.In other words we have an open communication with each other, they tell me stories or their activities after school and later asked my opinion or idea regarding the matter.I also do the same to them, yes..i also ask them their idea, but on limited topic only. My daughter will enter college this june 2010, and last year she take up exams from different universities. Before the examination day she keeps on asking me what course she will take up in college, i reply to her with a question also - "What are the things that you love to do and will enjoy doing it over and over again?" I suggested some course to her, but i've told her that the final decision is hers, because its her life at stake for whatever career she wants to pursue.Im just here to support her dreams, by the way she's finally decided to take up Tourism Management and one more thing she also wants to continue studying Mandarin language. You are right each one of us has the right to follow our dreams.We, as parents may suggest but not impose and we are here to guide and support your dreams.And you as children must create a fulfilled life and must be responsible for yourself and knows how to stand on her own without being rude to others. I suggest you talk it over to your parents, please consider that most parents wants only the best for their child and it takes a matter of time to let them realize that they should also consider whatever their child's dream.

Yes i agree with you but being a daughter and to keep our parents happy we have to obey and respect them.In my country i have heard people saying that if we keep our parents happy than we will be success in our life.........if not than it will be horrible ............so i think its better we follow their instruction but i know my parents is not like that and i am happy with that

I think you should at least respect and obeys to our parents. We never let our parents feel sad instead of that we should make our parents happy at time.As some people said that if we make our parents happy then we will get led our life smoothly. So all time we should follow what our parents said us to do and make them happy.

If these are the methods to measure whether you are a good daughter. Then I have to say I am not qualified to it. I can't obey my parents all the time if I think it is wrong. And sometimes I do have my own thoughts. Perhaps at the end it will prove they are right, but I still like to have a try. I am just lucky that my parents can understand it. I love China

You are right. Sometimes, they have these sets of expectations that are supposed to be followed. My mom used to have this criteria and one day, I sat with her and talked it out with her. Ever since, she has been more open and understanding towards my needs. It works for some parents, and for some, I think it might need more work than that.

You are not a good daughter,good gaughter should honor their paents,which should be athome when at home.

am obeying with u my dear... evryone has their right. i think the problem lies in the society,the culture we we living.. but when we are brought up with borders we tend to cross over it.

i think, at least,you should respect your parents,that doesn`t mean you must always obey them.i get along with my mun very well,i cherish her love,sometimes i have different ideas from her,i always try to express it in a proper way,make her aceept them easily. life is not always smooth,sometimes you have to abandon something

i think, at least,you should respect your parents,that doesn`t mean you must always obey them.i get along with my mun very well,i cherish her love,sometimes i have different ideas from her,i always try to express it in a proper way,make her aceept them easily. life is not always smooth,sometimes you have to abandon something

Yes i agree with you on this one. But i also see the other side of it to. Being a parent isnt easy and you dont get instructions with your baby when you have it. Everyone is raised differently and there is not a single parent out there that is the same as another one. You should always respect your family and parents but maybe you should tell them how you feel. Open up and tell them what you wanna do and what you wanna be. tell them your dream and maybe if they are understanding they will appreciate that you came to them. The problem currently is that most kids dont go to their parents and so their parents dont think they are doing their job correctly and so they buckle up and get more strict and make you do more things that you dont want to do. I know im not good at advice but this is just my view.

in my opinion parents is not always been perfect.there are some parents that they just want their child to be trained and there are some also just want to follow what their parents wants in order to fullfill their dreams not for the dreams of their children.