is it love?

you mean visually impaired or blind, liannejc? you know, physical disabilities are oftentimes the very sources of a person's insecurities. probably, womanizing is your bother's way of compensating for his insecurities. womanizing is a man's way of showing conquest and domination... every step along the way in this aberration is a wrong way to build self-esteem. there are better ways, though, like standing out as an educator, but, obviously, your brother enjoys doing the amoral approach... if you care, talk to him and bring the good out... for inspiration, you read good stories at my site on http://pinoygnews.multiply.com/

Are you saying he has a 12 year old as a Girlfriend thats a jail sentence in my Country.

what do you mean he is visually disable? he is blind? why the wife still able to accept when she knows that her husband is womaniser and betray her?

Well no relationship will work if only one is working on it worst if both of them doesn't know how to give in and admit their mistakes... Its the kids who are always affected and suffering... Marriage counselling would help but it must start with them. Without their admittance that there is something wrong with them and BOTH of them has added something or broght them to where they are now, no change will happen. It must start with them, they must have the heart to change. And best of all --- they must have THE LOVE for each other in oreder to work things out. Sadly, what you can do is very limited. All you can do is to just talk to them, particularly your brother... try to influence him and open his eyes about the consequences of his actions. Tell him that you are not taking any sides, you just want the best for your nieces. You are just concern. Both of them contributed something-- no one is to be blamed...

hi! i guess the problem is between the two of them. they must seek help from narriage counselot, if they really love their daugther. because she is the most affected person here. the wife must stop nagging your pareants especially when they do not have nothing to do with their differences. they must fixed their differences by themselves. it is nothing to do with self esteem. i think your brother has a problem with her wife. because no husband will take advantage over a loving wife. he will be guilty eventually especially if you see your wife lovng you, taking care of you all the time.

It is very sad to hear those kind of family situations, my heart goes to all of them. Your brother has obviously a self-esteem problem, every guy that is so womanizer has self esteem problem, they seek constantly approval for everybody else, in this case the women outside, and at the end he is just scare of being left and then no one would pay attention to him, and he is making sure that it doesn't happen, what he doesn't realize that in the process he is hurting his daughter and his wife, they need marriage counseling with desperation. But you can not do anything for them they have to want it, they have to understand that they have a problem that they have to solve together.

I am so sorry to hear that.. Well, it's pretty upsetting to know that your brother is doing nasty things inspite the fact that he is visually disabled. you know, womanizing is indeed wrong.. i guess the best way to do for now is to let them solve their own dilemma.. if nothing happens, let your parents talk to the couple and suggest them to visit a marriage counselor.. and yes, always be there for your niece.. don't let her get affected with the problems going on between her mom and dad...

i find that this problem really make you worry.espeically for children's growing.i think that it have left scar in child's heart.what you do is right to deal with their relationship.at the same time it is hard road to let them live like before.sometimes one of them only see their'suffering and dont notice their problem and want to deal with it.but it seems leave more suffering for others.not only for himself.so your brother accept mental cure and let this family recover quite like before.

It's the fact that they are too proud too admit that they have problems that makes her live with him that way. As long as they don't get honest to each other and face the problem by means of communicating. It's the wifes right to get angry with his husband when he does stupid things. If no one talks or open the up the problem then it will never be solved, EVER!

Yap it is love, you don't success in every thing you make if you don't love your work but it is better if you arrange in every thing how to nag.

i think your parents will play a big rule in this situation,let your parents talk to them & patch their problem because it is not good for thier kid to see them always not in good terms, they are not good influence to their kid. You know kids are like an empty recorder all the things around them are easily stored in their memory.

Thats a disguting situation and a terrible one for 12 yr child. I dont think you can do too much into the situation your brothier and sister-in-law are, just show them and make them realise how their actions would affect their child. May your brother would then grow up and act responsibly.

if you ask weather it's a love? It may be true, but only those who can feel and understand what they feel. Sometimes we only see things from our point of view alone, without involving how the views of others about him an his relationship.

Hi! I guess its easy to analyze the situation. If your brother is still womanizing, then this tells us one simple thing, he is not satisfied. This also answers your question, is it love? Perhaps not. Perhaps anyone of us here knows that love is unconditional. If you love someone, satisfaction must be always there. A simple smile from your love one can turn you upside down. So, basically, its not love. And definitely, he is not satisfied.

The only one that can help their problem is themselves. Let them handle their problem on their own, it is the best way. If they can't do it then I am sure they will somehow ask for help from you or your family member.

It is not nice to be a womanizer... and more seriously, not good to ignore the problem. Some people just don't have enough sense of family value. Really not much idea as to how to correct, because if he has been womanizing for decades, then really hard to correct. One thing I think important is: At least try to openly discuss everything between the couple, and communicate their own worries and thinkings. They can discuss how to continue with their family. In oriental culture, parents idea can be influential, but maybe not in western countries. Good luck to them.