What would you think if a preacher refused to marry you?

Hi, free_man. Yes, if it was me, I would be very concerned as to why the preacher does not want to marry me to the man that I am in love with. I would wonder why myself. It has to be a reason especially if they were told no twice.. Maybe God gave these preachers a sermon or something. I feel that the preacher should have honestly told the woman why he feels that she should not marry the man that she is in love with. There has got to be some reasonable explanation for this. I would be very concerned and I would want some answers quickly. If a preacher knows something that I don't know, I would rather for him to tell me.

I haven't heard personally situation like this. I guess the preacher had the option to refuse. The preacher as what you have wrote,know the man(the groom)and,maybe,the preacher knows the man very well,and that,the preacher thinks and feel that,that man won't be a good husband,so,the preacher refuses to conduct the ceremony if he feels that,whatever wrong or problem occurs with the couple afterwards...he will be responsible of it. We never knew the real reason,but,we had to respect the preacher. It would really sounds odd...i will also ask the real reason behind the refusal,so that,i won't think bad towards the preacher. Getting clear answer will always be better rather than having some speculations. Have a good day always

I would wonder as well. But I would also like to point out the fact that a preacher should always have the option to refuse.

The number one reason I'd be wondering why, is if the man had been divorced, and the woman as well... but seeing as you say this doesn't bother him, maybe it's the fact that the man has done something wrong in the church, or if it's a catholic priest, maybe confession was given, and something unholy was revealed and the preachers just wanted to protect your MIL? I'm not really sure. I've never had a preacher refuse to marry me, we had to get another preacher for reasons I won't go into...

I have heard of preachers refusing to marry couples. The preacher may have told your mother in law or her husband why and they just aren't saying. The preacher is only gonna tell you and family members so much so not to cause an unbalanced harmony in the family. He wants everyone to see for themselves not take his word for it. I know when I married the minister sat us both down and talked to us for about 2 hours before he agreed too marry us. He never talked to us one on one like many do. Everything was fine until the day of the wedding. I arrived at the church and the minister walked up to me kissed my forehead and told me if I wanted to back out do so now and he would understand. I looked at him in amazement and said no this is what I want. It wasn't until we were in the limo on our way to the reception that I found out he had arrived at the church drunk and the minister had to sober him up. Needless to say we are going through a divorce presently. Yes take warning when a preacher, Minister, Priest, Rabi etc... say no I'm not marrying you or ask you if you want to back out there is some underlying reason.

at that point, i'd have really wondered what i was getting into. did she ever find out what's wrong with this guy? i'm pretty curious to know what he could have done that was so wrong that not one but two preachers refused.

With over 50% of all marriages ending in divorce, I'm wondering if marriage should be abolished? After all,who in their right mind would buy a car if there was a 50% chance of it breaking down, and a car is designed to last 10 years while a marriage is for life! Very Very unrealistic isn't it! AS for the preacher - this is a different story. Who is a preacher to judge the merits of a would-be husband? I take everything religious with a grain of salt! My faith is limited to what I can see, touch, and taste and hear, and the last thing in this world I'd worry about, is a Preacher's judgment.

hello there, I d believe there are reasons why the preacher didn't want to have them married unless they knew information that could cause problems with the other partner. they're just being cautious not to let any one married just because they spent time here and there. that's why there's always counseling before marriage, not sure what religion is that refusing a marriage

It would tend to make me avoid preachers... Which I do anyway - so no harm there! I plan to have an atheist ceremony.

I think the lust & the spiritual, don't mix. How a preacher will perform his duty or representative of God if he would marry.Also it's an option of preacher if he can handle it.If you could look on the Leviticus, priest marry in-order to perform their duty & continue the race. God choose a priest. Preacher now a days have an option to marry or not.

Wow the guy sounds like a total jackass to me. Preachers are generally really calm and nice and... religious people. If two preachers turned you down because they didn't like the guy you were marrying then heck, there's red flags everywhere. It IS your own choice whether or not to marry the guy in the end anyway, so meh.