How do i know, that she is interested in me??

...Hi gunagohan, Well as I understand, with my limited knowledge, if it is an arranged marriage, and it is allowed with your first cousin, which she is, then there does not seem to be much you have to say about it. If I were you though, I would concentrate on my studies, graduate and then let the other situation play itself out. Your parents seem to feel that the two of you will make a good match. So it is something that will take place some time in the future. My question would be, if when you two meet and talk, if you don't like each other, what happens then, do you marry no matter what? Take care and good luck with all of it.

The question is...are you interested in her? If you are interested on her,then,you should some ways to know if she is interested in you. But since arranged marriage is in your culture and tradition,this is hard to both of you. Even if any of you(you and her)doesn't want to marry each other,i don't think both party will agree. That is why it is arranged...no one is going to be asked if he or she is interested. Yet...the parents will arranged the marriage...wether you or she like it or not. I just wish you all the luck and happiness then my friend

well, she would be your cousin right? I'm not sure if this is okay in your country because here we normally won't go for someone who was blood related...well, at least me. anyway for the arranged marriage part, its honestly your decision. but i would approach your parents just to let them know that you're not stupid and you already know. then you just need to meet with her, and let it flow from there. if you feel there is a connection then go forward with it. if not then just explain that to everyone and be on your way. i think now days, people should decide who they want to be with themselves and not let others make the choice.

Maybe you should first ask yourself that if you are interested in her.In my opinion that love is a mutual stuff.So if you have good feeling about that girl,you can try dating with her and knowing more about her.After that,you can decide what kind if decision you will make.By the way,go smoothly^_^

First, if she is your mother's brother's daughter, then she would be your cousin. Is it common to marry cousins in your country? Second, why is your family so unwilling to talk with you about this issue, especially if the rest of the family knows and is planning on there being a wedding? Third, are arranged marriages still common where you are? I thought that practice was not very common any more, even in India. I have heard others from India saying that they were able to choose their own spouses, but maybe they are the exception and not the rule.

Hi gunagohan, first thing is your studies. :) You are much too young. :) I have known of people changing their minds once they know the boy is not really studying! So concentrate on that. I presume your social custom permits such relationships. As to the girl knowing or not knowing, girls always know more than the guys about what is going on in the family as they spend more time at home than outside. :) If it was distasteful to her, she would have intimated it to her parents by now. :) I think that answers your question. :)

If I understand you correctly, your parents want to get you and your cousin together? In the USA it's not common for first cousins to be married, second cousins etc possibly, but not very common for first cousins. If you don't get a chance to talk with your cousin, then you may not know how she really feels about you until it's too late... I'd say that I'd talk to her and start to date her. I suppose this is an arranged marriage, I'm not sure how those work.

You're still studying right...then you should finish your study first before meeting her. If your parents think that it's best that you should finish your studies first then follow it. Because they know whats best for you. Anyways the girl will always be there waiting for you because you are his future husband.

easy dude.Finish college,,and run away .Spend some time practising yoga on the himalayas and come back.Trust me...it works.

Arranged marriage is no longer popular in China now, but it was. I am still hoping that my family arranged marriage for me but they didn't. I am really bad at this. Haha! By the way, I am 24 years old. I am old than you and graduated from college less than 2 years and still single. In my opinion, we should choose spouse by ourselves because we don't know weather we are getting well or not. It's our life. We should decide thing for ourselves.

Your tradition is different from my cultures since in my place it is forbidden to marry a first cousin. In your case it is a parental marriage or arrange marriage. You could only know if she is interested in you unless you ask her or engage in conversation. anyway you could get a hint from those closer relatives whom she always spoken with or even to her friends if she talks about you and what she think of you. But the best things to do if you like her very much is to ask her and engage in conversation so both of you learn each other.

if you are ok with others deciding for you then, its ok i guess, you can meet the girl talk to her know her. but if you want to choose who you want to be with (which seems to be more likely) you need to have an open talk about this with your parents. I would definitely not want my parents to poke their nose into this issue of mine. i dont feel great when i get the feeling that my future is all planned be someone else.i would like to have it made by myself. good luck to you :) i hope you get what you wish.

Hallo...It is really hard to convince me that in this modern society, this kind of marridge still happened. And now is going to happen to you. Do you have any girlfriend presently? If you dont have , then no harm try to approach your cousin, see whether she is suitable for you, to become your wife. Just be friend I dont think will be difficult because you know each other for so long , I think you have a topic to talk about. If you still feel uneasy, maybe ask your sister to join when you go out with your cousin. Only to get closer to know her , then you'll know whether she is the one. Otherwise you should make clear to both sides family that you are not made for each other.Dont waste each other time!!! Happy mylotting, hope my suggestion will help!!!

The most important thing here is, are you ready to marry that girl? whatever your parents might think. It is the question of your life. If you do not have any problem marrying that girl, then go to your mom and tell her clearly. You should also ask that girl whether she is ready for marriage. If she is not interested and her parents are forcing her to marry with you, then this is not right. Better you ask clearly to that girl, after all it the question of your boths life.

Gunagohan! THis is not the time to worry about this.Do not let these thoughts distract you[I know that in this age youngsters would get distracted on account of this and stray thoughts would enter their heads.Now, if you belong to the community that goes in for arranged marriages and where your families have a strict conditioned upbringing for their children, then just wait.Your mother obviously wants you to study well so that you can settle down comfortably in a job.Concentrate on your college an d education and soon things will fall into place.If at all that uncle decides to give his daughter in marriage to you, they will still ask for your consent later.At that point of time, you can talk to the girl or ask for time to get used to her and check your compatibility.Since this is all within family elders may not object.THe girl or you will be given the choice to reject or accept the elders' decision.YOu can think about this later.