do you think im just freaking out?

Hi Ambitiouslyleiah, Well, I can understand why you would feel hurt. He did not seem concerned about your well-being. It's good that you were able to talk to him about your feelings with him. I also think that you sound really stressed about your wedding and getting everything ready on time. Between that and being sick, it could be that you are being more sensitive than you normally would be.

I think you need to have a longer engagement. You are discovering things about his character that are disappointing and that is only now when the wedding date is approaching. I am sure there are people out there who like me ,discovered character traits in their partner that were kept suppressed during their engagement but were carelessly revealed as every day occurrences, once the wedding was a done deal. Don't want to put you off but if you are not sure, you need longer to decide and I agree you need him to know why .

Hi, Ambitiouslyleiah. Well, in a way you are not freaking out that much. You fiance needs to show you more concern than he does. You need to see that he caress and loves you. You need to feel that. I can understand that you want a man that treats you like his queen. Have a talk to him about the things that he is doing and how it is making you feel. If he continues to act like he does not care, then give him the boot. But you must decide when enough is enough. I hope that he acts like the man that you need him to be very soon before you both actually tie the knot.

If you are having any doubts about getting married then don't. I really don't think you're freaking out at all, what he did was very thoughtless and it hurt your feelings. When something like that happens it really opens your eyes and makes you wonder how you're going to be treated for the rest of your life. If you don't like what you're seeing now then you shouldn't commit to it for the rest of your life. Push your date back, work some things out together and then when you're ready you will know.

Freaking out, maybe a little but you probably needed to freak out on him. He needs to understand that you needed him there for you and he was slacking in his responsibility. If he has apologized and you can accept it then it is time to move on and start worrying about the wedding. If you don't have the date and time set in stone due to churches, invitations, etc then move it around so that you can both work on getting the planning done.

I think your reactions are just normal. Your boyfriend's behavoir is not normal though. If someone is in pain, her/his companion should take her/him in the hospital no matter what the relationship of the two person be, that is the normal reaction should be. Why did he care less and showed less concern if he cares about you that much? Sometimes when we love a person that much we are blinded with their short comings. If you can tolerate his attitude then you can go and marry him. But if the way he treats you make you sad and give you pain then you need to think twice and reflect on your relationship.

ambitiouslyleiah yes I think you should delay the marriage, and maybe rethink the whole thing because if he is this callous before the marriage with you horribly in pain with a kidny stone, thats just the top degree of pain, he waits and stops for a black and mild whatever that is, then hes just not all that much in love with you. a man who is in real love would be really worried sick about you. why if this had happened to me before I got married the man I married would have been with me and stayed with me while we got me medical help. no I think you may love this fellow a lot more than he does you. if he could stop to get that whatever, then his love is not very strong. So he is sorry now, I get the feeling that he doesnt want to get married at all. From my standpoint you need a man who really does love you first,not himself, and would be worried sick if you got really ill. I compare what my hubby would have done, and no your man is sort of lukewarm there. maybe he just is not ready for marriage or mayhbe his love is not as deep as yours. I would postpone the wedding for a long time, maybe forever. I have a feeling the guy is having second thoughts.

Your fiance does not care for you. He is not the right person for you. Think again if you are already married, he will do it again.

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