What should I do?
By torajiro
@torajiro (24)
Indonesia
January 30, 2010 1:41am CST
I have a friend who had a boyfriend.Her boyfriend who has leukemia disease according to doctors can not cure.The doctor said that his life will not be long now. My friend eventually know about it.My friend is very sad.. I don't know..what should I do? what can I do to reduce the grief? If I have to persuade my friend to leave her boyfriend? She is very love him.. please help my,what can you do if you become me? I am very sad because she is my best friend. Why my friend had to go through all that?
1 response
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
30 Jan 10
Just lend your shoulder to your friend and be there for her, as a listening ear rather than suggesting anything. Let nature takes its course, everything is fated. Have a video cam and let the memory last. At least your friend had a happy time with her b. One more thing is human has a natural ability to forget unhappiness and just remember the good times, but of course time has to play its part.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
1 Feb 10
It's really a very sad thing and there's nothing much you can do for her except to cry together with her. Your being there is a very big life support for her and you can make sure she is able to live through this ordeal. There isn't any need to advise, but simply tell her the memory will be there for her to keep. Let her know that she has you(friends) as well as family that loves her just as much as she loves her b. Let her know that you all will feel just as much of hurt and sadness that she is feeling now if she does any harm to herself. Ask her if she would make all of you to feel so much pain as she is feeling now? There isn't a need for her to answer but the message has been sent into her mind that she would have to consider for her parents and friends. Let her have a place to write down her sorrow and memory of her love and that actually can help heal. However, healing needs time and time heals everything. Just be there for her to ensure her safety. Don't ask her to forget, let her remember as there's much happiness inside the memory too.
