Is it fair to expect newly wedded girls to be expert chefs??
By MindEclipse
@MindEclipse (16)
New Zealand
5 responses
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
30 Jan 10
I have been married almost two and a half years and I am still learning how to cook. I go online and look for recipes. I have a cookbook that my late mother-in-law had started for me as a bridal shower gift. Instead of having everyone buy me a gift everyone had to submit a recipe or two for a cookbook she had created for me. I have found this to be a very useful gift because a lot of the recipes in there I have used. I hope to be a good cook by the end of the year.
@MindEclipse (16)
• New Zealand
30 Jan 10
I believe you are really blessed with such understanding relatives :)who let accept the fact that you are in the learning process and that anything and everythig requires time and effort...
But this doesn't hold true for most young girls who get married to very conservative families where they are scrutinized for everything they cook or make.
Happy for you and wish you all the cooking success :)
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
30 Jan 10
Thank you. I am also lucky that my husband wants to learn how to cook as well. I hear so many of my friend's complain that their husband's hate to cook. My husband and I share all household responsibilities. That was the way he was raised. I also told him that when we have children all of our kids regardless if they are boys or girls will learn how to cook and help clean around the house.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I don't know if it's fair to expect that anyone to be an expert chef. But it would be nice if the girl could cook. However, more and more guys can cook circles around some women, so I say "you go boy!"
I think it depends on the age of the girl too. I wouldn't expect someone that is 22 and newly married to be as good a cook as a woman 44 and newly married. But it just depends.
I tease my daughter who is 16 that my grand kids will starve because she is expecting that her husband will do all the cooking. LOL I tell her good luck with that.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
31 Jan 10
well, if they were good cooks beforehand then yes. otherwise, it is just the same as expecting any random person to wake up one day and be ale to do something.
@Galena (9110)
•
30 Jan 10
it is a bit silly. marriage isn't about cooking.
and cooking isn't something that becomes your duty when you get married. it's something you learn throughout your life, a continual learning process.
it isn't limited to one gender or the other. in the ideal marriage both partners do their fair share of the cooking and cleaning.
although the cooking is much more fun.
we both cook
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
I don't think it should be that way.if a girl isn't really interested in cooking,there's no way you can force her to become a great chef.I think it goes back to the old times when all women are stay-at-home wives.nowadays,women join the workforce to add extra income for the family.I think cooking can be learned anytime you want to.
