10 Year High School Reunion
By Britt17
@Britt17 (46)
United States
February 2, 2010 9:27am CST
Okay, so it's still a year and a half away, but I'm already freaking out about it a little. My 10 year high school reunion will be next fall (2011) and I don't know if I want to go. I went to the 5 year but it seemed like there were no expectations back then. I mean yes, some people were married and such, but most were still in grad school/law school or working entry-level jobs with no fantastic life accomplishments. I have a good job, but am back living with my parents at the moment. I do have a condo at the beach, which is why I can't afford a mortgage or rent where I live since I already have to pay that mortgage. I'm still driving the same car I had in high school (am hoping to get a new one by next year). And I'm really no where near the whole marriage thing at the moment. I know these are materialistic concerns, but is anyone else afraid to go back to a HS reunion? Do I have valid concerns or is everyone else that shows up there going to be too busy with their own insecurities to judge me?
4 responses
@diyonzi (116)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
i feel the same Britt17! my HS reunion is set this December. Im excited and a little hesitant at the same time. Life has been great but yeah im thinking of the same things as you do. I think everybody is.. specially when it's reunion time. But it's best to just focus on meeting up with your old HS friends. Im pretty sure they still love you whether your car is the same car you had in HS. Think positive.. reunions are fun. Hope you have a great time. ;D
@Britt17 (46)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Thanks diyonzi! I knew I wasn't the only one who felt this way as I have a close friend from hs that was thinking about not going because she recently broke off an engagement and that made her feel like a failure :-( I told her that by next year we will have our lives together!
You want to know the funny thing about the car?? Chances are no one will even see my car. Our reunions are usually somewhere we can metro to. Overall I think these are just my own securities about where I am in life (lack of job satisfaction, old car, living with parents). But my mom constantly reminds me "You have a condo at the beach!"
I think I will just go and try to make new memories, and if I'm not having fun who says I have to stay, right?
@Mady2791 (545)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I'm going to be brutal honest here..so be aware hehe. My husband and I have different views on high school reunions. He is into them, I'm not. I really don't see the purpose on them..to me Maybe I'm being negative but I see a big percent don't go because they miss their HS friends but because they want to impress them(high school mentality still).
These reunions can get quite expensive between the clothes even transportation(they rent cars and stuff) On another note, it seems also that many go to see who got bald, who got fat,who never married or got divorced 20 times, who is a loser, didn't make it in life etc. I just see those reunions as a mascarade because when they are at the reunion is all friendly and then you never see or talk to these people EVER again. All of them say: " oh let's keep in touch, we need to get together again" and it never happens, maybe a few emails(if any) and that's it. I think that if you haven't kept in touch all these years what makes you think things are going change now...ESPECIALLY since we are not the exact people we were in high school..we ALL change; we grow up.
@sandymay16 (1617)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Your concerns are not valid at all for not attending the HS reunion. Reminiscing and meeting up with old classmates and friends and updates on one's life are the most important things that come to mind. Success may not be in material forms. And one should be mature enough not to be judgmental unlike in high school. I urge you to go. I have been to 10th, 15th and 20th year reunions (we don't have 5th) and looking forward to silver reunion. I am not married and some do envy me and some single classmates LOL.
Most of those who do not attend have issues back then and perhaps are not yet moving on with their lives.
@Britt17 (46)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I like how you tell me my concerns are "not valid at all" (sarcasm). I think most people would agree that they are valid concerns even if they shouldn't prevent me from going. And yes, one should be mature enough to not be judgemental but I can tell you from experience (coaching hs girls) that sometimes adults are more judgmental and immature than teenagers are. But I do appreciate the encouragement to go.
I actually didn't have any major issues back in hs. I had a lot going for me and a lot to be proud of. It's more of I don't have as much going on in my life now as I did back then. But I suppose it is all relative. In hs there is more opportunity to excel, it's a smaller community. In the real world you have to go a lot further to make people know your name.
@wishuluck (233)
• Lithuania
3 Feb 10
I had a great 5 year High School Reunion. Although I didn't have a great job or marriage plans when most other people had, noone judged me. It was nice to see each other and share our life experience. I honestly believe that it's much more important to live a life the way you want. Don't be ashamed of what you do and the way you live, it's your life and nobody can judge you for that.
