financial dependent?

Hi emediloy! I believe it depends on the situation. For me, in a relationship whoever has the means should be the one to give especially when it comes to financial or material things. However, sometimes it is also true that some men just use women for their material or financial need. That is why you have to be careful when engaging in a relationship. You should get to know the person first especially his background. I once had a boyfriend who does not have that much money. Whenever we go out on a date and I would take him to an expensive restaurant or place it would be me who is going to pay for it. That is the reason sometimes I let him plan for our date - just a simple date. I am sure that he is not just after my money because he makes me happy in his own simple and inexpensive ways. He would take me to a dining place where the foods are affordable and I let him pay the bill. I can see that he is happy that way. That he is able to pay the bill for our date. You would know if the guy is only after your money. There is what we call women instinct. What my previous boyfriend lacks in financial he makes up with his own simple ways to make me happy. That's when you will know that he really cares for you and loves you. :) I was not able to meet or get to know your past boyfriend so I cannot tell you if he was just using you that time. It will only be you who can tell that. You will feel it and you will know it.

Hi Emediloy, Well, all I can say is there are a lot of men out there who are like that. There are women like that also. My first husband stopped working just before our wedding and did not work throughout most of our marriage. My 2nd husband worked at times but went for long periods with no work. I worked steady through both marriages. I've been single now for a long time. I date and I'll tell you, once I see a guy is lame in his finances and starts thinking he is going to sponge off from me, i'm done. I am not looking for anyone to take care of me nor anyone to take care of. I'm very independent and I expect any man that I'm with to be the same. That isn't to say we can't help each other out from time to time but if it's an ongoing situation then it's wrong.

a lot of man are like that. sometimes they really love the woman, but they just cant help but keeps on asking for money. although sometimes they have their own job. they are just spending way too much of their own money. i think if its like that you should also use your mind over heart.

the man is using you for his financial needs.all people should be financially independent regardless of gender.I think your ex is a bum who is dependent of other for his needs and wants.he is a financial parasite.I have read that men consider financial independence as sign of being macho,that's why they get threatened or intimidated when a woman earns higher than they do.

It is definitely not normal. There are circumstances like if you are married and he is still in school while you are working, and the agreement is for you to pay the bills until he gets out of school. Or in case you are married and he gets sick, of course you would be the main provider. But basically, a man that depends on a woman is not good.

Hi emediloy, I believe that the bad things or the bad guy will make you realize what is right and good for you. I have beening in a relationship with a man who don't have much money and I paid for the meal most of the time. It was totally OK with me at the moment cos I loved him so much. But, finally I still chose to leave him because it was not a mature relationship that I wanted to have and sometimes I also need to feel that I was sheltered by someone. So, in some ways, money is the basis for love.I believe that you will find your Mr.Right next time after been through all these. Good luck!

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, so long as he is contributing in some way to the relationship. Money isn't everything. But if he's just using you for money, then that isn't really a girlfriend/boyfriend kind of relationship anyway.

HI, It is not normal at all... If you have to question whether the person you are with is with you because he likes you or likes your money you probably won't like the answer. Sadly there are a lot of men and women in this world who are going to take advantage of the one who has real feelings for them.. The way I see it is you really liked him and he hung around for the money and that is really not a nice thing to do.. If he really liked you and was just broke then that's a different story entirely but for the most part if I were you I would be very careful on who you are spending all your efforts on or you will wind up hurt when he leaves because his free ride is over.. what a slimeball.. I hate users...

If he had no money you cannot force him to pay and I think if he only had money he would pay for your share. I do not see him as bad because I sense that for real he do not have any money. Since like youve said you love him at the time, he is unable to just ignore and not be with you so he jumped in. Men are really like that, even if they do not love a girl and if the girl did, they will go for her. Men do not care if they dont love the girl as long as the girl is happy with them. Thats the reason why he wasnt able to let you go and it is stupid for a man to let go of a girl. Now this is why he ended up being with you, and not doing his share. 1) Lack of Money 2) Demands of the girl.