Welcome to hell part two

@Loverbear (4918)
United States
February 4, 2010 1:38am CST
I wrote about the situation with my neighbors in "Welcome to hell" (discussions/2243565.aspx?p=1#1_12929666 This is not a link). About the time a person thinks things can't get worse they do. My boyfriend came down and filled me in on what the last call he received from the neighbor who is involved with this mess had to say. Now, instead of the $800 she paid for the machine, she wants several thousand dollars. They also want payment for the stuff they "GAVE" me. The bad mouthing and the problems are continually mounting. The sewing machine I sold them is currently sitting on my sewing cabinet. It was a $2500+ machine that I sold to the lady for $700 because I needed the money. She feels that the "right" thing for me to do is to pay them the whole worth of the machine...which in her book is several thousand dollars. It supposedly was my Mom's machine and since the only Bernina she bought was in 1985 when my Aunt died, the value today would be only about the $800 I am offering to pay her back. Plus, on top of everything they are "law suit" happy and will sue if you fart at the wrong time. I got up this morning wondering why I did, other than I haven't peed the bed since I was four years old. It is pretty $hitty when your only reason for getting up is because you don't want to wet the bed. I hurt from head to foot. My neck is hurting from the stress, my ears are ringing so badly that I can't hear a darned thing. My right shoulder doesn't move at all, I can hardly walk because of the pain in my left leg from the knee transplant and the right side hurts when I walk because of something that I did to my hip. It hurts to eat, and I mean hurts badly, and it hurts just as bad when I don't eat. I have to work for about two hours so that I can breathe. And because of the ringing in my ears it's hard to walk straight. I spend more time bouncing off the walls and I have the bruises to prove it. I know there are people out there that are in far worse shape than I am, but when you have this much pressure along with the constant physical pain, you just can't validate even trying to put one foot in front of the other. I decided that I give up. I don't want to fight an 86 year old lady who hasn't been well for many years. I don't have the strength or desire to pursue the whole thing. I just want to settle things and maybe have life quiet. But I know deep down it isn't going to happen. At this point I just don't care anymore!!!! I want to be with my Mom, I want her to tell me that everything will be okay. I want the pain to quit, I want the tears to stop. I already feel lousy enough that when my boyfriend and I got together his daughter told him she didn't want anything to do with him unless he got rid of me. He finally got to see his daughter after 7 years... with the accusations from the neighbor lady and my boyfriends daughter I wonder why the hell I am on the face of the earth. I have always been the kind of person to stay with a fight through to the end. But there is no end to this one. I was accused of stealing, lying, selling the woman's sewing machine, and then trying to substitute a "cheap piece of crap" for the machine I borrowed. She slapped my boy friend across the face and told him to shut up when he tried to explain...and all because of me. I have been sitting here thinking, and the only answer is to give up. They are getting what they want, my house, my car, the contents, EVERY FU-KING thing, the greedy little bast-ards. I won't need them where I'm going. For the first time in my life I am giving up. I can't take the innuendos, insults, accusations, and the hurt. I considered the woman a second mother...it's like losing my mom twice. I want to be with my mom, and I will work it out to be there soon. The neighbors get to satisfy their needs for greed and MONEY!!! Not only that my boy friend can have his daughter back. I had made the promise to him that I would never come between him and his daughter and that is exactly what happened. Thank you for reading this long winded post that is releasing the pain that I am feeling. There won't be any more of these posts. Thank you for reading about my pain.
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@Orea15 (281)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I can see you are depressed, and for good reason. {{{hugs}}} Don't make any decisions now. Not about the machine, and not about dying. This, too, will pass. You certainly don't owe her more than she paid for the machine. You don't even owe her that. Don't let yourself be manipulated into doing things that harm yourself, financially or otherwise. Step back. This doesn't have to be dealt with immediately. Even if she calls in the police, stay calm, tell them exactly whet happened and your concern about her having a stroke or something that has confused her. NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!!!!!! DROP THAT ATTITUDE!!!!!!!! That is your depression speaking. You don't have the power to have orchestrated this mess. May I send you some healing energy? BTW the Bernina available in 1985 was probably the 930. I had one. It was my first good machine. I bought it in 1983 when my son was 6 weeks old. :-) Some people value it because it was the last to have a rotary action instead of a back and forth one, or vice versa. Anyway, it's supposed to have nicer stitches than the newer ones. It was their last mechanical machine. I happily moved on to the electronic ones when they became available. I don't know what they are worth today, but even as a collector's item I don't see them being worth that much. It would be easy to look up.
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Okay, now that i have your permission, I'll really start sending energy your way. {{{{more hugs}}}}
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I'm so glad you share doctors, she needs to be seen ASAP.
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I talked this over with my husband, and he thinks it would be a really good idea for you to go to the police, and tell them about this situation, so that if she calls, they heard it from you first.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Feb 10
Sweetie I am sorry that I am late in responding but I am packing at the moment and so behind on here This was 3 Days ago and I hope you feel a little bit better As far as I am concerned it is time to take the matter to the Police, sick or not they have no right to do this and demand and accuse The Woman might be sick and 86 and the Husband might be 86 but he is not sick so he will be held responsible Also slapping your Boyfriend she had no right to do and her Husband should have controlled her They need to prove what they are accusing you of and they are in the wrong over the whole matter So please take action and no more talk about going please Sweet I have been down that road myself a few Years ago, but then my Strength came back and I carried on fighting We are all here for you and sending you strength and energy but please Sweet start taking action and please keep us informed Big Hugs to you
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 10
I am so glad to see you write this as you say you are ready for them Stay that way no matter what happens stay strong and when you need to vent you get on here and vent to us Loverbear as that is what Friendship here on mylot is about to be there for one another Keep yourself busy while it is going on, do not let them confront you any more tell them to go away You will have the support from your Friends Hugs to you
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I kind of feel like the character that John Astin played in Night Court many years ago. "I'm much better now". I will go to the sheriff and file a report, but I want their assurance that they won't contact the couple. I don't want the whole situation riled up again. I have to admit the shock of the entire confrontation had me so far in the toilet that I had to look down to look up. The tranquilizers helped and now after taking only two of them... My boyfriend Bill and I have discussed the situation at length and as he said it is just a matter of waiting. I have the cash to pay them back the amount she paid for the machine...but now she is claiming that the machine is worth thousands of dollars...can you spell NO WAY? So, I am waiting for them to get a lawyer and sue. Most people knit, sew, do crossword puzzles or ski for a hobby; these people sue. In the 25 years I have known them they have had at least 15 law suits that they've filed. This time they aren't expecting someone who is ready for them. I got up two days ago and was sooo pissed. I had come out of the shock and was pissed about the crass audacity of these people for pulling this crap. While Bill and I were going to town he said the same thing, he had come out of the shock and was ready for the fight. We won't start it, but we will finish it!!!! Don't be sorry about being late in responding. Each of us has a ton of things we want to accomplish. My next task is to move $5000 worth of teddy bear making books into my new bookcase that I bought at Goodwill on Thursday when we went to town. I got to put it together, which building or creating things is therapy for me. When I was a kid I loved to play with my brother's erector set. He never went near it and I about wore it out playing with it. I still love working with my hands and making things. Anyhow the first thing that went into the bookcase after I finished putting it together was Khuay. He loves the dark hidy place. Anyhow, hopefully the packing is going well...I am trying to eliminate the amount of stuff if I move. I used to be able to move in 5 car loads, but after inheriting my Mom and Dad's estate, my aunts stuff and the stuff my sibling left behind along with my stuff there would be 5 moving vans full! The whole thing is that I am feeling much better now. Between my wonderful friends on the lot, Bill and another friend I am alive and well and ready for the battle ahead. I know I can win because the woman can't describe the Bernina she supposedly bought from me, neither can the husband. She has a canceled check for $700 (she claims she paid $800). And I know that they made a trip to Oregon where their friend happens to own, guess what kind of machine? Yep, you're right a BERNINA!!! Humm, the only other thing I need to find out from the friend is what model bernina. The friend told me that the machine is over 25 years old, so the value on it would be less than the $800 that I offered to pay her back. Hugs to all my wonderful friends on the Lot. And thank you for all the kind words and support.
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@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
4 Feb 10
Oh No! I can't believe it has continued to this extent... I know it sucks and it is nerve wracking and exhausting but you can't give up and let them win! And what about your feline babies- what would become of them? I am so sorry for what you are going through.. I wish I was there- I would go over there and give them a piece of my mind and just let them try and slap me. You should have called the police! That's Assault! Maybe you should sue them! FOr Pain and Suffering! Slander! Don't give up- Get even!
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I'm not one to get even, especially with an 86 year old woman. I just figure that it would work out better for everyone. And there are people that will take all the fur babies and care for them like I do. I just can't handle the pain and suffering and the accusations. I did get even once, it was with a woman who stole money from our home owners association. It's something that I don't publish on a public discussion because I don't know if she is on the Lot or not, and I don't want to stir up more trouble. If you're curious, PM me and I will tell you the story. It is a riot.
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Time to call the doctor and you need a break, NOT from this life but from this situation. You need to file a restraining order on this couple and contact the police about the assault. Satan is working overtime between the two of us. Are you going to let him win? I am NOT and I will do everything to honor God. He put me here and he has the reasons why. I live on his timetable, not my own. He will call you home when he chooses, he knows how much you can bear and you are stronger than you feel right now. Depression and Anxiety are treatable from many fronts. Your boyfriend loves you and from the sound of it, he's a good man. His daughter does NOT get to dictate his choices. If he lets her tell him what to do on dating you, and he goes along with it, then what will be next? You didn't come between them, there is a much bigger problem in that relationship that someone who loves him and adds a special richness to his life. Even if you decided to break things off with him or he with you, that would not fix his relationship with his daughter. You deserve better than this and it will only come to pass if you put it back into God's hands. You need to consider moving, Sell your house and get the heck away from this woman. Why on Earth would you give into someone who is not even in their right mind! I am so sorry and sad that you have lost her to some type of dementia but that is not what the "real" her would have wanted. Remember the good times and let go of the woman that simply looks like her now. As my mother advanced with her alzheimers, she bit me, spit at me, cursed me and pissed on my hands. But that wasn't my real mother, my mother adored me. This was a stranger whose brain was dying and as such was unstable and unpredictable. I grieve still for losing my mother but I remember her as she was. With her lovely smile, red lipstick, baking in the kitchen and fussing over Holiday dinners to make them just right. You need to do the same. Your story has lit a fire in me to take some actions against the hospital, the Joint Commission on Hospital Accredidation needs to have some notice of what I went thru. And as I come forward, I will find the others who have been treated just as badly as me or worse. There is power in numbers you know. I was just about ready to go get something to eat and take a long needed rest. BUT for some odd reason, I decided to recheck my e-mails even tho I thought I'd dealt with them all. And there was your e-mail at the top of the page....GOD wanted me to contact you before I took a rest so let's not let him down. Right now I am more of a fighter than you can be so let me help you fight the good fight! One day at a time is all I ask. I sent a friend note to ya so I hope you see that very soon and know that if nothing else, there is someone here who understands better than most where you are mentally, physically and emotionally. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in the last 3 days. But that's okay because I am getting done what will make it better in the long run. Sorry note was so long but I am a writer by nature and I type very fast. Be well..til later,,,HUGS!!!
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Today, for some reason, I felt a break in the situation. I don't know what is going to happen next, but I do know that I am not going to give up. I got up this morning, groggy from the tranquilizer I took, and realized that if this twit thinks I stole her machine and sold it, then she needs to file a report with the sheriff! It ought to be interesting as she doesn't know what the machine looks like, what the carrying case looks like, what the model of the machine is and its been about 5 years since she even has looked at the machine. I told my boyfriend, who the couple is dealing with, to tell them to file a report with the sheriff. In fact they can file a law suit too. It will be very entertaining. They are sue happy and will sue you if you fart in their car. Yes, with the help of my family at the Lot, not only did I not give in to the temptation to end everything, but I also regained my fighting spirit. I made my offer to the pair and that is as far as it goes. The one stipulation to the offer is that they sign paperwork to the effect that I am purchasing the machine back from the woman for what she paid for the machine, that I didn't steal the machine or sell it to anyone else, and that any charges or lawsuits will not be pursued. (and, I just had a large black cat walk into the house...odd!!! He acts like he owns the place. He's one of my tamed feral cats and he doesn't come in the house-usually- but he walked through bold as brass!) Sorry for the distraction, but it kind of surprised me. Anyhow, my boyfriend has written the husband off as a friend. We both know that the husband will be calling Bill to ride with him, and Bill will inform him that there is no way it's going to happen. Bill also was to help the man take his motorcycle to the shop for repairs, Bill has a trailer that is built so that you can ride or push the cycle onto it with ease. With the situation that these two people have caused, favors like that won't happen. I am thrilled that you are going after the hospital and all the people involved. If you're like me, it isn't for the money as much as it is to get the treatment of people improved. I have a pending suit about levaquin. I took the medication and now my shoulder doesn't work properly. I had xrays before I took the medication and the diagnosis was arthritis, but I know right now that it is more than that diagnosis. I will admit that I would like the money as I could pay off my electric bill and make some badly needed repairs to the house. (No, selling the machine didn't bring in enough money to pay for everything...we made it to Tahiti on the $800 but had to thumb our way back.) But the big issue is that the medication should have been properly labeled in the first place. I have to admit that I am a long winded writer too. I am trying to work on a novel kind of based on my life. I have been working through the first chapter and then other ideas pop into my mind and I am skipping around and weaving the story around the ideas. It's about a lady who is seriously injured in an auto accident and everyone but a retired fireman believe that she lost control of the car and that the car hadn't been tampered with. I used to groan when I had to write papers in high school, but I am having a ball writing this one. If I can get life settled down enough I'll be working on it again. I even received a net book from Bill for Christmas so that I can take the work with me and work on the book when I am away from home. I have a Snoopy pin where he is sitting at a typewriter...it keeps coming to my mind his writing "It was a dark and stormy night". (Okay, that's another oddity. It really is a dark and stormy night...it's raining here in California!) Thank you so much for being there. In the frame of mind I was in last night, one more thing would have driven me over the edge and I wouldn't be writing this tonight. But, with the help I knew that the wonderful family I have gained through the Lot, the tears have dried up, my chin is up again and I am ready to pick up the fight. (Also a trip to the thrift shop outlet helped today. I found a four shelf bookcase that I got to put together...and paid only $5 for it and it was brand new!!! I used to play with my brother's erector set when I was little. It has held me in good stead to this day. But Bill knows that my favorite thing in the whole world is to go to the Goodwill outlet store and dig through the barrels.) I'm getting long winded, but I wanted to let you know that I have gotten past the depression and the pain and am now ready to fight. As I told Bill this morning if the couple doesn't report the "theft" to the sheriff, then I will file the report. It ought to sound awfully odd to the poor guys. One of them is the husband of one of my teachers so he knows that I am a bit different...but what the heck, if they want to get nasty about the machine, fine. I get the feeling though that either the wife found the machine she thought I had or she remembered that she saw it in Oregon. I'm going to crawl off to bed too. It's been a long day and I am going to town again tomorrow...
@vandana7 (100617)
• India
5 Feb 10
Hi loverbear, just dont walk away like that! What has that lady ever given to you that you need to part with your house, car, and contents! Ok - so she is demanding 2000 + dollars. I think she is mistaking you to be somebody else! Perfect case of dementia. And please dont take extreme steps. You are a brave girl. You fought it throughout your childhood, and are going through all those painful moments. Cant you just take it to the court, and get justice instead. After all, if you did right you should not have to back out! May be the other lady who holds your mother's Bernina will be more understanding and accept this machine and surrender that Bernina to you. You can then hand it over to this lady. Try talking to her. Just dont give up! Please. Compared to what you have already suffered, this problem is a whole lot easier to tackle! As to your boyfriend, I am really sorry that his daughter is not accepting you. But she will come around! Hang in loverbear.
@vandana7 (100617)
• India
6 Feb 10
For starters answer two questions. How much would the Bernina cost, and how much would the machine cost if you'd to purchase it? Lets see if we can analyze it like lawyers. :)
@yrezap (9)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
reality sucks that even how much you try to be kind to people they wont treat you the same... my neighbor always insult my mom for that we are nothing but squatters... well. who is the squatter knowing that our family own that land... it is not because they have the money that they can do whatever they want... there is a time for everything and GOD IS NOT SLEEPING....