Long Distance/Online Relationship...

My wife and I met in the virtual world of the Internet as well and also not in those dating sites. So its somewhat similar to what you're going through. We've been there. We chatted for quite a while and got to know each other over time spent chatting about anything and everything. All I can advise you is that if you think he's worth it then tell it to your parents. I guess it would also help if you try to introduce him to your parents by telling them about him. Like tell them what both of you like in common and what are his interests. My point is try to court your parents as if its the guy who's courting them. You get my drift? I think it would help and it might give them some peace of mind knowing who the guy is. Internet has really made communication all across the globe very easy that you can meet people from anywhere and you can find relationship across miles of distance. But of course you also need to exercise caution as some are just using masks over the internet pretending somebody else to probably lure women/men into a relationship with them. So its all a matter of choice. Be wise.

before meeting him , you have some questions you'd better think about carefully: do you really want him to enter your real life??? from your description, i can draw a conclusion that you are not so out-giong. in my opnion, your e-pal is so patient that he can wait such a long time to for you to ge ready, he maybe is not a bad guy. he is worthy for you to take a risk,but for your safety ,you'd better ask him to come to your place, since your parents have known about him, you can introduce him to your family....

I don't believe this kind of relationship. If you guys can't see each other, how can you keep the passion? Besides, there are too many temptations around you, I don't think people can avoid all of those all the time.

Now, this is a tough one. A)He could be a psycho and B)Even if he's everything you think him to be you've still got to alleviate your family's fear of point A. Maybe you could suggest that your first meeting be "on your turf"? Maybe you could take someone with you? I know, realistically both those ideas may seem cheesy, ask the fam for ideas when you tell them. One thing is, though, to be entirely safe, you would consider ONLY meeting him/with him in public places. I wish I had better ideas. Actually, I've been the male involved in a couple of circumstances like this... My worst experiences just center around disappointment. I can only imagine how hairy it is for a travelling female. Good luck!

Well to tell you the truth, I fully understand why they are so concerned, you are not going to meet a guy in your own hometown, where there are friends and family around that can help you if some emergency happen. There are so many things that people say through the internet that are not truth, I am not saying that this is your case, but there is no way to find out until you meet him, and that is going to be taken place in a very risky scenario. I would say that if you can take your parents with you, so it can make the situation safer.

I was 16 when I introduced my online boyfriend whom I loved to my mom. She freaked for a while, but eventually she and my dad became more understanding and even arranged some free long-distance minutes per month on our home phone and let him stay here when he visited last May. Sadly we're not together anymore due to personal reasons, but my parents knew about him and even let him stay at our house for a week and a bit when he came to see me, and I'm only 18 now. You're even older than me, so your parents should trust you to be more mature and know how to deal with yourself =P

Bring your parents with you. I wouldn't go anywhere to meet some guy without other people. He might be OK on the internet, but not so OK in real life.

i don't see any problem to this. i think you are already in the right age and you know what you are doing. maybe, if i am your father and you will say that you will go to a wedding and you are the bride.

I think that you should go for it. You are old enough to make up your own mind and your parents should be able to respect your decision making by now. I know that you do not want to upset them and you are still under their wing, so to speak, but you sound like you know what you are doing and would not jump into anything stupid. I know of two couples who have met online and they are getting along really well. One couple has gotten married and the other have not, but they have had a child together. I think that love can find it's way through distance and computers, so you have to give it a try!

Sounds very exciting. And if he's really the one, then it would be oh so romantic! But as for meeting him, I don't want to rain on your parade, but I think you'll be the best one to judge that. Like you said, you've been talking to him for over 2 years, so you must know what he looks like. And if you can take him if he ever pulls out any funny stuff. Anyway, good luck!

It is the problem faced by almost every girl in this whole world, and partly the parents are right too, but this world is so big there are many kind of peoples here with different thoughts, different attitudes, different likes and dislikes, you can't know anyone well without meeting or spending sometime with him/her, I mean to say we can't be sure about anyone without getting close to him/her, so I think for once you should meet him and then go ahead. have a nice time.

For me,i dont think i should go there without having to see him in person yet, in a place that is safe for me.There are many weird people online, and u must not disregard this possibility with him.I know uve been talking to him for two long years now, and thats really long enough to know him.but not enough to take a risk on meeting him im person in his territory. I suggest he see u first in your country,from there you could somehow gauge is he is really what he is in the way he projects himself online. Be safe...

I think you ought to meet him at least once, spend some time maybe in a public place if you or your parents have any qualms about it, or maybe meet a couple of times after the first meeting goes well, and also take your parents in confidence- after all you are a grown up and can take your own decisions- you know what is right & wrong for you. It is only after meeting a person a couple of times the true person comes out - not in the first meeting(which is normally a mask by the way. So go ahead tell yr parents and meet him All the Best

if your parents are not really comfortable with you going to meet him then why not invite him over for dinner. in that way your parents can get to know him and see the type of guy he is. also i do not think it is wise to go so far away especially if you are meeting him for the first time.

Long distance relationship is just a kind of relationship which between the couple have no more option for their relationship to being apart by distance. However, a relationship is a feeling, not a physically thing which we can touch it everytime. I think since our moderm world have lots of high technology inventions such as mobile phone, internet, and many more, you might can try to use it for your relationship. The most important thing in a relationship is on frequency. If you can keep contact with your beloved one using webcam, sms, phone, etc, i think there will be no matter with a long distance relationship. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

It's not wrong to have a long distance/online relationship most especially if the two of you really like each other and one thing more hey you're not the only one who has that kind of relationship, I mean a large number of people are in the same shoes as you are so why bother. On the other hand, before you finally speak to your parents about that you must be sure that he's worth otherwise your parents might be disappointed but if you know him that much though it's an online relationship it's okay.

I think in that situation, they won't really allow you to go since you are still a student. Besides, you really don't know that person well since you haven't had the chance to meet before. If you want, and if he's really interested about you, you should ask him to go to where you are living now in order for him to meet your parents in person and let him ask for your parents' permission. I don't have any idea how far is Az from Boston since I am from Philippines. but if he really likes you, he should go far that distance just to see you, right?

Only one tip in one line only. "GO, meet him!!!!"

Hmmm. Been in that situation before. lol. I think you have to meet him. And you have to introduce him to your parents too or else the shock would make them awake for a while like more than caffeine overdose. lol. It is good that that your parents knew about him, at least it would pre-empt the meeting in the soonish time. Try to suggest the idea of meeting him to your parents and see how they would react to it. Even if it is a nod or not just give it a try still. Atleast they would know who their daughter has been talking to over the internet :D Goodluck!

well, you should have met him at least once. its not a bad idea to meet up. at least you could talk to each other personally and face to face. then you'd know if hes that great good guy that you would be giving your love to or maybe friendship. i mean, you haven't met him personally, you cant just let someone in at your life without knowing him first. that would be a bad idea. and as for your parents, they play a great role in your life. you could ask them advices about that, that's if your parents are that open minded and not judgmental. good luck to you.