Trying to deal with depression and everyday life!!

Im feeling very lost and messed up too. I can relate to what you are saying. If it wasnt for my kids and my fear of letting them down then i would have been diagnosed with depression by now for sure. I have always avoided going to see any doctor for this and never admit to it. But most the time i feel like i cant do anything right and even if i try it seems like i will fall. I get so down that i sometimes just lock myself in the bathroom tell everyone im taking a bath and i just cry the whole time. I really hate the feeling of this but i dont wanna see anyone for it or go on meds because my husband would use it against me with the kids. I try to do things like write on mylots and do computer work to get my mind off my struggles but somedays it just dont help no matter what i do.

I'd be lying if I said I knew what depression felt like. I've felt dejected, and hopeless, but my nature is a bit - never say die type. So I manage to be up always. I am lucky as well, I get good friends coming into my life right at the time I need them. :) But I do know that people can be rude, hateful, and negative. You have a friend in me is all that I can say. So I will be there for you, not judge you unless asked to, and be supportive as you expect me to be. Would you add me on your list of friends?

yes I know how you are feeling, I think the people around us can either make us feel better or drag us down even more, in todays world it is very hard to put trust in people as dishonesty seems to be an every thing and when you cant put trust in people it puts you in a very lonely place...I think we just have to put a lot more trust in our-selves and our ability to over-come anything and realize that life is short and we have to force our-selves to get out there and be happy...life can be hard but around the corner it can be wonderful..I hope things work out for you, just remember you are not alone and that you are special....

be positive always maybe not all of your friends were lost. Perhaps they are just busy or attending to something important. Anyway you can gain new friends and find kind ones. Yes your hobby of reading and writing poetry is a good outlet so depression won't come in. Forget hatred and forget people or things that would trouble your mind. Telling our problems to others make our minds and hearts lighter, but of course to our trusted people only. This would somehow avode much depression.

I hear you. The only thing that keeps me going more often than not is my family. I just keep my mind on the things I need to do for them and move from one moment to the next. I have also decided to just let myself cry every now and then - easier said than done. I wish you the best - poetry and reading is a good outlet as mentioned above. Just keep going friend, I pray that the light will shine for those of us dealing with this soon.

Hi,Lola God will see you through at times life is like that and it is only God that will not leave you alone so develop your faith in God

Hi, you know, depression is a very "depressing" disease, I can understand you because my Gf some years ago suffered depression. Many people would tell you to go to the doctor or to the psychologist, but since it is proved it doesn't help for many people who suffer depression, I'll give you a very different advice. Do you know Jc? Jc stands for Jesus Christ and I can assure you He is the best doctor and psychologist, and He will make you feel better in a blink of an eye. If we turn ourselves to Him, He will take care of us. I would be very glad to continue this conversation with you, so if you want, just tell me, Jc is the solution.

That case so very not good but remember if you pray to Jehovah GOD in you self to him and ask him to guide your heart then your feeling is minimize and you don't notice your depression would be gone.

Depression is a behavioral disorder. Usually when one loses hope, negative thoughts set in and one tends to divulge on withdrawal from the harsh realities of life. As an excuse, one would not socialize, stay mostly in solitude thinking about nothing and despair, or sometimes be agitated and lash their anguish. Antidepressants or psychotherapy would help, but the best treatment would be within yourself, to help yourself not to think of negative things, not to become subjective and have a more keen rationale on things. Reading, writing, singing, listening to music or even just walking could somehow help ease your mind and have a clearer thought or perspective in life. Fighting depression starts within you, though it would be a struggle, it is simply a matter of faith.. God helps those who help themselves.

Hi Lola! First thing that you need to do is to be positive in life. Don't think that all people you will meet will treat you the same way. There are really people who will hurt you so bad. What hurts more is that if that person was someone you trusted and cared for. I've been in that situation before. To be honest with you I even thought of killing myself at one time. I used to please people around me. All of them. I want everyone to like me. But then, it will not be possible. That I had to accept for me to be able to move on and build a new and positive life. :)

You should start exercising at the gym or somewhere public. Because when you do, you're probably going to get more sunlight, and you can meet new people while working out. Also, it's scientifically proven that when you work out, your body release a hormone that gives you a good feeling. And maybe, you try calling up those old friends, and hang out with them. The best advice is, just to get out of your house and experience(?) the world more, live life to the fullest. :D

Do not stay at home all day long. You can go out for a walk every day or leave the city where you live and travel around. You may be attracted by some other things and forget your problem, then you may feel better. I think you need someone to talk to. If you think people are not reliable, you can feed a pet. a DOG is a good choice. Dog is sensitive. He can feel your depression and try to comfort you in his own way.

when ever i feel depressed i use to watch some funny movies so that we wil get diverted from stuffs we were struggling... your mind will be free then just share your problems with your friends so that you will fell comfortable...dont be idle ...just keep talking with someone asout anything for a while so that you will be diverted and can reduce the stress...enjoy the life

Laughter is best medicine to all disease so as the stress. It will through the pressure in mind and lightens it and feel happy.