Married or not?
By humairaku
@humairaku (2038)
Indonesia
February 4, 2010 6:33am CST
some people think that they would be better if they are unmarried and being alone in their life. they have some reason why the don't want to get married such as don't want to have children or they like to be alone with no responsibilities. I'm myself is married. Why? because beside my religion order it's followers to get married, I want to be peace in my life with children and a soul mate. what about you mylotters, which one do you prefer, married or not and why?
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6 responses
@MimiRemo (418)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Hi, humairaku. It's nice when you have someone and your children who will take care of you as you grow older as much as how fulfilling it is to care for them. So I prefer to get married. I would want to get married when I'm financially able to contribute to the life that I would start with my man, and we're emotionally and psychologically ready for it.
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I guess I'd put a lot of things into consideration before committing to marriage.@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
but don't wait too long, unless your man will be 'stolen' by another woman..LOL..have a nice day, sista!
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
mmmm..it's nice hearing this from you, sista! yeah, some of us are afraid that when they are getting older, nobody will take care of the so they decided to get marry to have children. I think nobody won't say 'ready' if somebody ask them whether they are ready to get married or not. what about you? what is your consideration/clue to indicate that you're ready to get married? :))
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
4 Feb 10
This is a good question. I also thought at one point of my life that it is better to be single. It is because I thought that being single gives you a lot of freedom. You can go wherever you want at any time. You can do whatever you want not concerning about what other person will think about you. That freedom tempted me to be single. Also, the problems of my married friends and relatives had an effect on me.
I changed my mind at a later stage and badly wanted to get married. I don't know how that change happened. May be my age made that change in me. Now, I am glad that I took the decision to get married to the guy I found. Now, I realized that marriage is not something that take away your freedom. I can still do whatever I want even being in the place of a responsible wife.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
i can understand what you're thinking, sista! cos I had that anxiety when i decided to get married. but i couldn't walk back so i moved on. and now I can find that getting married isn't bad at all..! LOL..I can share anything with my husband in very cozy situation. moreover, I have someone who is ready anytime I need someone to talk to or just to lay my head on..so, you never regret with your decision of getting married? :))
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
4 Feb 10
After two failed marriages, I think I will stay single for a long while. I don't know which I prefer but there are advantages and disadvantages to both. Married, you are not alone and have someone to help you move the couch. Alone, you can hire the good-looking guy downstairs to move the couch and not feel guilty about it.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
hmmm..two failed marriages? wew..it's kinda a record madam..sorry to hear that. it must be hard for you through all of this. for me, marriage makes me possible to share everything with someone I loved. I have someone to lean on every time I need him. I'm a kinda woman who depends on a man..what a pity, right? :(
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
Well, i prefer to get married. Because i could have kids that makes my life brighter. I had married for ten years. I have three kids that could make me laugh, angry, sad, happy. And because of them too, i have a reason to live my life. To be stronger for them.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
yeah, we both have same idea about getting married. sometimes I think why people work but they don't have someone to spend that money with? if they have a family they will have someone to share with, and money is including..
@vandana7 (100302)
• India
4 Feb 10
Hi humairaku, I am unmarried. It was not exactly a decision that I took, circumstances led me to it. :) Nevertheless, I am ok with my status. When I look at my colleagues offering their daughters to me, I feel may be my decision has been right. If they find their children a burden, then possibly I too would want to pass off my child to somebody! That is very gross in my opinion! Not having enough love for own child, and expecting another woman to love your child like a mother is like saying motherhood is nonsense!
@vandana7 (100302)
• India
5 Feb 10
Tough call! :) Honestly, I have become so set in my ways, I would find it tough to compromise. I dont want to compromise and feel I am compromising! That would mean that the relationship would end sooner or later. Therefore, it might be wiser to steer clear of the relationship! But if it is likely to hurt the other person, then I might as well bend.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
then, every person has their own decision, right? they will choose which way will make them enjoy this life, married or unmarried both have the advantages and the weakness...good luck for your principal, sista..
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
and how about if you find a guy you really loved (and you're sure that he is a right guy for you to marry with) and then he asks you to marry him, will you deny him? LOL..
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
4 Feb 10
hmm..sure you're right. frankly I really don't understand why people deny to get married. maybe they are afraid of commitment or something, right? what about you, do you have friends or relatives who don't get married? and do you know why?
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