What is worst a guy cheating or a girl cheating? what do you think?
By laura_lmaxi
@laura_lmaxi (678)
United States
February 4, 2010 6:44pm CST
First of all think if any person cheats it is equally bad, it shows a lack of commitment, moral values and consideration to the other person, but I have seen many people that they penalize more the women that cheats, and consider normal that the guy cheats, they think the woman is unmoral and they guy is just a guy, so that is what he has to do. I think this is a double standard, and I would love to think what everybody thinks, I personally thinks that cheating is wrong, no matter who does it.
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20 responses
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
5 Feb 10
Both are worst. A girl should not cheat and also a boy should not cheat. In a relationship trust is very big fact. We should remember if we do any thing wrong with any other person then the same things could be happened with us only. So don't ever think to cheat with anyone.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Feb 10
Sure a guy is a player, but the woman is a wh*re. I think it's a double standard. One is as bad as the other.
Though as for the reasons people cheat, they are many. Could be there's something wrong with the relationship, could be there's something wrong with the person. There's no telling unless you find out the details...
@majure112581 (57)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Yes its more on to details, why a guy or a girl cheats. Or maybe there's behind reasons. We can't judge the person as it is. Maybe its not intentionally or just happens. Well, its the usual problem on that. But others happen to be like that, based on what they experience in life or how they deal with it. Its the person itself. Nobody's perfect.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
5 Feb 10
i think it is wrong to cheat whether you are a guy or a girl. it breaks the relationship and you can no longer trust the other person. if the person wants to cheat, then leave the relationship. you shouldn't do this in any relationship
@tarapot (144)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Both, because they are taking advantage the one they love. The unfortunate people who just know how to love are taken for granted. It is not on the gender. The fact that the person cheats, he/she has a psychological incapacity. :D That's why, do not cheat.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
cheating is bad, and it has no gender. it violates the greatest virtue and is immoral to do so. when you put a gender bias on this aberration, it is rather unfair. a sin is a sin, no matter who commits it... and i may add, how....
@jake_quatro04 (66)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Cheating has always been affiliated with men. Men cheat to show how macho they are and its okay to men even if they're called WOMANIZER and think that they have lost no respect. When women cheat because they found their men cheating on them, they're tagged with two degrading terms: one that starts with letter 'B' and the other starts with a 'W'. It seems that there's an unfair treatment between the guy and the girl. But no matter what reasons they have, as everybody have always said, cheating is morally wrong, a disrespect to your partner.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
5 Feb 10
i agree with your comment.whatever boy and girl cheat.it is not moral behaviour and can hurt someone.i often see this thing from my friends.so i dont like this behaviour.especially what they do let my friends put into the suffering and not easy recover heart's harm.so whatever boy and girl do like that.i hope that they should care about their poeple's position and think about the result of their behaviour.
@Mrwilliams (10)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Male is worst in this scenario because we usually feel as though its not as bad as the partner is making it out to be. Females have a better understanding on feelings and will feel bad for their actions while men struggle with being sad or happy. This isn't always the case but it occurs more in men than women
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
5 Feb 10
Either guy or girl, both are as bad. I don't think their gender should be put on a balancing scale for who is better or who is worse. Can we consider that a guy is better than a girl for cheating because he is better in hiding? Or can we consider a girl better than a guy for cheating because she is better in crying? Okay, I know it might not make sense but what I meant is, it doesn't give any gender any special rights to proclaim that a he or a she is better because the "crime" they commit is the same.
@luvlymee26 (326)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 10
I think we can't generalize which one is worst, in that case. A cheating guy and a cheating girl, both are bad. And to know which one is worst, it depends on the personality and the things that that guy or that girl do. And i think there is always a reason why people cheat their partner. Maybe they are bored, or maybe they enjoy cheating their partner, i don't know. But betraying our partner is a bad thing. Don't try that at home :D
@ipcarpio (19)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
for me it depends on who loves the most.. if a guy loved the girl so well then its the girl cheating who is worst. anybody are cheated sometimes. but it has a great impact if a girl did that. because people's mentality is a girl should be reserved and endure the relationship,.. and thats what i think either
@arlene51621 (211)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
hello,
i am a girl... but i say it is worst if a girl is the one cheating because now a days truly it just normal to a guy who cheats because they always says nothing to loose with them and girl have isn't? we all know it is immoral especially when they are married...
@prashant_pandey02 (40)
• India
5 Feb 10
I couldnt agree more. This is a male shauvnist society full of hypocrites and though we talk so much about men and women being equal our attitude changes as soon as this sort of topiccomes up.
And for those who think so just one question or rather an answer thats the respect have earned for themselves..we men can cheat and evreybody finds it normal.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
5 Feb 10
It is equally bad but somehow when a girl or a woman cheats, she gets twice the humiliation. Maybe it's because people have become accustomed to the belief that men are Polygamous in nature so cheating is nothing really new. IN fact people will always advise the girlfriend or wife to give him a second chance.
But when a girl or woman cheats, she's as good as an outcast. Now why is that? I mean, it would be too inappropriate to involve gender-fairness in issues like these but I guess anyone who cheats, boy or girl, both do not deserve immediate judgment. They need to be understood.
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
A man cheating is equally as bad as a woman cheating. I think it is wrong to say it is normal when a guy does it. It is possible to stay faithful to a man/woman all it takes is to decide to be commited to the relationship.
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Exactly, you're right. For me, there is nothing worst between a guy cheating and a girl cheating for it's only one issue. Cheating is the act of discontentment on one's partner or even for one's self. Cheating hurts another person; it doesn't matter about the gender at all. Whether a guy cheated or a girl cheated, it's the same mistake. That's why I always feel sad about how other people think that it's worst for a woman to cheat rather than of a man. Isn't it unfair judgment?
@abitcurious (1422)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
cheating is cheating no matter who does it. Sure we'd probably empathize more with a man for being cheated. But that's just us living in our own pool of machismo. There are still countries out there that advocate stoning women in public if they get caught cheating.