is it okay to be a two-timer?

You just need time for yourself and time to heal so you can trust again.

majure112581, I wonder if we can ever have a successful relationship without first giving it a try. Well, let me honestly say that if you keep telling yourself that it's a road to failure and loving someone you shouldn't have and etc is obviously a failure or going to be a failure, then I am sorry. Because, if this is your only option or rather, your trend of thought, then there's going to be just one answer only, right? In life, I must say that everything including relationships, that success and happiness doesn't come easy - in fact, most of the time, you probably have to die fighting or surmount arduous challenges before you could transform any dreams into reality. From the way I see this, the complication probably derived from that fact, that you had a jerk for a boyfriend who just should not have you or rather deserve you in the first place. So, are you saying the rest of the guys are like him? C'mon, I cannot even find many other men out there in his league or synonymously close to where he is. Other than that, your other extraneous worries are basically self inflicted and mundane. All these 'he-is-too-good' for me or "I-am-not-so-good" for anyone perception is basically a catalyst for your inferiority complex and poor self esteem, which if I may add is largely illusionary on your part. What's good? What's bad? It's all relative my dear. Why are you even considering all these factors when in fact, you just seem like you can't even find the courage to love yourself proper? And that being the MOST important factor! No offense, but letting some pathetic two-timer who does not have any inkling idea about what serious relationship or commitment or being faithful is all about, to spoil your chances of knowing someone who will become the love of your life, is just not loving yourself proper here. Of course, we won't know if the other party has feelings for us from the onset, but surely, you cannot deny that there's a possibility that something good could happen. So, why eliminate yourself completely without a fight? You have already moved on from your previous relationship, for your sake I hope that you did!! So, what's holding you back? You mean you are only 'entitled' partners with low qualification? Problematic family situation? Penurious background? Without those, you can't date man? Or be another man's date? Since you are equally troubled and busy avoiding and suppressing your own emotions, why not try to face them and give yourself another chance? At least from there, you might actually find an answer to resolve your plight. After all, once you have been pricked by Cupid's arrow, there's little you can do, other than to give in to your heart's yearning. Now, say aye, if you agree with me!

i think you taking your time with a new relationship is a good thing t do after someone cheated on you, i can't say why someone would do something like that. my first bf got his ex pregnant while he was with me (the short time it was). i think most people who do that are just not mature enough to even handle a relationship. but i can't be so sure.

On a personal note,I didn't like it if I found out if my bf has another girl except for me.I won't do that as well meaning I will not be a two timer simply because you were not just fooling your loved one but also yourself too.Being a two timer means you to have a lot of lies.Trust is most powerful tool in every relationship if you're doing two timing I don't think that you can be trusted of anything too..

It's not okay to be a two timer and if a person is one, like your ex boyfriend, it's not actually something to be proud of. It's immature and shows that a guy can't handle relationships well unless he learns from it. They, the two timers, are having a hard time deciding who to choose and not because they can't help themselves to get attached to people specially when it comes to defining the thin line between lust and love.

Suggest 3-somes? *cough* Joking aside, if you have no problem with two-timing being morally wrong and your conscience allows you to, + you have the skill to keep it hidden from both guys or find a way for them both to be okay with it, then two-timing is fine. However, you may want to keep in mind that of the guys you deem to be not commitable to, one of them might actually be the one for you. So don't just cheat like heck, because if they find out it will be irreversible and you'll never get him back.

Your ex-boyfriend sounds like a nasty person. You didn't want to be two timed so you split up with him. I think that was very sensible of you. He was caught with another lady. If a man has a girlfriend and then he meets another lady he wishes to date he should split up with his girlfriend. Really the best thing is a man in a relationship is totally faithful to his girlfriend in the first place. Maybe you need to have sometime as a single before you meet a lovely man that will be completely faithful to you. Good luck.

Of course it's not OK. But rather than give up on relationships altogether, why not sit down and figure out what's important to you in a partner and then next time, take more time to get to know the person before you get serious. One bad relationship doesn't mean that they are all going to be bad.

Nope! It is never okay to be a two-timer. It is cheating and cheating is not acceptable to God. Cheaters should be apprehended. They shouldn't be tolerated either. So if your partner or husband or any person to whom you are associated to cheats, then let him pay the price for it. It is so hard and very painful for someone to get a two-timer husband or partner. That is one thing that would break my heart and would make me cut off whatever relationship I have with him.

I do not feel for any reason it is right to wrong anyone else. Again it is very much wrong. Personally I'm glad you got out of it when you did. You should not be willingly putting yourself in situations that require you to feel unconfertable in any way. And, if someones tw-timing you, don't let them. its wrong no matter the reason.

Will first I want to say im sorry you were treated like that. And second its not ok to be a tow-timer. The thing about them is they are the people that lie and hurt other people but one day they'll feel what its like to be hurt by someone theey loved. I dont know if you loved your ex but if you did the Im sorry you were hurt. Your doing the right thing by staying single. I did the same after my ex did the samething.

two timing??? definitely NOT! if you're BF two timed you then he does not, in any way, deserve you. It's a good thing you broke off with him. I am sure you'll find someone else better who will love you and ONLY you sincerely. In the meantime, go on with your life, take this as an opportunity to spend time with your friends. Go out and meet new people. Expand your territories and improve yourself. Be the right GIRL for the RIGHT GUY you're looking for and things will work out great for you. ;D

If thats the attitude of your ex bf, that only means he is unfaithful and not contented with one gf. He is just playing his commitment with anybody and not to think that that anybody would be hurt. He is acting selfishly. He dont think on whats the after effect of what he is doing. Yes its sad but he is not deserving of your love. Someday at the right place and at the right time, Im sure you'll find the best man destined to you.

I had been in love with a person who dumped me for another one just because she said we have no communication anymore and she's far away from me... i don't think that's what counts in a relationship, I think FAITH is more important, rather than distance or absence of communication...

Well, it can take some time to recover from a relationship. Just remember that not every guy you meet will be like your ex. There are plenty of nice guys who will not two time you. I'm sorry this happened.

I understand why you became less trusting because you are afraid to get hurt again. I hate two - timers because they are very inconsiderate of other's feelings. I know that in time you will met someone you could trust again and whom you will be willing to take that dive or take that risk. Not all people are the same and definitely there is a love which is true out there for you.

Hi, majure112581. No, it is not at all okay to be a two-timer. People that act like this never get ahead in life. Bad luck will follow them as they tread. And there will be many broken hearts and hurt feelings that this person has caused. It is never great to be this way. You should never play anyone for a fool, because in the end, a person can be the one looking like the fool.

I don't know. I have been in this situation. Well good luck. and hope it works.

It is never okay to be a two-timer in my book. I believe that trust is among the important aspects in a relationship, and you wouldn't get trusted by two-timing. It is cheating, inconsiderate of your partner's feelings, and just wrong. It would just make finding true love even harder.

Of course, it isn't okay to be a 2 timer and neither to deal with 2 timer person. I believe you did the right thing and I agree when you said "it's better to be free from harm, rather considering you were attach to the person that has another love." I myself wouldn't insist myself to someone who doesn't really care at all to a person's feelings. It may seem so easy to say this, but it also likely happened to me. It was kinda painful especially when you had been together quite a time, but then I would hurt myself more if I'm going to act as stupid.