How do I tell her?

I know exactly what you are going through. I have the same problem with my cousin/best friend. Unfortunately we cannot make them chose the right guy, the only thing that me and you can do, is stand by our cousins and pick up the pieces once the scum bag moves on. I am sure that while you might not like this guy, there is something that she does otherwise, she wouldn't put up with him. I suggest getting your cousin to go out with you in the hopes that she will meet someone better and ditch the looser, hopefully everything works out for her and you. Good luck and happy mylotting.

Hmm it can't be easy on you to see someone dear to you in this situation. I guess all you can really do is sit her down and talk about what you both like in relationships and in guys. Then maybe you can suggest making a pact with her or something and listen to each other when it comes to these things. Maybe it will at least get her to be more conscious of her choices. Most important of all is also to build her sense of self worth so that she realizes what she truly deserves rather than settling for less. :)

most of the guy are shy to tell girls how you love them. maybe you can find the right time to tell her about your love. if i were you, i will concern about her safety dating with the cheater. or else you can write a love note or text to her mobile or text message in facebook. good luck

Just tell your cousin your points/opinions but let her decide on her own. Let her decide because it's her own life. You already did your part and it's up to her if she will listen to you or not. Go tell her directly but before you start the conversation, tell her to be open-minded. You can do it! God bless!

if the situation is that serious i really think you should brave up and tell your cousin. if you do and she does not take heed to your concern then i guess there is nothing that you can do

your cousin must be deeply inlove... what you can do to show how do you care and love her is that.. just stay beside her never let her go... because when the time comes that she realizes that the guy she admires most was not the one really for her... what she truly need is your presence to become her comfort.. never leave her...

I think that the best way r to help your cousin is to be with her at all times and introduce her to new sports or interests. If you cousin likes to play badminton, then go to a badminton center and play games. This way you will increase the likelihood of her meeting guys with the same interests. You could also take her to some exciting places like the beach and bring along other friends so she can find an alternative and enjoy life without that "scrawny" guy. She will gradually learn that there is more to life and a lot more better guys out there that she deserves. Go on and apply this. Good Luck! Hope this helps..

When it comes to situations like this, you should tell her how you feel (which you've aleady done) and then drop the subject. There is no rhyme or reason for who we care about and why but the one thing that I do know is that in affairs of the heart, a woman is much more likely to believe her boyfriend than to believe her closest friend. In fact, many times criticism of one's boyfriend ends the relationship with the friend. Are you willing to give up your relationship with her? My best advise to you is that now that you've told her, move on and be there for her when it all comes crashing down. Some women look for the same man over and over again for reasons that mystify me. We, each of us, have to learn life's lessons by ourselves. No one can tell us anything. Think for a moment if the tables were turned, would you walk away from relationship with someone that you cared about because your cousin said that he wasn't good enough for you? Best of luck to your cousin. Be there to support her because it sounds like she is going to need it.

Hi, vjenkins86! I understand how you feel. I have a cousin just as you are describing. I am this way with her. She also fell for the wrong guy, and i did tell her my feelings about him. She wound up and married him. It really hurt to see her go through some of the things she went through with him, and i would tell her every chance i got there were things wrong. She got upset with me and did not speak to me for some time. I learned that it was better to just support her, and be there for her when she needed me rather than keep telling her all the things that were wrong. She had to learn all of it on her own, and she finally divorced this man. I could tell her all i wanted, but she had to make up her mind for herself. She has to make her own decisions, you just be there for her and support her even though you feel he is wrong for her. It will be hard, but it could keep you two from having a falling out.

I think this is tough. But seems girls become a idiot when they were in a relationship, even they know that guy is bad. Sometimes you remind them, they just go away from you. I think the only way we can do is just bless and pray for them.

hi there. u told her already but she didn't take action except by keep on coming back to him. it's like a system, dear. it became her habit. i suggest u dont stop reminding her that just because the guy makes her happy she's already inlove with him. try to be with her literally to help her change her routine, not being around with that guy. hope things will turn out right for your cousin. take care. ;)

You said that you and your cousin are very close. You understand each other very well. Still she did not pay much attention to your advice. It means she is in love with the guy. You have to be very careful in tackling the situation. First of all you should make her understand that you know the guy better than she. And try to reason out why you don't like him. If she understands fine. Otherwise don't force her to do anything. Just wait and see. The day will come when she will definitely realize the situation and seek help from you. That time you must be there to help her.

I perfectly understand what are you feeling, i had a very good friend in college with horrible taste for guys, and she was someone extremely smart and very sweet, she could have the guy she wanted. I try to give her always a lot of advices but she never listen to me until one day that she discover her boyfriend cheating with another girl, since that day she changes completely, and she started looking to more descent guys. My point here is that yes, you can talk to her, obviously being extremely nice, and telling her how much to you care for her. But don't expect she follows all your advices because she needs to experiment for herself and find out for herself that these guy is not good for her. She is going to suffer, she is going to go through really tough times but eventually she will learn.