Do you often pick on your spouse?

hmmmm, I sound like your wife. I don't like to do housework. I like to sleep in. I am on the computer alot. I have my own reasons. I have a household of 4 people including me in that 4. I have to pick up after all 4 people. The other 3 are very reluctant to clean up after themselves. I like my bed too much. I have always been a late to bed and late to rise. I have been like that my whole life. I am on the computer alot because I can't watch tv. My husband always takes over the tv. My life is really bad. I wouldn't mind doing the house work if the others decided to pick up after themselves. Well sleeping pattern will not change. As for the tv, it would be nice if I was able to watch something I like every now and then. It may get me off the computer a little more. As for me to pick on my husband. Yes I do. I complain as you have seen already about him no picking up after himself. He has too much computer spare parts that it is taking over the house. He nevers allows me to sleep in beyond 10 am. Finally, he drinks too much. At the end of the day, I think that we both pick on each other way too much and accept our faults. Lol

Hello What u are going thru is nothing unusual and I think almost every married couple goes thru such situations. But in reality no one is perfect. Every human being is bound to have some good and some bad qualities. In todays' stressful world yr wife seems to be little bit carefree which to me is a major plus point in her favour, but in yr eyes it is laziness on her part. U see u are trying hard to change her by criticizing her all the time. In doing so, u yourself seem to hv developed a bad habit of being a criticizer. So, instead of trying to change her all the time, try to develop a positive attitude and look for her good qualities. This will enable u to ignore her bad qualities and relax u also. Hope u will not mind my suggestions. U see I hv changed myself this way only, as my husband, who is only son of his parents and pampered thoroughly, has always been a lazy person who does not like to even pick up his dirty tea mug. Earlier, I use to crib all the time. This led to frustration within me. Slowly and slowly, I hv overcome this problem and now, most of the time, I am cheerful. Minor alterations are always there, but they now do not mean much.

We pick on each other in a loving way everyday. Humor is great medicine and it keeps the relationship fun and relaxed.

is she really that lazy? or maybe in your eyes she is.. is she a house wife or a working wife? if she is a working wife maybe she can indulge some laziness at home hehe but if she is a housewife..though she can relax maybe it gets too much? or maybe these are just from your point of view? why not sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and in that way she can also tell you how she feels and why she acts that way? rather than rant and pick on her all the time.. my husband also do comment on some stuff, i get to also indulge on games hahaha but after i do all the things i needed to do at home..and he understand it. :D like right now i indulge myself in mylot. hope you work things out.

Yes . Sometimes i pick on my husband for any small things in a very bad mood although i know it's not good to do that. He forgets turning off lights of the toilet every time no matter how many times i've told him. Things just like that. He is a good tempered person therefore most of time he wouldn't care about my bad temper. I totally understand you . I think i'm same sort of person as you . But it's unfair to make very high standard to others , i think.

...Hi there zfdavid006, Well, you are in the situation so you have to assess how far, is too far to go in being critical. I would say reverse the roles, and think about how you would feel with a lot of criticism being leveled at you for whatever. No, I don't criticise my spouse because I am single."o). I don't know if you know who John Edwards is here is the US, but it has been said that his wife nagged him, and criticised him, way before he met the woman he cheated with, that's not to give him an excuse, but sometimes you drive people to do some things. Be careful, people need some praise along with the criticism. Take care. Good luck. Welcome to the ranch, enjoy.

Yes,I often choose my spouse,because the spouse can take care of themselves a good life,is a very happy thing.

for me its not better to pick often your spouse. because maybe your spouse with you together so it better to not pick often your spouse to be able your spouse miss you so much.so when you meet its better feeling. rather you pick your spouse often.

hi there! i think it depends what to pick up. because, you are always together you can not help but immitate unconsciously the things your spouse are doing. as for me, i just pick my husbands good doings. he is so hard working and willing to make a share of the chores at home. if he influence me, i also influence him in a positive way. remember you can not change your wife. the urge to change must come from her. just show her the right attitudes and may be he will pick these from you. or ask her to help you and tell her the benefits of working together. sometimes it feels lazy working alone at home. be a model in your self and resist the temptations. good luck!