If you found out that your fiance is gay
By junrapmian
@junrapmian (2169)
Philippines
January 27, 2010 3:10am CST
Last night, I was listening to a late night radio show when a crying girl was put on the air, asking for advice from the DJ. She said her father died 2 days ago, her mother is currently confined in a hospital, she is 3 months pregnant, she broke off with her fiance of 5 years because she saw him the other night kissing a man in a gay bar, this morning her would be mother in-law went to their house and accused her of having an affair with another man, she did not answer back and defend herself...she just cried. Her fiance texted her admitting that he is a gay and that he doesn't need the girl anymore. The girl was crying over the phone saying that she don't know what to do, all the wedding preparations are ready, they are set to marry this February...she doesn't know how to face the invited people, she wants to abort the baby and then commit suicide so she can have peace. The DJ, stunned with the situation the girl is into right now, pacified her, told her to talk to her mother and ask for advice. The girl said that ever since she was young she was not close to her parents because they are busy with their businesses. She is an only child and grew up with a nanny. She said they belonged to an upper class family and what had happened to her would be a disgrace to her family. She don't know where to turn to.
If you were in her shoes, how would you handle the situation? I do hope she has a friend here in mylot so he/she can relay your advices. Thanks!
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4 responses
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Jan 10
First of all, it should not be a disgrace to her family. It might be to his, seeing that he has gotten her pregnant and left her for another man. I would not abort the baby, but if she is holding resentment, it might be best to give it up. If she decides to keep the baby, maybe just move away from the close area, if it is possible. I would not be put to shame over this, it was not her fault. She needs to take a little while and think things through.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hello junrap,
I feel sad for her but that doesn't she had to take the baby with her! is she insane! she needs to let it out and at least tell it to her mom. I know it will be humiliating but you know what it's better cancel it rather than she regrets it forever. it may include shame and endless gossips but you know, let the gay go. she can take care of the child on her own, there's a lot of single mothers out there who made it.
@DeSquallie (88)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
If she was in the upper class, then she'd have money to hire psychiatrists and therapists to aid her thru the emotional state as well as family/relationship problems she is facing. It may be hard and too much for the girl but with proper help, she may be able to start a new chapter in her life by accepting the fact that this particular scenario is a big hard obstacle in life.
It would have been better to tell everyone invited to the wedding of what really happened because there is no shame in telling the truth. Yes, it would be hard but at least people involved will know the situation instead of guessing what happened and a different news spreads out.
It is sad to hear this types of stories...
@gambamarcela (1011)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
That is oh so depressing. I mean, it feels like she has been dumped by sacks of rice at her face. Learning that she belongs to an upper bracket is very embarrassing for her and more to her family. Getting pregnant before marriage is also a shame.And the worst thing is her fiance is gay.all of them in one moment. i can't imagine how my life sucks if i were in her shoes. if that's the case i'd rather go abroad and take a vacation. it's up with my parents how they handle the invited guests. and for the baby? i'd raise it rather than killing an innocent life.
