Is it good to have a boyfriend who is 11 years older than you?

China
February 1, 2010 7:43am CST
Is it normal to have a boyfriend who is 11 years older than you?
7 responses
chemist2writer
@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Well, it is good to have a boyfriend 11 years older than you but is it normal? By most standards, that is alright if you are an adult. Say, in your mid-20s or older but if you are less than 18 years old, then that can be a problem - it would not be normal, it is shunned by society because the man would then be a "cradle-snatcher" - much more if the girl is less than 15 years old! Is is normal? The answer is both a "yes" and "no"! That depends on the situation and the age of the girl/lady.
msjanetjones
@msjanetjones (99)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I agree that it really depends on the age. If you are under 18 then no it's not good. Honestly, I think you should be at least 25 or so to go out that far in age difference. People in their 20's or younger just have so much life to live and learn from while people in their 30's are becoming more decided and settled in life. I am 38 **cough cough** and my husband is 48. So right at 10 years apart. We have been together going on 8 years and this is the strongest relationship I have ever had. I am completely committed and enjoy the journey of life with him every day.
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chemist2writer
@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Yup. That is just what I said - mid-20s begins at 25 . My hubby and I are just at the 5 years and 5 months gap.
junrapmian
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
For me, it's just okay if I'm in relationship with 11 years older than me. There's nothing wrong with that as long as we love each other, anyway, age doesn't matter, isn't it? Provided we're both adults and he understands my moods. I know that mature persons are more understanding and I can expect to be pampered so much.
msjanetjones
@msjanetjones (99)
• United States
1 Feb 10
That's the whole key. If both of you are adults then it's your business! :)
toxicash
@toxicash (41)
• India
1 Feb 10
see m a boy and i wont my if my girlfriend is 11years smaller than me.but i think people feel it a bit odd...bcoz the age gap is quite large...
rsfmkta
@rsfmkta (198)
• India
1 Feb 10
I don't think it is normal to have a boyfriend who is 11 years older.. Actually I didn't find any person who is like this category, not even listened about this kind of story. That's why I'm think it is not normal.
yojitpr
@yojitpr (29)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
yes. actually all of my bf's were older than me. the last one was 17 yrs older. hehehe it's good cause they are more mature. talk to them all you want, for me same age with me they are non-sense to talk with, immature.
xanniepoox
@xanniepoox (71)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I wouldn't say normal, but honestly, age doesn't matter if the love it there. I'm dating someone 5 years younger and we've been going strong for over a year now. I guess it really just depends on the person.
andryan7legends
@andryan7legends (1297)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 10
I think it's pedophile hehehe. Kidding friend. It's all right if you love him. It's about love. Age is just a number!