Argument with dad... a follow up on my story
By Hanan_x3
@Hanan_x3 (294)
United States
January 28, 2010 2:21pm CST
So yesterday my sister started talking to me about religion (read my other posts to get what the issue was).
Anyway, she was talking to me about the religion I'm interested in and she told me that it was wrong and I was not following the path. She kept giving me fact after fact and I was getting sick of her arguing with me.
My dad was listening.
So he got into the picture and he started asking me stuff about the religion. He then started saying that the religion is wrong and that his religion is the right religion. I didn't want anyone to tell me what religion I should be following. It is my own path that im choosing based on myself. I don't want to follow after my parents. I want to become educated about this religion. The religion im interested in makes perfect sense to me. The more I learn about it the more I love it.
However, my parents and siblings don't see that.
Anyway, my dad started telling me that if I don't go back to his religion that I wouldn't have a home to live in. I would be able to drive, I wouldn't be able to go to college. Basically that my life is over (not literally).
It was almost 30 minutes of arguing. Finally, I told my dad that I don't want to follow a religion just because my family is threatening to kick me out of the house. I broke down and started crying.
He hugged me and told me that he doesn't want me going to the wrong path. He said that he doesn't want to see his kids falling into error and not correcting it...
but the thing is that I dont see it as going the wrong path, I see it as a whole new opportunity and something right that im doing.
My whole family has been against me about learning this new religion.
The only support I get is when I read texts about the religion, and friends I have met through the internet.
I'm in a dilemma. I don't want to follow in my parents footsteps. I found something that I believe is right and my family is going against me telling me that all of that is wrong.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to go into a religion just because my parents are telling me...
Also, my dad has a heart problem, and I was told by my mom last night, that if my dad dies its my fault.... 
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4 responses
@Harley009 (1416)
• India
30 Jan 10
Hi Hanan,
I had replied to your discussions before and I asked some questions, you didn't say anything about it. (A little personnel story of my life right now... , Is there a Baha'i in here), could you reply to them there?
Probably you might have got a wrong view about Islam from your parents doings or from the TV News?
You can watch Peace TV English channel from USA through Sky Networks or via Free Satellite Receiver from satellite Galaxy 18. Other TV networks in USA providing the Peace TV and it is available via online as well.
Hanan, I am a Muslim, I don't believe any idea without solid proof. With solid proofs I say, Islam means accepting the guidance of God who created us. Islam only explains the true concept of God or creator with clear proofs.
"By the time! Verily man is in loss! Except those who have believed and do righteous deeds; and enjoin each other with truth and enjoin each other with patience" [Quran 103]
Belief is up to you.
Peace.
@levis143 (70)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I can sense too much fanaticism on your part in your new religion, whatever it is, to the point that you keep on defending your religion and you belief in you religion from you parents and siblings. But since you cannot stand on your own two feet yet, it will be better for you to heed your parents advice and re-examine your belief, and weigh your situation more carefully. It is hard for anyone to be independent and free if he is still dependent, like you. If you want to prove to them that you are right and they are wrong, then prove it by action, find yourself a job and separate from them, live on your own. But if you are incapable to do that, then by all means listen to your father and mother, get along with them, honor their wishes because you are under their roof and protection.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jan 10
hanan get a job and live on your own you cannot stay with your parents forever no matter what your culture is, but follow your religion and break free of the parents. surely you do not
intend to live with them when you meet a girl and get married? or do you? we ll I am only going by my own country's culture, I do not like muslim much since 9/11 happened so have no real sympathy with your parents. I think you need to be on your own.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
29 Jan 10
Have you read the Origins of the Baha'i Religion. If not, I will tell you them now, if you already know them that is fine, call it review. This is from the Usborne Encyclopedia of World Religions.
Historical Background.
In the nineteenth century, Persia was an Islamic country. In 1844, a merchant named Mirza Ali Mohammed, who was known as the Bab ("gate" to the truth), predicted that a great prophet would come after him. The Bab was seen as a threat to Islam and he was arrested and later executed. A shrine has since been erected to the Bab at Haifa in Israel.
In 1863, Baha'u'llah, the son of a nobleman, proclaimed himself to be the prophet whose coming had been predicted by the Bab. Baha'u'llah was then forced into exile. Under his leadership, those who had previously followed the Bab, and now followed him, broke away from Islam and developed a new religion.
Baha'u'llah believe that is was God's will that he and his followers should try and unite humanity, which he say as one single race. He believed that the time had finally come for a new world age, with peace, justice and an end to religious and racial prejudice.
And these are all great and wonderful things, and now you are telling your parents who have believed for much longer then you have been alive that they are wrong. and you are just a child is right. Please, follow your chosen religions path, and empathize with your family. "Blessed is he who prefereth his brother before himself" Baha'u'llah. It will relieve much strive. It is still the same God you follow regardless of the things you believe.
Cheers.
Today, Baha'is from many different cultural backgrounds come together at conferences to debate Baha'i las and issues. This include world unity and the promotion of human rights.
