What do men mean exactly?
By sofear
@sofear (42)
February 5, 2010 3:49pm CST
Hey mylotters.I would like to hear from male mylotters especialy but females can feel free to answer too.When your man says to you that he is not ready to have a baby or have a serious relationship or even get married,does he mean he is generaly not ready,for real,or does it mean that he just doesn't want those things with you.I believe that if a man/woman likes his/her partner then he will be ready.I think that a man saying he is not ready basically tells the woman that he is not that into you.So,guys,what are your opinions on this issue?
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
6 Feb 10
Means he likes you but there could be someone better out there. How old is he? That matters. If he's young then maybe he wants to enjoy his youth. If he's like 35 then he probably won't ever be ready.
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@sofear (42)
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6 Feb 10
He is 34 yrs old.It's very confusing because men say that to one woman then after their relationship ends and he meets someone else then all of a sudden he is getting married to her and having babies.So,I think they just mean that you[the one they cannot commit to]is not good enough for them.
@damalimcpherson (251)
• Jamaica
6 Feb 10
i think they say that they prefer to play around more than settle down with one individual. Sometimes they even say that because they are in other relationships and they the person or persons are pregnant with their child so if they settle down with you they know that problems may arises.
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
6 Feb 10
the answer to this question is for you to ask your man what he actually means when he says i'm not ready to have a baby, serious relationship, get married. you have to ask them is it just the way it is now, or do we have a future together that we will be working on together. you will then know how he really feels and loves you.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I think generally men are rather honest when it comes to things like that. If he didn't like you he wouldn't bother keeping you in his life. If he wants to be with you, but says he's not ready for marriage and family, then he probably means that he'll eventually be ready to make that commitment, just not right now.
Remember a lot of guys can be afraid of commiting like that. Maybe he just isn't ready to give up his freedom and independence, and views marriage and family as tying him down. It is a lot of responsiblity to get married and have kids, and guys do not mature as fast as women do.
So maybe he just needs some more time.
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@divineathena (1746)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Well, it happened with me only once. The man told he was not ready "currently", but at the same time he did not want me to leave him because he thought once he got ready he would ask me for a relationship. Those were his words and he said he did that with every girl he had in the past. Later when I analyzed his personality I realized the guy was having quick crushes on women. So he thought he would not be hundred percent loyal to me. But my viewpoint in relationship was different and that is why, I chose to leave him.
But in another case which happened with my friend, the guy said it because he saw her emotionally unstable and thus wanted to get rid of her. So it was basically an excuse he gave her so she would leave him.
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@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Must be that he is willing to have a child only that it is too early for him. Other reasons exist but they are objectionable reasons that better not told especially that most women were used to arguing whatever point their man makes.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 10
hi sofear as a female I think if a man says he is not ready for a baby, or a serious relationship or getting married, he is wishwashing his way out of not having to say, I am really not into you after all, and must let you go. I wou ld only hurt you
so you deserve someone who really does love you. No this cowardly weasel is too much of a coward to just tell her the truth. The truth is I do not want a baby with you, the truth is, I have fallen out of love with you, the truth is I do not want to marry you. These weasly guys cannot b e men enough to tell the honest truth.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbdown.gif)
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@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 10
Usually i'll say, generally, and generally, in your discussion, there are alot of things that needed to be calculated in discussion. I mean, as a man, before getting into a relationship, or committing to something, i would consider a lot of factor. for instance, before i getting a baby, i would think, estimate, my expenses, my income, as well as the time i would spend before and after getting a baby. I wouldn't want to get a baby, without providing the best. I would like to earn more before getting a baby. Its more of a planning before you make the final decision. Sometimes there are a lot of things a man usually take into consideration before committing themselves. I would agree, that sometimes men tends to take time too long. LOL
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
For me not because they don't like that matter they want time table to come in to there life.
@myzire72 (1154)
• Singapore
6 Feb 10
When we men say that we are not ready, it's usually just that. We are not ready because we don't have the means or resources right now to get committed. For example, a man could be trying hard to earn and save money for a grand wedding, but since he hasn't reached his target savings, he is really not ready for marriage yet. Another man could be working very hard for a promotion, and he is putting all his energy and time into his career. As such, he really cannot afford to divert his attention onto some other things, like having a baby. Give men some time. Eventually the day will come.
@rapuzal (25)
• China
6 Feb 10
I think it depends on the man's personality. Some Guys, like my friend's BF, just means he is not ready. He told my friend he can not get married or have a baby after serious consideration, because he cant afford a fimily both financially and psychologically.FAMILY mean too much. So i told my friend your guy is actually rather serious with marriage, and it is warth waiting for him to get ready.
@lay826 (56)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
Men changes gradually. They may be so good when they courting you, so sweet when you're a couple already and may have the attitude to be bachelor for awhile especially when your relationship is getting too serious. You just need to wait for him to face you...especially what you want in your relationship. You cannot force him to anything especially if he's really not interested or not ready yet. Time will come and time will tell. If you feel that he's too overly expired and still not changing or ready, give him the ultimatum that you think may or might threat him. If it still does not work, pray and be patient still....it'll still depends on you; how you can still manage him...or just let go to end all of this and move on...
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