TRUST ISSUES with a friend, Is it WORTH it to TRUST for the second time...again?

Philippines
February 1, 2010 1:41am CST
Hi fellow mylotters...i'm just wondering, my friend is asking for an advice regardinrg trust issues. She has a boyfriend for almost 5 years already...they have been having problems with trust because the guy cheated already in the past. Right now the guy is not being honest again...not with another girl but with other concern. Do you think it is just reasonable to give the guy a chance again? Or just leave the fact that he's not handling the trust issues well. Please tell me your concerns and reactions. Thanks
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4 responses
p3ks626
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
If I were in that kind of situation, I think I could never give the person another chance. I just got the idea that once a person does that to you then he can do it again. Trust is one of the most crucial issues in a relationship. If I dont trust the person whom I am having a relationship with then there's no reason for me to continue having the relationship with him. Trust is also very delicate, once it is broken it is broken into a million pieces and it will be hard for you to put it back. I think it would be better if love is lost because there is a possibility that you can love that person again.
hapsicordable1
@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes, once trust is broken it's gonna be hard to put it back together again...I believe that trust can only be earned and not freely given to someone. Thanks for the comment. Happy mylotting.
gracce
@gracce (335)
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi I think that guy should not be trusted anymore, your friend will get hurt again if he can cheat her twice, He may cheat her again. It will good for her to be with a genuine person than with a cheater.
hapsicordable1
@hapsicordable1 (475)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes grace, that's the same advice I gave her and it seems like she's getting the hang of it...I just do hope she'll love herself more this time. Thanks for the comment. happy mylotting.
sid556
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
2 Feb 10
If I were you, I'd not get in t he middle of this one. If your friend doesn't trust the guy then it doesn't matter whether he is guilty or not. trust is everything. this is a problem for your friend to figure out. I'd stay clear if I were you.
ybong007
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
I always believe that everyone deserves a second chance. People tend to make mistakes. We commit mistakes so that we will learn from it. In this case, i think it is OK to trust the guy again. But the burden should not be on the person who got cheated on but on the cheater himself. If he wants a second chance he should prove himself worthy of that trust. As the song goes "shame on you if you fooled me once, shame on me if you fooled me twice. Cheers!