Being a single mother

Hi, Now you are already divorced I think there is no need for you to worry whether he is going to get matured or not because he is no longer attached to your life. What you have to do now is be strong and stay together with your three wonderful kids. Even if your husband is not a responsible guy you can't teach him to grow up because it is quite impossible, and guys mostly have egos if we tell them to do something they will absolutely not do it. You can always file your case in court so he would be responsible to pay part of the expenses for your kids. In this way, he will be forced to grow up if not he will end up in jail. This may sound cruel but what else can be done to a person who is egoistic but irresponsible at the same time? I wish you good luck and may God bless you and your kids always.

Children alone must have been difficult to grow.I think your ex-husband should also seek help

Being a single mother is not easy. My mother was a single mother and she said that the first few years weren't easy, and when my brother and I became teenagers she worried constantly. My brother and I both got sick a lot as teenagers and we both like to go out and party.

that's something he has to do on his own. I can't make anyone grow up if there not ready too. I would keep telling your children that everyday you love them. Kids are important to both parents and he should know that. Maybe you should have a talk with his mom and find out what she can do... Hope everything works out with you and your children.. I know divorce can be painful I went through it 2 years ago. take care

chrissy I would sort of tell him to shape up or ship out, as he is not helping himself or your children. Perhaps the threat of a restraining order a gainst him if he does not keep being so damned childish might stop his meanness. I know he has a right to see his children but could you get a court order to do this with someone else withyou as a mediator? it might stop his mean mouth.

Unfortunately this does happen. He will eventually see that what he is doing i s not working anymore as long as you do not feed into his behavior. Try changing the conversation in a polite manner or just not acknowledging his behavior and go about your business. Unless he is asking about his children and their well being try to keep the conversation short and simple in front of the children. If it really affecting you and your children go see a counselor or seek legal advice to see what your options to show that you are trying to resolve this and keep a good relationship with the children father. The children need to know that you can handle what comes along and you do find the resources to assist when you need some help. AS far as him wanting to know who you are seeing. I have to agree with him there and vice versa. These children will eventually be in the company of this other person. How well do either of you know this person (s) on either side? We've come to age that background checks are almost a must on people we meet. Look at the schools for example. How many times do you hear about a teacher or staff doing something they should not have that you did not hear about say 10 years ago? Too often if you ask me. You can only control your actions not someone else's. Good luck and take of yourself and your family as they need your love , support, and guidance so that they can learn the correct behavior on how to handle these situations. It's not a bad idea to seek help when you need it, just think about the help you are seeking and from who.Take Care!

Concentrate on your love for your three wonderfull kids and try to count on that more then the negative energy your ex-husband release every time you guys find eachother. Im telling you from the perspective of a child,because my father was in the same category with your ex-husband.(Im 24years old now). Regarding your question:i think you should understand that your ex-husband is part of the past,for you now and as you cant change the past you cant change him either. I understand the only conection betwen you two are the kids but i remember my mother always use to avoid being in the same room with my father just so he wont start with the same "speech" ,around me and my sister. Maybe you should tell him to stop this not if he respects you but he should respect your children because in time im pretty sure that your kids will build a negative feeling about their father.He should be aware of this. Hope the things will get better.