do you think a guy should always pay when on a date???
By mitchii
@mitchii (154)
United States
February 1, 2010 5:57pm CST
just wondering.. there are a lot of females that think its only right for a guy to pay for a date because there are other things that your man would like from a women like cooking or things of that nature. but some others think that it should be 50/50 i think the first date a guy should pay especially if he asks you out i think its extremely tacky if the guy has no money and expects you to pay when you asked her out on a date!! what do you guys think??
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37 responses
@yparson (581)
• United States
2 Feb 10
If the guy is the one who invited the women, then yes he should. If the women ask, then she could pay for it or asked the guy if he wants to buy her for dinner which he will pay for it. I guess its okay for the lady to pay if its his relative.
@emine08 (1551)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 10
I think If a guy ask a women to go out, he must pay for it. If he doesn't have any money please don't ask a women to go out. just spend a night by watching movie in his house. But a women ask a guy to go out, she must pay for it. so it is fair, isn't it?
@geogirl85 (116)
• United States
2 Feb 10
If it was a first date, and he's the one who asked her out, then I think he should pay. If it was more of a mutual decision, then it is cool to go halves. As the relationship progresses, though, he shouldn't have to continue paying for every date, something more along the lines of "you pay for dinner, I've got the movie" or just trading off alternating who pays for the dates seems more appropriate.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
It really depends on the person involved already. There are some guys out there that are still not letting women pay for their share because they believe a guy should. But there are some people who would much prefer to be 50/50 so that they do not waste any of their money if the pair does not work out in the future. This is a new age where things are a bit different already. There are some that are a bit to the sweet side by paying everything and there are some who would rather be 50/50. There is nothing wrong with it and I believe it is just a matter of seeing things in a positive way than negatively.
@mitchii (154)
• United States
2 Feb 10
i agree with you to some extent,your right things have changed alot since back in the day and i dont mind pitching in every now and then matter of fact ive done it a few times, but what i dont understand is why would someone say they would pay 50/50 just in case it doesn't work out?? that makes no sense to me because if it doesn't work out you still wasted "some" money in the first place. i think that is ridiculous! if you going to go 50/50 it should be because you think everything should be equal not because your not sure if she's worth spending on. if that was the case he shouldn't have even went on a date with her in the first place. that's like being "half productive" because your not sure of the outcome. putting your all gives you better results not just on relationships but in everyday life.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
2 Feb 10
It is really controversial, and I don't have the absolute right answer for it. Some people argue that 50/50 is the right choice. Other would say, a gentleman should pay for the lady. In my opinion, on a first date, like your perspective toward guy, a guy should pay since the guy made the initiative, and I agree with your judgment. But not on every single day, guy and lady should share the burden.
@mitchii (154)
• United States
2 Feb 10
a gold digger is waaaaay more than asking for a guy to pay for a date! a gold digger is in every way shape of form trying to get money from that person on several things without contributing and sometimes by any means necessary, and trust me, food at a restaurant is at the bottom of the list. you cant be a gold digger if you want a guy to pay for a date every know and then an actually back in the day it was unheard of for women to pay for a date and no one called them gold diggers back then...back then it was "the right thing to do" how ever i totally understand we are in different times and like i said before i have no problem picking up the bill at times(i actually did yesterday). i believe if you asked than you should pay its only right but in a relationship i believe in 50/50
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
16 Jul 10
well if is the first date i agree with you^^ is better the guy pays bcs is more gentle ahah^^ but the other times i dont think is fair being always the guy paying for it. one day pays one other day pays the other^^ i think is sweet that way^^ also that way is not always the same person paying for it^^ if they are together they both share the expenses so one day one pays for the dinner both had and other time is the other one^^
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
2 Feb 10
No, is it the 40's? Women are quite capable of paying their own way in the world. I think it's nice if you divide payment. One person pays one week, one person pays the next week, and so on. Or, alternatively, you could do it so one person pays for the movie ticket and one person buys the snacks and drinks. I always thought it was kind of sexist when I went out with a guy and the waiter automatically assumed he was paying. I got around this by going to places I knew real well and where the people also knew that I would tip them badly when I came back with said guy in toe if they did that.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
times have changed, mitchii. going on a date involves two people, so both of them should also be involved in the expenses. but, i know that there are still a lot of couples who think traditionally... and it's the guy who foots the bill. but the number of couples sharing on the expenses is growing...
@dobstar (56)
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2 Feb 10
Hi,
Nowadays, I think that females should be aware that the thing that guys are supposed to pay for a date sounds kind of some old-fashioned thing. I think that if it is a first date, the guy will eventually pay the bills just because it will show that he is a gentleman.
However, it should not be taken from the other party that he will be paying over and over again next bill, etc.
@JessieJing (35)
• China
4 Feb 10
I don't think the guy must pay for a date. Who pays for a date should depend on the situation. But I consider if it is not a special situation, it should be 50/50 for paying for a date.
If you consider the guy should pay for every date, it is not fair.
@Justathought12 (103)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Well, I wonder how many women want equility except when it comes to paying for dates. If he asks he should pay, if she asks she should pay.
@meruchan20 (1)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
I think it's okay for the first date to be paid by the guy. I mean, if he invited you over, it's only right to expect that he's going to take care of you. But if you guys have been going steady for a while, it would be nice to share the expenses a bit between the couple. Also, some women may insist in paying half the cost because they don't want to feel entirely dependent on the guy or if they feel they ate too much and think that he's going to be paying a lot. :D
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
2 Feb 10
Well, around here it's more common to take turns paying. Or whoever invites pays. Guys usually pay for the first date though.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I think that the most common way is for the guy to pay on a first date.. But I dont see a problem if a woman pays or if its 50/50.. After the first date I dont ever expect the guy to pay every time we go out. And I think when a woman pays it shows the man that she is a strong independent woman who can make her own money..
@eurekafemme (5876)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
If it is the guy who ask you out then, it is expected that he's the one who is going to pay especially during the first date. However, when the two of you get really comfortable with each other and the girl can also afford to pay, then why not 50/50 or at least let the girl shoulder an amount IF SHE WANTS TO.
It is a funny thing and a sure turn off if you ask the girl and expect her to pay for all the expenses you two had incurred during the date.
Both girl and guy must expect to pay when they are the one who invited the other one to go out with them.
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
2 Feb 10
In this day and age I think it should be treated the way my family handles it.... My parents and I (and husband) try to go out atleast once a month.... We take turns... One time they pay.... One time we pay.....
