Has any one ever broken your heart in love?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
February 1, 2010 11:06am CST
Many people experience this pain of love failure when their partners break their hearts. It is too painful to bear. Fortunately I have not experienced it so far in my life.
Or
Have you ever broken any body's heart for some reasons?
Fortunately I have not broken any body's heart-this is what I would like to say but unfortunately I can't say this now. 2 of my relative girls (at that time they were girls) seemed to have gone mad when they heard about my marriage.
It is still pricking my heart though I was not at all responsible for it.
Can you share your experiences friends?
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22 responses
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi vijayanths
I think in this matter also we are sailing in the same boat. Though i am not directly responsible, but indirectly I have broken lots of people's heart when they heard about my marriage date.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
But you have not given me the statistical data of the broken hearts. Will it be more than a hundred?
But you seem to be happy to have broken their hearts, don't you feed sorry for them vathsala? just wondering...
I really feel for my victims.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
2 Feb 10
In my knowledge may be 4 and without my knowledge I do not know how many. Definitely I do feel sorry for them but what can I do? Did I ask them to develop a crush on me or expect me to love them or marry them when I am interested to pursue my carrier and working hard to achieve my goal and when I am no more interested to love anyone except my studies and carrier
@mutpal74 (314)
• India
2 Feb 10
Not every body is lucky enough to experience this pain you are talking about.And those who have experienced this pain certainly will not want it to happen even with his/her wildest enemy.As per as this pain is concerned I am sure for those who having it deep in their heart , they will never want to come out of it because for them this is their one and only remedy.
"Sach kahe te hai log ke pike rang nasha ban jata hi...
.... Koi bhi ho jakham e dil ke dard dawa ban ja ta hi." some body pl translate it for my English readers.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
2 Feb 10
hi mutpal
dil ke dard dawa kahan ban tha hai magar jyadha kar detha hai usee yaad mey naa
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
2 Feb 10
No one has broken my heart IN love nor have I done the same.Do yoummean to say the girls truly became mad and are totally senseless now?Why?Was yours a love marriage then?And did some muraipengal break their hearts over you?AAre they now alright?Girls are resilient creatures ; Especially, if these girls have married and settled down[whether their husbands are good or not is not your concern]you need not feel guilty.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
No Kala thank God they did not get insane. I just tried to say that they felt very bad when they heard about my marriage(later on from other relatives I came to know this)
They got married. I don't have any touch with them but they are living happily.
Still I have some guilty feelings in me though I was not directly responsible.
Official victims 2, may be more than that who knows girls of that time never reveal their true feelings to any one.
@thesaiyanprince (542)
• India
2 Feb 10
no buddy...no one has broken my heart so far... as of now only one gf for me and she is really cool... i dunno if she can ever broke my heart...
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
hi, thesaiyanprince, nice to note no one has ever broken your heart. Don't worry you will never get that bad experience in your life.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
2 Feb 10
i have experience this sad love before several years.it left me sad memory.i have love him deeply and hope that we would be together forever.so i devote all to him.but he betrayed me and left me alone.i hate hime at that moment and let my love put into collapse and make me fall into the suffering.so i forget this thing after several years.i learn to live alone and depending on myself to live and face my life and start my new life and learn to let him hide my memory.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
It is so sad bingchen, you had a terrible time. But he is not the end of world. I am sure you will have a better life soon, my best wishes for you.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
hello dear brother,
The moment i was engaged to get marry,one guy(one of my close friends)approached me personally saying,"how i broke his heart".Ohhh,i never knew he loves me from the start of our friendship and was able to hide his feelings.
I had turned down few proposals,not intending to break their heart,but,i can't say yes to them all.(what shall i do)
Ok...now i knew how does it hurt for breaking someone's heart...i learned my lesson.
Someone did broke my heart(bwuhuhuhu...why did you ask such question my dear bhai...wahhhhhhhh)
again....wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
oh, it is true that we can't marry all who propose us.(how sad)
I started this discussion after seeing your similar discussion on this subject.(you gave me this idea)
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
aha..so u got the idea from me ohhhh
I am still mending a broken heart (ouchhhh)
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
oh this seems to have meaning, laglen. I think you made a good point there.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
I am sure I did not break someone's heart. But I experience broken heart when I was young, but the boy did not know it because I just keep the feelings all by myself. I was 12 then, i experienced broken heart just because we graduated in primary school and I will never see him again. Another boy cause my broken heart for the 2nd time, that was when I was graduating in college. It was second semester on my 4th year in college when i witness a very very handsome gift from God. For the first time I saw him, I know I will love him. He makes me inspire and by only seeing him, he really makes my day and forget all my burdens. We already met by a friend, but it seems he was not that much interested about me. So he broke my heart.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
3 Feb 10
I am still alive..so my heart is intact...at least not broken to pieces......rest earthquakes keep coming...i don't care...but to survive through them is the big thing...and I am glad I have understood what love is and what is its meaning int his practical world...so my heart is not broken ..it is enlightened
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
2 Feb 10
hi vijayanths,
that is common there are lot of failures in love,first off all it is not love,it is lust,that is only attraction at that age,true love is different,we have to inform the boy or girl,about the love and the consequences they have to face in their future life,besides that what can we do?have a nice day
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
But yugasini some people are in serious love and they never reval, that is another problem here in India.
@sudeep13582 (44)
• India
2 Feb 10
Yeah I have broken someones heart... prev year this time she was in my life... we celebrated the valentines day (14th feb, 2009), that was our first and last vday.. dont know what should I do this year. Actually he tried to tell me something, tried to make me understand her ... but I didn't.. I couldn't..
Her name is Sangeeta...
@sudeep13582 (44)
• India
2 Feb 10
sorry there is a mistake.. I have written he instead of she... it would be..
"Actually she tried to tell me something"
sorry for the mistyping...
@laura_lmaxi (678)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Oh that has happen to me so many times, that I can't even count them, but one thing that I never forget is that if you have hopes, good things come to your life. Those days, when I had so many failed relationship and so many guys played with my heart, I never loose the hope, the I found my boyfriend, which is the best man in the world, he has been everything to me, he has support me in everything I do, and as I don't have a very good health he is always there for me, he takes care of me when I am sick, and he is the best.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Feb 10
oh, laura, thank God at last you found your man. My best wishes for your life.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I have had my heart broken twice, once in my teens and once when I was 20 years old. I had been going out with a guy when I was in high school for about 3 months and I really liked him a lot and we had what seemed like a really good relationship. I went a way for the weekend with my parents and when I got back he broke up with me just out of the blue, I think I was more shocked than anything because had been going really well. Later that day he apologized and said he didn't know why he did that and he wanted to try again, but we never did get back together after that.
Then when I was 20 I had been going out with a guy for a couple of years when he broke up with me for someone else. It really hurt, my heart actually ached. A week later he was sending me flowers every day apogizing and begging for me to take him back. It was a hard time and I had been confused and had started dating someone else. I didn't know what to do I dated both of them for a while but that just didn't feel right and I eventually broke it off with him.
@edu4625 (188)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I think that everyone has a broken heart at some point in life.
We fall in love with people who don't reciprocate our love or are unsuitable for us.
It is natural and I think that it helps us to be more empathetic to our partners because we know how difficult relationships can be and how people can get hurt.
A lot of people including me have said that losing their first love seems to have been the most difficult experience and one they never forgot. With your first love your heart feels as if it is breaking when it doesn't work and you feel like you will never love anyone else the same way. You won't because it was your first experience but you will love again.
@shan0822 (433)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Actully I don't know, I break with a boy when we were in college. It's kind silly, we were young and I just said we not good for each other, but in my heart I want he prove how much he love me. But he didn't say anything and I even don't known is he love me or just like me.
@mynameiscindere (582)
• India
2 Feb 10
It is not possible to live a life without LOVE,
Also it is not possible to live a life without hurting any one(knowingly or unknowingly).
As for me, I prefer to show my love, so anyone who is close to me know how far I love my soulmate,
And I'll tell anyone who tries to be close with me, This is just to keep them away from me or stop them loving me, so that I won't hurt them.
Though its not possible, since what I'm doing will surely hurt them, but its my tactic, so that they'll hurt less.
And yes, I get hurt everyday from my soulmate.
You know how it'll feel when your mate shares everything with someone else than you.
I never disclosed this to my partner, I don't want to hurt. But in turn I'm getting hurt.
I feel these feelings need not be taught, it should come naturally, if there is a presence of LOVE between two people.
@dilipmiester (932)
• India
2 Feb 10
i havent broken anyone heatrs but i was broken into, pieces a couple of times by loved ones . they left me for some small issues . . . i would say those times as the worst in ur life .
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
yeah i've been hurt several times in the past.. the last one being the most painful.. we parted ways because our situation is a little complicated. but i think everything happens for a reason.. i learned a lot with what happened to us. Im happy now with someone else and i think i would never be where i am now if not for the heartbreaks i've been to in the past. ;D