Career or Marriage ?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
January 29, 2010 9:32am CST
Often we have seen or came through peoples who is waiting certain positions or achievements in their profession before they get married. This is very true in case of film industry, heroines think that their fan following will be affected if they get married. I believe that we should have priority decided for everything in life to occur.
we will have time to achieve our career goals even after marriage in many cases, however getting married at a certain age is good for self.
What do you think - what should be priority - Marriage or career?
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22 responses
@vandana7 (99882)
• India
30 Jan 10
Hi Ajay, this differs from person to person, as their backgrounds differ. I believe you are mentioning this with reference to girls/ladies. If these people have relatives who are well off, and are earning well, then invariably there will be this need to keep pace, and consequently, the need to focus on careers in the initial stages. But if these people have no relatives who are higher up above in financial terms, you might see a more complacent attitude towards career. Therefore, I think social circle determines the attitude towards career, and in general the ambitious nature of the person. What is the point in remaining within the marriage and fighting day in and day out, because a not so welcome relative comes and teases about some wealth and goes away? Somewhere, such factors play on mind.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
1 Feb 10
Very True vandana,
relatives can help one to manage your job and marriage both at a time however its our responsibility to drive it further. relatives may not be available day and night for all the needs but they can HELP us, till the help is not required very often, everything looks good. So ultimately its the couple who has to take the decision.
I would suggest to choose one at a time if at all it seems unreal otherwise it would be just day spending of life and not enjoying at all.
Be Happy and spread happiness :)
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
I choose career.marriage is not really for everyone,myself included.marriage is a lifetime commitment.for me,marriage should be 100% sure.a broken marriage is very stressful.with career,you will earn money from it.who doesn't need money for their everyday living?
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@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
i think a good career should never interfere with marriage and family. likewise, being married should not be a problem in having a career. i think both should go hand in hand. whichever came first should be respected. if someone got married first, then he/she should find a career that wont ruin his/her married life. if the career came first, then marriage should go along with it or work around it as much as possible. neither should demand. but, changes should be welcomed only if it is very much accepted and if the person is really willing to work around the situation. Personally, i hope no marriage gets ruined because of a sudden want for a career because i believe that marriage can enter even though career has been very well established already. :D
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@ccet26 (92)
• India
30 Jan 10
both of these things are important but firstly carrer comes first then marriage because if u are employed and earning then u are able to support ur family and ur life partner but if u are not employed and get engaged in marriage then how u r able to support ur love once...therefore i suggest first to make ur career and then do marriage....
@vishalkgupta (373)
• India
29 Jan 10
Hi ajay, as you already said that getting married at a certain age is good for self, so that means all the things in our life should be happen on the time they deserve, career and marriage both are our priorities, but it is necessary for everyone to become able to lead a family before marriage, he should be able to arrange the bread and butter for at least two peoples means if he doesn't achieve the goal he decided then no problem if he capable to fulfill the prior needs of a family he should get married.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
30 Jan 10
Yes Vishal, its very true, I think we should be able to lead a family before we get into married life.. Things look good from far however in reality money is a must thing to run the life very smoothly.
@cloud31 (5809)
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30 Jan 10
I love my career and i think if time comes that i will have to get marry i should let my future husband know everything about my career and let him understand there must be a certain consequences we might encounter but i know if he really loves me he can truly understand what really CAREER I have beforehand,there is no priority in these two options i think its our way of handling them.
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@elainebautista (86)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
I always believed in compromise and having a united decision. As of now, I am focused on my career because of the great opportunities I am confronted with. But I also think of marriage and having my own family and how to fit it in my plans. I wouldn't mind having to stay at home to take care of kids but I don't want to be a home maker for life. I want a job that will allow me to have self fulfillment. As a woman, I need something of my own where I can strive and work hard.
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
30 Jan 10
If i say about this then i will prefer career before marriage.. because if you have good carrier then you will stand at your leg.. and you don't make any hope to other person..that they will help you.. but if you have no made carrier and you getting married..then after marriage you may face many types of problem.. like your family problem money problems.. etc.. so a person getting married only when he is in a good job.. thanking you..keep mylotting..![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@jackie07 (40)
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30 Jan 10
At first we should prioritize career but once we know that were really at the right
and its worth it to get marriage. Why not to prioritize to get married? Where we could find true happiness. In life its much better if we have both happiness in this world.
@temilolusolo (37)
• Nigeria
30 Jan 10
The two are important.They should be balanced.
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@wishuluck (233)
• Lithuania
30 Jan 10
I think both marriage and career are important and it's difficult to choose the priority. Perfectly, both of them should be equaly important.
If I had to choose, I would probably give my priority to marriage. I don't think it would be a disadvantage while achieving my career goals.
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@edu4625 (188)
• United States
29 Jan 10
If you decide to marry a person you must recognize that the marriage will need time to grow and mature.
This means that both individuals must put time into understanding each other and building trust etc.
Being married can help some people mature. But this doesn't happen by magic. It will come out of the love,respect and support the 2 individuals show one another.
I don't think you need to choose marriage over career or vice-a-versa. A person just needs to know that you can't neglect one and put more energy into the other without consequences.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
30 Jan 10
Very well said, both the events are non distinct part of our life and a must.
we should grab a job as soon as we are capable of doing that and get married before its too late however should not sacrifice one for the other.
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Taking into account with my own experience, me and my wife today had been is our close relationship for seven years before deciding to get married. The main reason is for us to be financially stable first before expanding our relationship into a full marriage life. That means jobs security, which importantly includes a high salary. A job that can last until my kids are fully grown-up in the future. I short we choice career first before venturing to the "marriage life". If one does not have a career, then theres a greater probability that the marriage fails.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
1 Feb 10
I completely agree with your comments, its not just love to drive the life and one need to have financial stability for a better life and to save marriage.
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I believe there's always a right time for everything. But in my situation now, I think I would choose career first. I am still very young to get married. I don't think I am ready to face heavy responsibilities of married life for now. I need to focus on what I need to achieve first for the betterment of my future and my future family as well. We are all experiencing recession nowadays and that I don't want my future family to suffer from poverty only because i chose to married early. If I think I am already stable and is responsible enough, I guess, that would also be the right time for me to engage in marriage.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
30 Jan 10
True, if you are stable and ready to handle family responsibilities, should get married. This way you future family will not suffer.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
30 Jan 10
I would partially agree with you, I have seen people starting their job after marriage and they are very happy.
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
29 Jan 10
I think all that depend in what stage of your life you are, in my case I am 28 years old and I achieve a lot of success in my career, so right now my boyfriend (soon to be husband) and my career have equal priorities, but years ago I wouldn't have said that, years ago I would leave any guy that would try to take time away of my career obligations.
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@dumbhead_97th (11)
• India
30 Jan 10
it doesn't matter if you get married early because you can continue pursuing your career!!!!it all depends upon your family and your husband mentality. if they are supportive that you can certainly continue perusing your career.if they are not supportive than you should not marry unless you reach your career goals.but anyway before you get married you should ask them will they allow you to pursue your career.in most cases they will allow you but in the families that are uneducated they will not because they think that after marriage the bride are supposed to be busy in the household works and not in any works outside home.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
1 Feb 10
what if we have to choose one at a time? You can always have deal with your would be but would that be possible always. we might end up with fighting before marriage. need to be practical for many reasons in life. Ultimately both the things are tightly related to each other, Marriage will not last for more time without financial support.
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