Is't okay to find a partner thru internet?
By lldeguzman
@lldeguzman (58)
Philippines
8 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
But can you be sure that the person you are conversing with is really him or just pretending to be who he wants to be. In the net world I could become a saintly person but in real life I may be a crook. That is the risk you might encounter in here. It is not enough you see and converse with him. Sometimes there are things that you cannot see unless you actually meet and see the guy. Sometimes you may even fall for it online but when you finally meet the guy it is the complete opposite of who he really was on the net.
These are just a few of the risk you have to be aware of. But I am not totally against it for as long as you know how to deal with this kind of situation.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Right from my first post till my second post I always said to be aware of the risks that could happen and I am not discouraging anyone if they really want to find someone on the net.
I have known several cases that went bad on doing so on the net. But then I also know stories that tells the opposite of it. That is why for those that are contemplating to do it I am just warning them that if in real life these are happening so it can happen online.
@Amigone (43)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I disaggree with the aurgument that on the interent you can't see who you are really talking to. I mean it seems that people are hung up on the person on the other side faking it. Well, people lying doesn't happen any more often on the internet than it does in "real life". You can meet some guy on the street and hit it off and then find out that he wasn't who he said he was just as easily as that could happen online.
It doesn't matter if it's face to face or in real life. Jerks are jerks and there aren't automatically more of them on computers.
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@gusto84 (237)
• Italy
5 Feb 10
I think that the internet is one of the last place that i would go to look for a parner (unless if we talk about a partner just for a night or kupple of days) as people there usually look for an adventure and not always the person on the other end is the one that claims to by ...
@lldeguzman (58)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
wow! lol...yeah, so even virtual...but do you have any experiences having relationship on the internet?
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I would never do it. Finding someone on line scares me! I have know 3 women who have found someone on line. One is my sister. After her divorce (she was married 25 years) she found her boyfriend on line. They have been together for 7 years now. They say they will marry but when is anyone's guess! The other two women who found love on line both ended up in divorce! One of the women then goes and finds another guy on line!Now she is engaged! I think she is nuts but lots of other people who find someone on line are! It isn't for everyone.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 10
Internet is the last option..there are some success stories, like my old friend met her hubby online and now they live in the States. sometimes we can`t predict. Terrible thing happened to me and ironically, the person actually is not a new person to me! He is my ex neighbor, but we never played when we were kids. then i moved to my new house in 1993, and i accidentally met him in 1998 and i was almost mistaken him for someone else. Then, we had never met until March 2009 from FB.. I forgot a little bit what he looks like, then we decided to meet. We had nostalgy about our childhood, then we had a feeling and we planned to get married until......everything is revealed! he was once a married man, but divorce. His ex wife is a single mom with 3 kids.I knew the fact from one of our ex neighbor and at first my ex didn`t want to tell the truth bout it. It made my parents shock, humiliated and sad as well and i decided to end our relationship. He lied to me about his previous marriage.
I think i am in the same position with you..how to detect whether the person is honest or not while he/she lives in different countries?
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Well I think it's okay to find a partner through internet. However you have to consider a lot of advantages and disadvatages if you want to get into that kind of relationship. Things will be complicated and each of you must be honest with each other. Both of you must be ready for all the possible things that might happen in your relationship.
@lldeguzman (58)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
So, that's why I ask this question so that I may know some experiences about it.
@scififan43 (2434)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I think it is just fine to met your partnet thur the intenet. I have met my gf thur the net. we have be seeing eacth other for 8 months and our relationship is just great. I had also met a previous gf thur the net, but things did not work out between us. the frist gf live very far away form me I only got to see her once a year. my currnet gf lives away from me but I am able to see her more frequently. I would say the advatages are you are able to met persons you would not otherwise be able to met if you do not use the net. disavantages are you have to becareful of the person you are involed with, they person may not have honable intentions.
@peace001 (726)
• China
5 Feb 10
hi
maybe i am a so traditional person that i cannot accept it.but right now lots young men or women who are mature enough to get marriage take less time to find their partner by taking party or some meetings.maybe it becomes popular to find a partner online.