How much will it guarantee that a child will/can keep a marriage lasts?

hello Lady, A child always makes a home complete. And,the society always looking forward for married couples to have their own kid/s. It is not a matter if,it is their own kid or an adopted one. What matters most is,how couples build strong relationship with each other. A child is not a guarantee...we knew that,there's a lot of divorce/separated couples everywhere. And,sometimes,living separately even give them more happy life than living together and having fight all the time. The kids can always be a good connection between the couple(separated ones). Kids should not suffer the consequences of having a miserable relationship,so,couple/s must think of a better option(separation or divorce)rather than always fighting that usually give the child emotional crisis. It is good that you had a happy family and a good husband. Wish you all the best if everything and have a good day always

yah,children suffer most of the trauma. And,in my opinion..separation is better rather than staying in this kind of situation. Respect should always be one of the top priority in a relationship. And,if there is no more respect,what's the use of living together,hurting each other physically and emotionally.

You are right. SOmetimes it depends also in the situation. I grew up in a happy family. My father was a good provider, father and husband and I have a very loving mother. However, it was a different situation with my Aunt. I lived with my Aunt and cousins when I was still in College. My father wanted me to stay in a dormitory. I did for two years and then rented an apartment for two more years. After that I moved to my Aunt's house as per my Aunt's request. She feels bad that I have to live alone when they have a house where I can stay within the vicinity. So I said okay I'll try living with them. My aunt and uncle fight almost everyday. When they fight it is really like a war. I am not use to that scene since my mom and dad does not fight like that. They don't shout at each other and don't hurt each other physically. Most of the time even my cousins ended up shouting at their parents to tell them to stop shouting. Sometimes one of my cousins would walk out and go to her bestfriends house and stay their overnight. Eventually, my aunt and uncle decided to separate. I felt better after. Even my cousins. Their home is peaceful now. I am no longer with them as I have moved to a different town almost 2 years ago because of my job. That is the reason I understand that part you said that sometimes it is better for couples to just separate rather than suffer everyday of their life and then the children will also suffer.

Thank you so much for the BR.

hello dear sister, Precisely,marriage needs a lot of sacrifice and adjustments. One must think of his/her partner and not itself alone. One must always consider whatever consequences will arise before deciding anything. Kids always contribute the best solution. Thanks for your response and have a good day always dear

hello neil, That's good for you my friend. Not all husband/man had same thinking like yours. And i admire men who had cheated their wives,yet,change for the best. I admire your courage...no one has the right to judge someone for we are all prone to commit sins. Have a goo day always my friend

Hello jasmeena, It is very sad to think that some couples ended up for divorce/separation even if they've got kids with them. I can't say if it right or wrong to decide living with separate lives when kids had to suffer the consequences,but,sometimes,it is better to have choose the separate lives rather than living together in a miserable situation. It is more emotionally traumatic for kids to grow in such situation. Married couple/s who haven't had kids sometimes were even happier than those ones having one,maybe becoz,they don't have much pressure and problems than those couples who had kids. It depends on each situation and thinking i guess. There is nothing guarantee...not kids,or even marriage will guarantee a happy relationship. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello drencher, Absolutely,kid/s will not guarantee for a happy marriage. It is always the love between the couple. It would be very difficult to live without love and respect at all. Maybe kids can make a good connection between the couples,even if they're separated already. And,sometimes it is also better for couples to get separated/divorce rather than living under one roof and always fighting,for it would give the kid/s emotional crisis. I also had seen couples having separated and still had good relationship with each other,also kids having much better upbringing compared to those living together couples,yet,having fights and miserable situaion. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello temi, Well,you got some good point in here. Yah,i think it depends on each situation,culture,tradition from each country. But,sometimes,strict and family oriented countries is not a reason for some couples to have divorce or separation. It is still an individual choice...and no one can direct or dictate someone who's having some problem in a relationship and choose to have divorce/separation or stay in a miserable relationship. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello dear bhai, I know and i agree that kid/s will always make a great bond for marriages. But,sometimes,kid/s were not enough to reason to make the bond that strong. And,i thou i don't agree with couples getting into separation/divorce...it is their choice and,kids were the first to suffer the consequences(not everyone...sometimes,it is the kid/s who suggest separation rather than seeing their parents having miserable relationship) I guess,kids will always stands as the bridge for having good connection between separated couple(parents). Have a good day always dear bhai

hello se7enth, It is true...having a kid,couples should be emotionally ready. Having kid/s needs a lot of responsibility,emotionally and financially. I am happy that,after long years of perseverance and hope,your little angel had come at last to grace you happiness and a complete family of your own. Some couples were not fortunate as you and your wife,and ended up with adopting a kid. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello teamrose, You had a very wide opinion on this matter. yes,it is true that a child will not guarantee for any relationship. And,it is also true that,having a kid within a rocky relationship will not give a child a happy life and could even make the situation worst. Some women thinking that,having a child from a wealthy father will give them(the woman and kid)a good life,expecting the child as the reason for having some financial support,but,sometimes,situation doesn't turns out to be that good. This situation will only give more problem and often times,the kid/s suffer most,more than the couple. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello bingchen, This is a common thing,for couple after getting married and for the society too,to expect the married couple to have kid/s. So,it always follows that,marriage and home will not be a complete situation without a kid/s. Thu,some couple/s,have agreed and choose for not having a kid,it is an individual choice and no one have the right to judge anyone. If you really feel the need to have a child,then,get the chance to have one and you will find out how great it is to have your own kid. Thanks for your response and have a good day always

hello Ajay, You had some point on this matter. I do agree that kid/s won't make a great guarantee for any relationship. Kids can be a good connection even if the couple(parents)were separated. Thanks for your response and have a good day always