After a failed marriage, you have courage to take it over again?

After my first marriage "failed", I decided that I was not going to do it again. I am still very good friends with my ex-husband, so it was not a bitter battle or anything, and we used to do things together all the time even after we separated. In fact, most people could not understand why we separated when they saw us getting along so well, but the people closest to us knew that when we were married we fought a lot. We really were just better friends than anything. I think that is why I was convinced that I would never get married again, because we were still good friends and it didn't work out, so I guess I felt like if that wouldn't work then nothing would. My current husband did not think that he was ever going to get married, either, although he had never been married in the first place - he just thought he "wasn't the marrying kind". I guess that we were both wrong. In fact, he teases me all the time telling me that I said I was never going to get married again and yet he still managed to slip a ring on my finger. I tell him right back that I think that I am about the only woman that could have convinced him to settle down, so I guess that we are even, which is probably why we belong together.

I haven't had a failed marriage (yet), but yes I'd have the courage to do it all over again if it felt right.

I don't think I'd try again for awhile. especially considering that in order for us to divorce, things would have to go from really good to really bad. We've been married for almost five years now and things are great, luckily.

i have been married twice, both abusive--i havent even been dating for the past 2 years and wont until i feel not only ready, but also make sure i dont have "loser magnet" tattoed on my forehead lol i wont get married again - ever. i am all for a committed relationship that lasts the rest of my life, but not marriage. the only reason marriage was invented - by men- was so they could take away our power and keep us as slaves. if you look up the history of marriage, thats what it was all about. i know not everyone thinks that way, but i seem to find all the abusers, so i will be alone until i feel ready to look again.

Wait for your destiny. It is not worth to pay your attention on the question about your unknowable future, let everything go by itself.

firstly,i am just 22. but i have planned my life i would go through(don't laugh at me^^). divocing, to me, i think it will be one of the most terrible things in the future. but life should not stop there, right? we also have a lot of things to do except for our family, so,if i would divoce, i would recall myself in a certain time, and begin my new life.^^

I guess it would depend on how you handle things on that matter. I am thinking that there are person who can easily forget the past and really move on with their lives that is why they could afford to re-marry again. But, for those that will hold on to the past hurts then all of them would have a hard time really recover. I think the only thing that one should do when things like this happens is that you should set your mind to healing and not recalling and holding on the past. having a positive outlook also helps.

thats true if once your married life gets failed so you will fear to take it over again but thats also true if u are a person who is with positive approach after a few years you will start feeling lonely and if u choose a correct person there are less chances to failed it again but yeah sort all matters with your would be partner and that will help you to built a good married life. my husband was expired 5 years bfor at that time i was so upset and says no to remarriage but now i m intersted because we want a prtner to share our happiness and sorows and a good partner increase your happiness and less all your sorrows. we also desrve everything so just open your arms to this beautiful world and make your approach positve all the happiness waiting for you dear chear up

I won't take up the risk of patching up a failed marriage once I come out of it. Once I decided NO to something, I will never look back. I hate whenn parents or close relatives force a couple to rejoin without understanding the root cause behind it. But, first the couple should talk in person with an open mind and see if they can resolve the issues between them.

I saw a lot of people get marry again and again and again. The one the the highest record I've ever met got marry for 5 times. My mother and my father got divorce since I was 3months and she never marry again. I did ask my mother before, why she didn't get marry again since there were a lot of guys courted her. She told me that "because you didn't call me sister that time" hahaha then I asked her "dont' you feel lonely?" She answered me "why should I be? I have you..." My feeling that time was so happy and proud of my mother and myself.

I had, in time, 3 "long term" relationship, marriage kinda. One, first, was also official. I was young and belived that those papers will save the marriage if something will go wrong. I was wrong I haven't had any problem with the courage to try again after each failure, no matter if was my or her fault that generated the break. There is no reason to have problems in trying again, except if deception is extremly big. In this case, best is to let time heal the wounds ..

well comming to the my point of view once after the marrige ie faild i dont have the courage to go a head instaad i try to make it as love marriage so that i feel i will take some precautions this time such that my love marriage will not fail and i can lead the happy life with out any fear and dissapointment in my life but how ever this is some thing diffcult to procced once after the marriage is failed and again trying for the new one this is my innerfeeling

well this is good question , most of my frds have been able to come out of difficult marriage and gone on to lead new life with new partner . Again its all with individual mindset of person . if u want to lead happy life u must be able to move on with life and forget the past cheers

Hi I kind of don't think it requires guts to get married to start off. As my second relationship was as big a disaster as the first for entirely different reasons. I just would never consider doing it again. The proof is there that most 2nd marriages have less change of succeeding. My Partner and I am of the same opinion. besides I don not like the ownership crap that goes with marriage. I don't know why people want to just keep repeating a thing in the forlone hope that eventually they just may get it right. But in closing if you Must you Must.