Do you trust doctor more or you trust someone had experience? or Both?
By smileonstar
@smileonstar (4007)
United States
February 2, 2010 10:47am CST
HI,I just wondering about this. If you are pregnant and you always and always go to see a doctor, and also your friend who had experience told you, just for an extra information... Does that really bother you? or you take both advice for your own good?Here is the thing, my friend just found out that she is pregnant for her first child and I also have two children my own. When I heard she is pregnant, I was so happy for her and I always called her every weekend to see how she's doing and also told her what is good for her to eat and what is not and such and such... but the way she acted just like I am really really bother her about these so much, so I stop giving out anything about children... because it is not my business either. And then she keeps asking me what this and what that... I just give out just enough information on what she asked me but then she said I dont want to tell her or something. I was like, well... you were the one that told me not to bother you about this so I dont want to get involve in something that you hate.
Ok, you tell me... did I do the right thing or I am too selfish? Please explain
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5 responses
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
2 Feb 10
hi,
I forgot about that... and thanks for remind me of that.
@dh1811 (114)
• Australia
2 Feb 10
i think a friends advice is very useful at times. well what are friends for, to help you and support you. so if a friend gave me an advise on something i will remember it. but also if a doctor told me seomthings about my healty i would take it more serious. That is because the doctor is trained and qualitfied for these things. this is my opinion dont know what others think about it.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
2 Feb 10
HI,
I take both advice. Friend can help you with something that doctor doesn't know about. like doctor here never tell you how to flat your stomach right after your baby. I have two children and my stomach is flat just like no child... and I still wear size 00.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Feb 10
smileonstar perhaps you have given her info that scares her about the actual giving birth time. Keep things positive,do not indulge in gossip about bad things that happen in giving birth. Also remember that when you are pregnant your hormones are jazzed up
and you will be jumpy at times. she may not realize she is acting that way unless you remind her that hormones make you jumpy and a tad irritable at times during your pregnancy. So be patient with her and just give info when you are asked.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hi,
I actually didn't give out any information about giving birth!!! I just told her what food is good for her and the baby, and take a lot of soup... something like that. But it is alright if these are not benefits for her... i will leave her alone
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Feb 10
Well it is a matter of finding the fine line I suppose! Pat is right in saying that pregnancy does cause moods swings so your friend may not be easy to deal with anyway! I would just answer her questions as she asks and when she does give her the full information and leave it at that. I remember when I was expecting I felt bombarded by information from so many different sources and some was conflicting so all I wanted was someone who had been through it to help me sift through facts and fiction.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I bet you and her doctor are not the only ones giving her advice. When I was pregnant I think everyone I came across was always telling me something. As usefull as the imformation may be you start to hear it over and over and over and over....you get my point. You just get tired of hearing all that from everyone. I'm sure she wasn't attacking you personally. If she asks for the advice great give it to her, but I wouldn't unless she asked for it. Always be positive!!
