Learning to become insensitive out everything...
By joygracia
@joygracia (1325)
Philippines
January 30, 2010 11:39pm CST
Just recently broke up with my boyfriend this week.. I can't believe he is as insensitive as a stone.. we've been together for 2 yrs but when I opened up to him that i still like him and still would like to work things out together with him through leaving msgs in his facebook accnt, he totally erased them all.. Its completely not my fault we broke-up. I found out that he secretly made opened fb accnt without me knowing and when I accidently opened it up, there were lots of messages from him that he was never happy with our relationship that he wished he was with somebody else. He even befriended his ultimate crush, pointing messages there that he wished he was with her and all there memories together be relived again. I told him about that in a calm manner and he opened to me intently that he does like her again but he still is serious about us. I told him it really unfair but when It came to my point where I came to a decision that maybe I could still win his heart back and opened up to him about it, he just told me his happy of us only just friends right now... I felt suffocated hearing this. I kinda understand why he so insensitive coz he's been through alot of relationship. I just want to be the same thing. I want to be insensitive as he is. Only problem is I dont know how. His my first. I dont know how to start.. pls help!!!
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12 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 10
joygracia just tell him you have had enough, that he hurt you and you do not have to put up with that anymore. You like
yourself to be his emotional punching bag. tell him to get
lost and let you find someone who will love you for the
great person you are. then point to the door, and say sweetly there is the door, use it and do not let it slam you in the butt. bye now. Start right now to not let him or anyone else walk all
over your feelings. you can find another person who will love you for yourself.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 10
typo should be you like yourself too much to be his emotional punching bag. tell him to get lost.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I will do that... I have to admit I'm kinda bit of a weakly type but I'll try to do that ...
@mjcookie (2271)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
You wanna be insensitive? I am surprised when you said that. You're putting yourself into trouble. I am not gonna help you to be insensitive because I don't want you to. You know that's not right. You said you couldn't believe how insensitive he was to you, and you didn't like it, right? Now you want yourself to be an "unlikable" person. Don't try to do that just because you feel like retaliating or something. It's never good to be numb or cold like a rock. Just accept that love hurts. Being sensitive means that you are capable of loving...
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
31 Jan 10
Exactly there is no necessity to become an insensitive person, if you are a good person, celebrates that, if you are good, good things are going to come to your life, love hurts sometimes and also rejection, but revenge is not the solution, the solution is to cut with all the negative things in your life.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
31 Jan 10
I think you need to distance yourself from him. Maybe make a list of things you would like to try or to do and start doing different things without him. ignore him and ignore facebook for a week or two, just to give yourself some space. Then you can figure out whether you want him back or not.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes.. I did realize maybe I ought to stop thinking about the hate, the hurt and everything that deals with him and just be get busy with all the things that I've loved doing.. thanks alot
@pepayz (43)
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31 Jan 10
hi joy!don't cry over spilled milk.your boyfriend is not good as it appears in your discussion.Leave him.Look for another man which has qualities of a true man; sincere,loyal,truthful,thoughtful, kind and loving. Just e yourself.Te right man will come.Pray to God that you will one day meet the right man for you.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes.. but I think I going to rest my heart for awhile.. I had just split with him so I"ll try to forget him soon.. thank you so much..
@healthbeauty (483)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Just let him go. Make yourself happy and busy... Go out with your friends... Watch movies, play video games, shopping, sing along...or if you do not want to go out and you want to stay at home then read books, watch tv/movies or invite your friends to come to your house or just do mylot for you to earn at the same time... If it doesn't work and feel sad just let it out cry cry cry until all the pain is gone.. He doesn't deserve you... There are a lot of guys that you will meet and someday that the man that deserve you will come at the right time. Just pray always to God. Let him do whatever he wants just forget about him.
@luvlymee26 (326)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 10
Hi joygracia... I'm sorry i don't know how to be insensitive. But i really want to share in your discussion. I hope u don't mind if i can't give u any help, but still write in your discussion. But i have the same wish with u. I wish to be insensitive out everything too. And right now, im in the same situation like u. It's really hard when we find out if someone that we really love, he's really insensitive about us. It feels like he never care about us in everything. I really wish that my heart is as hard as a stone.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes.. I think I get what you mean when you feel o preoccupied out of everything you just don"t know when to start being insensitive.. its hard.. but I"ll try to learn it..
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
The best thing you have to do is let go of him & your feelings for him for he already cheated on you if you did not caught him doing that he may not tell you about it so move on life is beautiful everything has a reason why it happened that way so better forget about him he does not deserve you love. Take time to heal the hurt forget him move on & love yourself. Don't even bother to think about him soon you will realize that you totally healed & moved on.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
definitely.. I will do that.. he is never worth it... what pains me the most is I can't help blaming myself why I let myself be drawn by all his lies.. I will forget him and I will do it starting now.. thank you so much..
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
3 Mar 10
Just let go as he has made things that would somehow cause pain on your part. His insensitivity is just a subtle way to distort or distract your attention towards him or rather putting a "period" on your relationship. Just stay the way you are, be thankful of knowing what he really is, and just move ahead with your chin up high..don't despair as someone who is God-sent would soon come up..
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I can really understand why you are so upset, because he really is extremely insensitive, and the things he did behind you back were not the best. First of all if he was so unhappy with the relationship, why he didn't tell you anything? why he didn't try to find a solution to the problem. He preferred to betray you. This guy doesn't deserve you, that is one thing, and the other one is that it doesn't matter how many things he has gone through, that doesn't give him the right to treat you like that, I also have to say that you leaving message in his facebook account is not the best idea, it is not private enough. But however you shouldn't be as insensitive as he is, because in the future you want to have the opportunity of love and be loved. Put this guy behind, and enjoy your life with someone that really deserve you.
@dhs1008 (100)
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31 Jan 10
hey thats very rude of him. why last 2 years wherein hes not happy about. is he too gay not to say those words to you?. hes so unfair. he's not the right kind of guy for you. there are a lot of guys out there who's more serious and are not liars. hes so mean and rude guy. you should get over him. we learn from mistakes, it makes us stronger. you can handle those, i know you could.
@enyniya (299)
• Bulgaria
31 Jan 10
Relationships are had and I am sorry you've suffered from something so wonderful as love! The only thing you can do is to up with it and let time heal your wounds. You have no other choice.. but it;s up to you to decide whether or not you two are going to be friends, but don't hate him, that would hurt you even more.
Don't regret that you are not insensitive, this shows you have a heart!
@lincolntruth (17)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I was with my girlfriend for 3 years before I broke up with her, after that it was over and there was no way I wanted her back. It was easier to just stay broken up after that. I didn't love her and being insensitive was the only way to make her move on. He wants you to move on, he may be insensitive because of that (or he is a jerk).
Either way, someone that is treating you like that, and broke up with you via facebook shouldn't be desired anyway.
So don't stay with a guy when you see this: http://www.mylot.com/w/image/2302254.aspx
The above just happens to be from a girl.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I think he is a jerk really.. I dont deserve him.. thanks for sharing..
