Should parents really have all the rights to decide the future of the child???

If not the parents, who then; the government? Yeah right. Parents must guide their children to be successful in their lives while at the same time keeping in mind that being overbearing can have an adverse and opposite effect. A happy child comes from happy and loving parents that are willing to spend their time nurturing them into adulthood!

Parents do not have all the rights to decide the future of the child.They can only guide.

I've never felt it's a parent's place to decide for a child what they're going to be, (or even who they will marry.) A person will always be a success doing what they love to do, and those that do something because they're told to will probably never be happy because they're having to live up to somebody elses expectations. Sure, we'd all love our kids to be professionals, but if not, we shouldn't ever make them feel guilty for making whatever career choice they make. With my girls, I let them pick what area they wanted to go in. They are both very happy with what they took for a life choice. I know parents who choose for their child have their best intentions, but I think at best it's a selfish motivation in a way. Each person has their own hopes and dreams, and when a child has to choose their parents wishes career wise, they are in effect squashing those dreams. You can be a success in any line of work so long as you are personally happy with it!

No, parents have no right to decide the future of their children. Once a child has turned 18, they are who they are going to be for the rest of their lives. They make their own decisions, right or wrong, and they choose their path in life. It may not be the path that mom and dad approve of, but it is not for them to decide. In the United States of America, people are free to choose their lot in life, and they are free to make any and all mistakes they see fit to want to make. In fact, sometimes, making mistakes can be entertaining, and making mistakes can lead to great progress. People can not choose what is going to happen to others. I believe in free will and freedom to choose. Imagine how miserable you will be if people always made decisions for you and you never got to choose for yourself. My family tried to determine what I would do as well, and sadly, I choose differently from then once I got to college. I did not want to be a singer for the rest of my life, I wanted to write. I did not want to major in Music, I wanted to major in English. I had that choice. My family could cut me off completely, and I will still stand by my decisions. I love reading and writing, and no one is going to take that from me.

Parents must give guidance, yes but parents can`t decide their children`s future. Sooner or later, children will grow and after they become adults, they have rights to choose.

Yes, I agree that the parents shouldn't have any say once the child turns 18. They probably give good advice, but if the kid doesn't want to listen and do it that way, they shouldn't have to.

I had the same experience because my family is from an asian background. My mom wanted me to become a doctor and she kept on pushing me to be one. When I finished high school, i didn't have any particular goal in life so I was like 'why not'?. As soon as I tried, it was ok, but then I couldn't enter med school because my grades weren't high enough. She flipped out and threaten me that she would go back to Asia if I wouldn't success. But we had to face it...my grades weren't high enough so i won'T become a doctor. It took her some time to understand that I can't accomplish her dream although I tried my best. Back then, I got furious at her for wasting my time. But now, I though of something that I couldn't when I was younger. Why do parents do this? My mom wanted me to be a doctor because she though it was the best carrer for me and she didn't want me to become like her. When she was forced to leave the country,she couldn't finish her education and she wished she did. She works nowdays sewing clothes and I must say that it isn't the ideal job you would like to do. Maybe your parents don't want you to suffer the same fate as their's. Wether they are rich or not, you do this for yourself. If my mom didn't push me to get a high education, i wonder what i would have become now. Although I am not a doctor, I am studying in another degree that makes me happy and pleases my mom. It is true enough that having a high salary and good status are the things that make your life complete. But I believe it does somewhat affect hapinness.

Every one has their freewill, Not because they're our parent, They have to decide what's right for us. The thing that they must do is not to decide but to GUIDE us. What's the reason of life if you cannot be happy to the extend of it. Luckily we weren't like that. ^_^

I believe that parents should be there for their children for love, support and guidance in every aspect of their lives. However, they should not meddle in or dictate how their children will live their life. They are not robots. They shouldn't be robbed of their freedom - especially of free will.

Yes even I am from India and in our country parents too try to decide the future of their children. In my opinion, parents must decide the future of a child until he is between 13-15 and after then the choice must be left to the child. But many parents think their children as kids even when they are 22 or 23 and that is the problem. But now the scenario is slowly changing and that's a good news

Hi MindEclipse! I think parents don't have the right to decide on their children's future. The are just there to guide their children on the right path since they are the ones who had better experiences in life. Even though they are the parents, they should never interfere on whatever decision their children makes. They should respect whatever decision or whatever path their children take in life. If their child chose a wrong path, they should give advice but should never force their kid to follow what they decide for them. Happy mylotting!

I think mostly all decisions regarding the children are taken by the parents in India. Somehow its right that they born us and they have rights to make decisions of our life. But they have to understand the feelings of the child Whatever we wants to do. According to me Parents have to give us advise about our future But they have to force us to do such and such things Only they advise and make us believable that whatever we want we can do But it doesn't harm them. Actually in childhood they know more than us and we are always satisfied with their decisions. But it cannot be continued for life time. Because sometimes came in our life which changes our Life as Marriage, After 10th class the stream in +1 and +2 or after +2 Some Parents force their child to become doctor, Engineer etc.. They have to allow us choose our interested stream. Its All I think about this topic.

I know many people who were nearly forced to do what they do by their parents. It was always difficult for me to understand the reasons wy parents do that to their own kids. Choosing what to do with your life should be left to your own wishes. Noone knows better what suites you best except for yourself. In my opinion, parents should give an advice or express their opinion but leave the decision making to kids. I'm so happy I always had a right to live my life the way I wanted.

nope, they dont have. whatever the situation is, parents is only there to guide their childrens, upbringing, provide for the needs. they should not be the one deciding for the future of their chidren, coz if they do, and children doesnt want that kind of future, in the end when they would become an adult, they could feel not contented with their lives. maybe they would rebel or would gone astray if their likes wouldnt be met. they would still find what things that could make them happy and contented with their lives. and i know those are right coz i do experience those. and now, i wont make that same mistakes again with my child. deciding for the future of their child has some advantages, but the disadvantages are much greater. so if your already a parent, dont just decide on your own. just ask your child what they want and they would be fulfilled and contented with their lives.

Hi MindEclipse, I think it is the parents job to instill values and morals in their children when they are young with the goal being for the child to be independent and on their own by the time they reach adulthood. We have 18 to 21 years to accomplish this which is more than any other species. In order for them to learn anything we have to let them learn to think for themselves and learn the art of decision making. We may have to watch them make a bad choice and let them suffer the consequence of that choice so they know it was bad and not do it again. You constantly tell a kid to stay away from the stove because it is hot. You are repeatedly telling them to stay away from the stove day in and day out. One day you have your back turned and they get burned. Bet you will not have to tell them again to stay away from that stove!

Every parent should only be at the forefront of their childs development. They should only support their childs potential to be their very best and they should not interfere with their career goals and plans for their future. They should only guide, protect and lead them to the right path of their lives.

I think parents should mold their children and offer them opportunities. However, as a child grows, and becomes an adult the child should decide their own fate. If a child decides he wants to be a beggar that is fine as long as he doesn't expect the family to feed him. As long as an adult is self-sufficient, he should be able to make his own decisions.

parents have the rights for their child but not all. cause when their child become teenager that child will wanted to become a independent people, so not all the rights of the parents cannot apply on that time.

parents should not decide but guide their children in what they aspire to become, unless if it's of course some nonsense stuffs. that may ruin their career as a whole. doing something you want will reap much more rewards than doing something you don't want. so the indian parents should come out of their stone age cells and cope things up!

I think parents can not have right to decide the future of the child. I think who know better what the child really want to be for the future is the child itself. Parents only can give suggestions, advises, or guidelines for their child to choose the right thing for their future life. And who can decide is the child itself. Because who will run the decision in the future, its the child, not the parents.