Friends with benefits...fact or fiction?
By tomcat23
@tomcat23 (622)
Old Forge, Pennsylvania
February 4, 2010 1:52pm CST
I hear alot about "friends with benefits" and married women looking for "discreet partners", but I don't know anyone who is into that kind of thing. Do you really think it exists? Would you ever consider having a casual "friend with benefits" relationship?
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@missytia (387)
• Australia
5 Feb 10
"Friends with benefits" relationships really do exist. I was in this sort of relationship for almost a year when I separated from my husband. I didn't want to be in another relationship but still wanted the "benefits", so this type of relationship suited me fine at the time. I just made sure that my friend and I knew exactly where we stood with each other so neither of us would get hurt.
As for women or men looking for "discreet partners"...I don't agree with this at all if these people are in a relationship. If they're in a relationship, they're looking for "discreet" because they do not want their partner knowing. Which in my opinion, is not OK.
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@shaunckennedy (55)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I was in a "friends with benefits" relationship for three years. It was a lot of fun. Her and I would even talk about my dates with other girls.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
4 Feb 10
they do exist now and of course the most popular thing now is 'hooking up' where people sleep with random strangers. as long as there are people willing to do it, there will always be friends with benefits. but the problem with that is that it tends to change. one party then wants more then brakes it off. i think the fwb will always hurt someone. and of course married people looking for other partners, well thats called adultery and of course is morally wrong and of course can cause divorce. but with any of those relationships someone is bound to get hurt.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
fact...
but i'm keeping silent lest i incriminate myself.
lol!
@shadow41 (2351)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Of course it exist. I can assure you it existed over a long period of time already. Anyway I don't think I'll indulge myself into this type of relationship. Anything we do has consequences and I'm sure if we do a bad thing there's a high probability that the consequence of it will also be bad and I don't want to gamble. 
shadow41
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@Allie_xoxo (1063)
• Canada
4 Feb 10
Oh it exists all right but that doesn't make it healthy or okay by anybody's standards. Sites like Ashley Madison actually promote this kind of betrayal on their website which offers married people the chance to have discreet affairs. Their motto is life is short have an affair.....UGH!
@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
7 Feb 10
I checked out the Ashley Madison site and of course it's free to some extent, but here's the thing that gets me... Why would a woman looking for a discreet relationship post a picture of herself? How discreet is that? How real is it? To be honest, I think its all a game to make money and the women aren't really looking to have a discreet relationship at all. Of course, that's just my opinion.
Friends with benefits may indeed exist, but finding one at a "dating" site seems highly unlikely. It seems a social network is a more likely place to find a connection that could lead to such a friendship. Healthy or not, it seems to be a bit safer when you know and respect the other person, but at the same time I guess it could be awkward, that's why I wondered if it really exists.
@healthbeauty (483)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Friends with benefits exist... I know a lot of my friends do that and I really want hen to stop because there are situations that one gets in love the other and it only cause everyone hurt and I don't want to come to a point that my friends are hurting one another. And that is a sin from God. You are doing those kind of things with a man/woman you don't love.
