If your guest's child asks for the toy that your child has, will you give it?

hi buchi_bulla, before giving that cup to the other person,you have to take prior permission from your daughter,you convince your daughter there is lot of satifaction in giving than the taking,you tell sorry for that and ask any other thing for the replacement of that cup,you have done write and wrong thing,have a nice day

Hi Buchi_bulla, I have faced similar situation. I have a guest's child, and he often asks for some coin collection that is there somewhere in my cupboard, which he at times sees. :) I find it strange that his parents look at me to see my reaction instead of correcting him. At times I tell him I will give it to you when you grow up, and at other times, I just ignore him. I think if we give in, the child gets into habit. So it is not right. It is the duty of the parent to counter it. Fine you want that glass, then you should give something in exchange and then mention something that the child likes very much. Once an equivalent exchange is fixed, the child is forced to back out. But few people do it. They are so keen that their child be indulged. Under such circumstances, denying own child is bad. At least I think so. Because the child might feel loved less. If others are being shrewd, we can at least be normal.

My mother taught me never to ASK for things as a child, and I hold guests up the same way. I do my best to offer what I have to them that is available, but I will not take something away from another relative just because someone asks for it. People need to know that they can not have everything that they ask for.

In a situation like that I would have told my friends child that THIS TIME she couldnt use it becuase my child already was BUT NEXT TIME she can use it...then I would explain to my child that sharing is a good thing and that next time it would be very nice of her to let the other little one use that cup..

Well,sometimes it become very hard to say no,but i always keep my children's things seperate.From my heart i can't give the items in which my children eat and the dresses they wear,leaving this i can share anything.

Hi Buchi, Actually I feel for your daughter, you could have asked her permission before giving to other child, if she denies in front of the other girl, she (the other girl) may realize her mistake. If I am in your friend’s position I won’t take the cup from you (I appreciate your generosity but at the same time I want to discourage the child with me). I can convince the child by telling that this is not a good habit. I liked your daughter’s nature, she didn’t tell anything at that time, since her age was 6 at that time she really need appreciation of her silence. Later she expressed her unhappiness but she didn’t tell anything in front of them.

I do not think I will give my children's belongings to any one without their permission because when I know that they are using it with much enthusiasm I feel guilty to give it to someone else even though they are the children of our best friend instead I will try to get the same toy or cup and present the child so that both my child and the child of my friend will be having the same each for themselves and I also feel that I have done some justice to both

Oh, I have many such experiences before. Sometimes we have guests with children and their children will want toys from my house. I will normally ask my children first and explain and if they say OK, I will go ahead and give the toys away. If it happens that the toys are my children favourites, I will explain to my guest and maybe give something else instead. Personally, I will train and warn my children to avoid this kind of situation whenever we go to other people's house. But children will be children.