I'm here I'm not I'm here I'm not

@raydene (9871)
United States
February 2, 2010 9:23am CST
Life is a strange thing... Just when I think I have it figured out a giant picks me up and drops me in unfamaliar territory. I was running to work, raising kids, loving my animals.... then wham...I was sick....became disabled.... Lost a sister to cancer... well ok I still had a loving hubby that was true and steady... lost another sister... My brother very ill.... Wham....husband was and had been cheating with many women for many years.... So I am getting my feet under me again.... here is where the boat starts rockin... seems like the better it gets the more unsure I become. Who would think it would be so hard????? Most of the time I feel good but then there are days... My issue is that I have a hard time trusting anyone or anything so I don't put myself out there. I tryed vollenteering for a while seems anything I start I drop.... I don't want to like something only to have it pulled away from me... I can see what I do but can not fix it. So folks that is why I haven't been here. Just know that I will sometime be back if I go again. xooxxoxoxo
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I just dont know what to say after this but ya know sooner or later you will pick your self up dust off and start a freash hugsssssssssssssssssssssss
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hello Friend I think this is about as dusted off as I get Spring is coming... I will be outside doing things and life will be ok I did alot last summer.. xoxoxoxoxo
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
4 Feb 10
yup I cant wait till spring either!
@nautilus33 (1827)
2 Feb 10
~ Hi! well, all we reach that that stage of our life, when we realize how strange the life is, and how we spend every minute of our life, are we satisfied with it or we want something more, and then we just sit down and think of it, like something normal and natural! ~
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hello Sweets Nice answer... Today is a good day I'm feeling like talking so here I am. xoxoxoxoxo
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Oh Raydene, it is good to see you back. I have often wondered how you were and hoping that you were ok. Life sure can knock you around sometimes. I am so sorry for your troubles and heartache. When life gets you down, come here and tell us about it, let us help you out. It does help when you have people to listen and actually do care what happens to you. I have no idea how many responses you have or how many you will get. But I bet you will see lots of your old friends welcoming you back, we are still here when you need us. Try your best to keep in touch. I do hope and pray that life will start treating your gently. Take care, xoxoxoxox
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Awwwwwww!! Your such a sweet lady.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Pal I have missed your wisdom You are always a light at the end of the tunnel I am grateful for your friendship xoxoxoxoxoxo
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Feb 10
Sweetie I for one will never disappoint you I know what you mean and what you are going through As you know my Friends kept me going and this Place did No matter whether you are here or not you are and will always be in my heart and stay there I love you and big Hugs xxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
My Sweet Angel I love you as well I could love you more if you lived next door I know we have a connection xoxoxoxoxoxo
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
3 Feb 10
Raydene, it's really good to see you once more. I remember you did gave me a nice comment before when I was starting out as a newbie here and I've not forgotten about that. By the way, I'm sorry about what has happened in your life so far. Hang on there, and I know you have the inner courage to face it all, no matter how hard life's challenges can be at times. It is never easy with life, with the high and the low and with what you have gone through, no words can sum up how you must have felt and am going through right now. Do know that we are always here, take care Raydene..
@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Sweetie That is so nice that I said something nice to you. I'm glad I may have helped someone.. I think that's why I'm here xoxoxoxxoxo
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
5 Feb 10
And glad that you are back, for sure..
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Feb 10
hi raydene its so good to see you, last time I saw you here I was with shingles all the long summer well got over shingles and like you and life, life picked me up and threw me down a number of times. that fall my son got laid off, oh thats not so bad,wrong very bad,he was our soul breadwinner and he did not get another job,we ran out of money and were evicted,friends put us up for awhile,no relatives except us two, so homeless, off mylot, so he and the social worker for adult protective services found I could be put into Gold Crest a retirement center, and they found my son a gov. sponsored apt with four other guys, all out of work and still looking for work. Now I have been here over a year and still no job for my son. my social security and SSI checks pay for the rent and food here and leave me with money for personal items. not like your own apt but has to do for now lol lol. but at least I never had to put up with a cheating husband, I was a widow long before all this crap happened to us. at least I do have my computer and monitor now so can again mylot. You have had a lot of unhappiness in your own life so now its about time for the happy things again, wishing you the best hugs from hatley.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
OMG the dreaded shingles!!!!! I get them sometimes as well One year I had them 13 times.... This last year I've had them seldom. I hope you don't get them again. xoxoxoxooxxo
@GardenGerty (160624)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Yes, just when things look okay, another crisis arises. Too many and we are sunk. I understand, friend. Just want you to know that I will never remove your friend profile from my list of friends and I will be looking for you whenever you are here. Hugs, I remember many of these crises in the last three years, and I want to encourage you to hang on.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Sweetheart In many ways I'm doing very well I am busy with many projects Have the alone time that for years I craved and couldn't have I have gotten used to things this way I just can not stay with something too long xoxoxoxoxoxo
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Raydene, I understand. I feel your pain. Life is a rollercoaster of struggle. Sometimes I see life as many problems and problems only. Because when sometimes you are seems ok or happy after a minute you will experience again. Happiness if for a minute, but sadness and problems are for longer hours. Sometimes I want to die, but i think of my family and what will happen to them when I am gone. I am telling you this because you are not alone struggling in life, even the president of a country is struggling. But in life we still have hopes and chances, so I guess we need to do what is best for us. And I am glad to know that you come back here in Mylot, I miss your discussion.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hello Darling I've missed you as well I realize how much I've missed my friends here I do have so many lovely mylot friends xoxoxoxoxoxo
@BarBaraPrz (47279)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
2 Feb 10
Well, you'll always be welcomed back, just as you were this time. We loves ya, babe! And while you're here, maybe you can tell us more about that ghost you saw...
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Doll I believe that she was my great aunt that I am named for I almost thing I brought her here with my thoughts of her. I've not seen her since. xoxoxoxoxoxo
• Indonesia
3 Feb 10
Raydene, not only you who have things like that the quite a lot of people who experienced disappointment in life because everything he's/she's done nothing like what it is and not give it useful for him/her. But have you draw closer to the true god, sory I'm not talking about a relegion but if you believe in a religion try to restore everything to God and surrender. One more thing you can try give time for yourself and meditation or contemplation to find the meaning of life more calmly. Hope you managed to overcome your problems and believe love is the best foundation in whatever work you do
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hello Thank you so much for your kind words I am Bahai...I have my faith xoxoxooxo
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
2 Feb 10
It sounds like you have been through more than any one person could handle in a whole life time. I am very sorry for the loss of your sisters, I can not imagine losing my sister or my brother. I am also so sorry for what your husband put you through that is a terrible thing for anyone to have to experience. There are good people and good men out there. I know it is hard to believe after being hurt so badly, but even if you do get hurt again at least you tried. You will never know unless you try. I do hope you are able to find happiness.
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Sweets I am happy most of them time I just don't want to get too attached to anyone or thing because the loss is just too hard to take. xoxoxoxoxoo
@savypat (20216)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Now is time to know yourself, life often sends us run back and forth and seemingly getting no where, but if you look closely you will see the lessons. Become strong in yourself and you will attract positive energy and relationships. Blessings
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Hi Sweet I think I like being by myself I sleep with my dog Daisy She never asks to me to change the channel I can read in the middle of the night There is a freedom in all this that I really like alot xoxoxoxoxo