Is jealousy the most important enemy in a relationship ?

your correct jealous make different in human relationship friend.

Yes, this is one off the reasons when our relations start going in a wrong direction. For a partner or friend, family or anybody, competition is good till the time its healthy, Its very bad for all when it turns to jealousy. I believe that we should enjoy each others success and should not feel jealous for any reason. If someone is more successful than me, learn lessons from his success instead of felling jealousy. If you enjoy others success, definitely success will be part of your routine and will not have reasons to regret. Respect is another form of love I believe but that should be because of fear, it should come from your heart and not from mind. Mutual respect is a good thing to follow but anything which is one side might be not so good for relations to work. be Happy and Spread Happiness :)

Hmmm do you follow the same rules? Do you avoid other women? Do you not talk to women who are not relatives or common friends? For starters how can she possibly cope with her work if she is not allowed to talk to males on the phone etc. You did not include male customers, bosses, work mates etc. To prevent her from ever having contact with people she does not yet know is to stifle her life. Do you follow her? Do you spy on her? What if a man she does not know asks her a questions, such as directions. Is she supposed to run away? Do you ever lie to her? If you do then you are a hypocrite. This is not just jealousy, this is total lack of trust. If you do not trust her then you cannot love her. Trust is required for love to flourish. What you call love is a desire to possess. You want to put her in a cage like a doll and view her as a possession. Definitely not love. I knew a couple once where the male was like you. He was so possessive the girl broke up with him. He started to question her about every male he saw her near. He spied on her. He stopped her from living a normal life and she could not live in his cage. Neither could I. Yes you are asking too much. In fact what you are asking is impossible unless you lock her up somewhere and make her a prisoner of your jealousy and possessiveness.

Jealosuy is a human emotion but it results from a relationship in which there is either no trust or there is a lot of insecurity.I think you need to ask yourself which of the above category do you fit in .If you are insecure well you need to to get some kind of agreement that she will be committed .If you do not trust her then you may be need to get out of that relationship

Being jealous is one way of showing your love to another person. But not to the point that you want to control the person you love. On the things that you enumerate, yes, you are asking too much. It seems so childish, and so possessive of you. Give your girl enough freedom to do what she wants to do. On the other hand let her know her limitation. Trust with each other is one of the most important thing you should have both in a relationship. I didnt say dont be jealous anymore, coz most of us girls wants to feel how important we are to our partner. Just dont over do it.

It's normal that you're jealous especially if your relationship is fresh. Those friends can be very annoying if a girl has too many of them because man are man and some of those friends might want more than friendship. It's natural that she should not go out with other guys on dates or even just to party if you aren't with her. So no in general you aren't asking for to much. But with time you'll learn to trust her more if you both love each other and you'll be less jealous. There are ups and downs in every relationship so don't worry to much. And talk with her... don't leave things unaddressed. I wish you a happy relationship,good luck(=

I think the enemy in any relationship is lack of communication. Communication is one of the most important aspects to any relationship because it keeps things open and honest.

Well for the first time in over 13 years of marriage my husband has shown that he can get very jealous as this has happened in just this last week.I had never thought that he would ever get jealous,but he has and i know it may sound strange but i liked it as then i knew he has still got those strong feelings for me even though he had no reason to get jealous or to be jealous.Sometimes i think it could be ok like this time to be jealous,but never if that jealousy takes over a relationship.

This kind of jealousy is a good thing because then what would prevent unfaitfulness in a relationship if the other shows no interest in things you do. You aren't asking anything unreasonable.

Ummm... I know how the Bible says that love is NOT jealous, but I've always been the jealous type. Does that mean I'm not capable of love? I don't think so. But I don't think it's the biggest factor in a relationship either. Personally, I don't think you're asking too much of your significant other. But like I said, I'm the jealous type and I would probably lay down the same rules if I were in your shoes.

hi delkar! i think its normal to be jealous sometimes. its like showing your love and concern. however, too much of it will cause your partner to get tired of and she might make this as an excuse of getting out of the relationship. remember, holding too much of something will cause that something to burnt out. everybody needs some space to breathe. also, this will show you are not trusting her. you might pushing her to do something that you really do not like. so be careful. learn to trust your love ones. give them space and the benefit of the doubt. do not always make them explain all their acts coz its really irritating.

delkar, Jealousy is always a bad thing, it is not healthy. Yes, you can rediscover the same feeling of being accepted and loved by you partner. "If disputes have turned your relationship into a sour experience, this page may be turning point to restore security and trust. Now step by step action plan to discuss and resolve any subject, with none of the pain that you are feeling today. Warranted". Feel always empowered, because you know what to do. Accept that conflict is a way of learning about what to change in your life. Feel always secure and with a sense of direction. Identify negative aspects in your relationship and face them Attract the happiness you dream of Negotiate with confidence any difficult issue. Communicate your view with ease, even in stressful situation. Cheers!!!!!!!!!!!delkar!!!!

jealousy falls under the broader category trust, delkar. jealousy, in the form of mistrust, creeps in when you no longer believe in what a friend or partner tells you... when you see something beautiful in others and you feel jealous, it equates into something as not trusting that what you have is also beautiful or even more beautiful...

Jealousy can be enemy in a relationship but it can be an important part for the relationship itself. I think you are too possessive. I cant call what u ask for your girlfriend as jealousy. You are too overprotected. And that means u never trust your girlfriend at all. Jealousy is normal in a relationship. Relationship without jealousy is like u eat plain food, no taste. yuck... It can be so boring. But don't be such overprotected with your couple, because what we want in a relationship is happiness, share good time together, share everything together, have fun, create unforgettable moment, etc.

I think you need to put some trust in your girl or kiss the relationship good bye..I would NEVER put up with a guy who couldnt handle my having male friends..I've ALWAYS had guy friends and yes we'll talk on the phone, go out for drinks and shoot pool together, hang out, PM each other and so on...If my partner can't handle that then he's not a guy I'd want to be with..

I also believe that it's ok to get jealous if your motivation is you really love that person.. But if your motivation is different, e.g. you think she's doing something you've been doing before... then its a different story..

i agree that jealousy is a very difficult enemy to beat but you have to live with it. In a relationship it would be suffocating to not let anyone have their space. You have to learn that people have to socialize, if they don't then they will become too dependent on whomever they are with. Live with your jealousy and try and consider your partners feeling beforehand.

For me jealousy means you dont trust her. Because if you do, you will have no reason to feel insecure with other guys she talks to unless she has done something wrong in the past that makes you feel in doubt on her and you are not over it yet even after you make up and forgive her. But if there is no event like this in the past then i think what you are asking is too much. As long as she is not flirting on other guys you cannot ask her to prevent from talking to them. They might be some stranger asking for direction or an old acquaintance you never seen or met before. If you really love her you should learn how to trust her first because having no trust will result to argument and misunderstanding.