Outsiders have interfered with parenting! What a mess they've made!

That's exactly what the schools and organizations have led them to believe. Im sorry I am not going to let my child run things. NO WAY! I have told my daughters the same thing. If they think they'll have it better elsewhere go! there still here. I even volunteered to help them pack. lol Thanks Rob! DL

You are absolutely right and you have every right to spank your children. She/He deserved it. If you put her to bed that right there is a sign that maybe its not a good time for a snack. The fact that she hit you is was, and will always be a definite reason to smack. If you let her hit you she will always do it. I know this woman whosw daughter hits her and let me tell you I want to beat the living SH*T out of her. Of course its not my child. However if she took care of this after the very first incident she would have stopped it in their tracks. dl

o for sure...when a parent doesn't discipline for a child hitting them then that is a sign to come for a teenager that is going to walk all over them!

Our society has gone crazy. Between all the efforts to 'be PC' (which are dumb in my opinion, the idea of being PC is NOT PC toward EVERYBODY) and the efforts for government and the law and schools to step into people's personal business, where is our freedom going? Down the tubes. They also seem to harrass ordinary people who are doing nothing wrong, while allowing people who are actually being abused or neglected to be killed or die. As far as the bruise thing - I have bruised MYSELF before and hoped my friends wouldn't 'wonder' about it or ask me. My daughter is very active and runs and plays and falls down and runs into things all the time. It's very common for her to have bruised knees or shins or elbows or even a bump on the head. I was the same way as a kid. My son skateboards and falls all the time, it is common for him to have bruises and scrapes from that. I would TOTALLY come unglued on any idiot who tried to connect ANY of our bruises to any type of abuse. As far as the being tired thing? My son and daughter are both night people. They like to stay up late. NEITHER of them likes getting up in the morning. They will complain and complain of being tired. Guess what? I TRY to get both of them to go to bed earlier. YOu can't make a kid SLEEP. In the end, if they are both tired, it's because they did not sleep. Not because there's no routine. Not because I didn't MAKE THEM GO TO BED. Simply because they chose to stay up, so it isn't my fault they are tired. Sometimes I'm tired because I didn't go to sleep, because I had something else I needed to do or wanted to do. As an adult, I realize this will make me tired. I realize I have nobody to blame but myself. It is too bad that kids don't have enough understanding to realize this and say 'hey, it was my fault, I didn't go to bed, don't blame my mom'. Then there are the situations where you have a well meaning person wonder why your kid didn't eat breakfast or why they didn't bring a lunch. OK. Here we go. My kid stayed up till 11:30 and even then refused to go to sleep. Then I couldn't get her up in the morning. It took so long to get her dressed there was no TIME to eat breakfast, and even though I gave her something in the car, she didn't eat it. When you provide every opportunity for a kid and they throw it back in your face, you did your best and other people need to keep their stupid mouths duct taped shut lol. As far as the lunch thing, if you have a kid in junior high or high school, if they don't bring a lunch, it's because they were lazy and didn't pack themselves one - it's not because mom is bad or because there is really no food in the house. Trust me. I hear you loud and clear dl.

Kids today are out of control! They do what they want, when they want and how they want to. I want to address this because I didn't in my post. THIS right here is due to INCONSISTENCY and NO CLEAR CUT AND ENFORCED EXPECTATIONS. I don't understand the amount of people who don't start being consistent with expectations when their children are BABIES. I know people who thought it was cute but unreasonable that my 14 month old put her jammies in the hamper and a bowl in the sink. Why? It set her up for good habits where she knows that is mommy's expectation - you put your clothes in the hamper and your dishes in the sink! If you NEVER allowed your kids to be 'out of control' or to 'do what they want, when they want, how they want to', they won't be that way. Unfortunately ANY child who does any of those things once will probably try again, which is why it is so hard to re-parent kids you didn't give birth to because there is already inconsistency in their lives...

Yesterday I was at the laundry and there were mothers in there that were allowing their small children to run around unattended. I dont play that! I will say something. So anyway the kids are running around and they come by me and all the laundry that I had spent hours folding is getting ready to fall. I said to the child go see your mommy. Then I went to the mother who immediately decided that now she cant understand english. Lucky for her I speak spanish. I simply let her know I asked her nicely to have them play on the other side. If my laundry falls, she WILL fold it. Im sorry I am not going to let someone elses kids let alone mine run all over me. I think your parents were great! The fact that they would give you a ride to police station is effective. lol Happy MyLotting. dl

Actually if a kid hits a parent, I think you CAN do something - if you get beaten definitely. If you have a kid still living at home who is 18 or older, you can just call the police. Fortunately my kids know that and they know if they were ever to do such a thing, I'd let them sit in jail lol. I'm not saying this would happen, but I've made it pretty clear that after 18, even if they are still dependent on us, they are SOLELY responsible for their actions, especially if they are wrong. My time to protect them is over, and I would only be willing if it were a misunderstanding.